Renovate Your Relationships: A Proven Guide to Setting Boundaries and Building Bridges with Those Who Matter Most

Renovate Your Relationships: A Proven Guide to Setting Boundaries and Building Bridges with Those Who Matter Most

by Scott Vaudrey MD, MA


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What do you do when a relationship goes off course?

Whether it’s with a manipulative boss, a critical neighbor, or a controlling spouse, a challenging relationship can leave you feeling worn down, confused, and helpless. How do you narrow the gap between where things are and where you want them to be? How do you decide whether to lean in with understanding or set more healthy boundaries?

In Renovate Your Relationships, Scott Vaudrey gives you the tools you need to bring healing and new life to even your most difficult relationships. With real-life stories and practical ideas, Scott explores how to

  • diagnose destructive patterns in specific relationships,
  • avoid over-acceptance of others or over-protection of yourself, and
  • foster new and healthy relational patterns with the most important people in your life.

Using groundbreaking practical tools, Scott unearths the root causes of relational breakdowns and gives you the confidence you need to move into life-giving patterns of loving others—and yourself—well.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781400213351
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 08/06/2019
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 1,232,449
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

In his roles as an ER doctor, pastor, and consultant, Scott Vaudrey has helped thousands of people improve their relationships at work and at home. Today Scott is an executive coach, speaker, and trainer who lives with his wife, September, in southern California near their grown kids and their grandkids. For more information about Scott, see

Table of Contents

A Message for the Reader xi

Part I The Problem of Life

1 Problem 3

2 Solution 11

3 Accepting: When Bridge Building Is the Ideal Strategy 29

4 Protecting: When Boundary Setting Is the Ideal Strategy 51

Part II Finding Clarity

5 Don't Make Things Worse 81

6 What Do I Really Want? 101

7 Reality: What's Really Going On? 115

Part III Protecting: How to Set a Boundary

8 Before the Conversation 153

9 During the Conversation 173

10 After the Conversation 189

Part IV From Start to Finish

11 Case Study: Brad and Tony 201

12 Conclusion 245

Acknowledgments 249

Notes 251

About the Author 253

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