In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?
Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.
If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.
|Publisher:||New Harbinger Publications|
|Product dimensions:||5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)|
About the Author
Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature (EI) parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be, and writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine. In the past, she has served as adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology at the College of William and Mary, as well as at Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, VA.
Table of Contents
Part I What You've Been Up Against Dealing With Emotional Immaturity
1 Your Emotionally Immature Parent 9
What It's Like to Be Involved with Them and How They Got to Be That Way
2 Understanding Emotionally Immature Parents 25
Their Personality Traits and Emotional Takeovers
3 Longing for a Relationship with Your EI Parent 45
Why You Keep Trying
4 How to Resist Emotional Takeovers 65
Recognize Others' Distortions and Don't Disconnect from Yourself
5 Skills to Manage Interactions and Evade Coercions 83
Actions That Empower You
6 EI Parents Are Hostile Toward Your Inner World 101
How to Defend Your Right to Your Innermost Experiences
Part II Emotional Autonomy Reclaiming The Freedom To Be Yourself
7 Nurturing Your Relationship with Yourself 121
How to Trust Your Inner World
8 The Art of Mental Clearing 139
Making Room for Your Own Mind
9 Updating Your Self-Concept 157
How to Correct Distortions and Enhance Self-Confidence
10 Now You Can Have the Relationship You've Always Wanted 177
Just Focus on One Interaction at a Time
Epilogue: Bill of Rights for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents 197
Gibson resides in Virginia Beach, VA.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Thanks to netgalley for providing me with an e-arc of this book in exchange for an honest review While I don't have any personal experience with this topic, I can see how a book like this is needed. I've witnessed parent/child relationships like this over the years and I want to buy a copy for all my friends for them to read and get this great advice.