Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik
Loving openly and freely in this day and age, whether you are straight or queer, is a political act. Put together your own vision of an ideal relationship, re-sculpt your own belief system, redefine the potential of a friendship, imagine a thousand ways to make love to yourself and to anyone you care about. Radicalize your relationship by imagining your wildest ideal partnership together. Avoid stagnancy by challenging your old familiar routine and re-inventing new levels of commitment. Face your true desires in life by asking yourself what you really want from all your connections.
Make no mistake, Redefining Our Relationships is not about the pros and cons of monogamy versus non-monogamy. This is a daring and provocative how-to guide book on radically defined relationships and alternative lifestyles. Wendy-O Matik writes about what she has lived and experienced: open relationships. She believes that open relationships reduce the hazards that accompany unhealthy co-dependency. Open relationships challenge us to confront our jealousy and possessiveness. Committing to a relationship not mapped out by our parents or society or Hollywood means tearing down the very foundation of status quo and conformity. It means redefining and rebuilding your own version of an alternative relationship based on your needs and your values.
Redefining Our Relationships has taken the free-thinking community by storm. Praise for this book has come from all walks of life. "Wendy-O Matik delivers a meditation and a manifesto on the alternatives to monogamy. She shows people who feel hemmed in by exclusive partnering the route to healthy and responsible openness," writes Professor Mike Hout, Department of Sociology, UC Berkeley. "Wendy-O tackles a touchy topic with clarity and creativity. She is wise beyond her years. This guide teaches you how you can have it all. I gave the jealousy tips to my lover immediately," states Annie Sprinkle, Post-porn Star turned Certified Sexologist. "Wendy-O Matik's how-to guide for the emotional roadblocks and liberatory possibilities of polyamory reads like a punk rock Ann Landers channeling Emma Goldman and Victoria Woodhull." Hakim Bey, author of The Temporary Autonomous Zone, Ontological Anarchism, Poetic Terrorism (Autonomedia Press).