Finally, a parenting book which demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma and explains what the research means for the everyday life of parents of children who hurt.
As experts on adoption and fostering who are adoptive parents themselves, Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon explain how this knowledge can help parents to better understand and care for their child. They explain why conventional parenting techniques are often not helpful for the child who has experienced early trauma and explore why therapeuticreparentingis the only way to help repair the unhealthy neurobiological and behavioural patterns which affect the child's development. They do not shy away from how difficult reparenting is, acknowledging how hard it can be to recognise our own fallibility as parents and to change our own parenting patterns. The authors also offer hard-won advice on a range of common parenting flashpoints - from defusing arguments and aggression to negotiating bedtimes and breaks in routine, and making sure that special occasions are remembered for all the right reasons.
Reparenting the Child Who Hurtsis a humane, no-nonsense survival guide for any parent caring for a child with developmental trauma or attachment difficulties, and will also provide information and insights for social workers, teachers, counsellors and other professionals involved in supporting adoptive and foster families.
|Publisher:||Kingsley, Jessica Publishers|
|Product dimensions:||5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)|
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Table of Contents
Foreword Gregory C. Keck 7
Part 1 Stepping Forward: Exploring the Foundations
Chapter 1 Knitting Your Kid! Patterns of Knitting and Nurturing Attachments 17
Chapter 2 Fitting the Pieces Together 55
Part 2 What Can We Do?
Chapter 3 Key Concepts 74
Chapter 4 Information: The Need to Know - Understanding Our Children's Past to Understand their Present 91
Chapter 5 Laying the Foundations: Co-regulation for Self-regulation 99
Chapter 6 Rocking and Rolling: Creating Physical and Emotional Balance 117
Chapter 7 Seeing Eye to Eye 126
Chapter 8 Object Permanence and Object Constancy 140
Chapter 9 Talking, Telling, Timing 151
Chapter 10 Loose Connections 167
Chapter 11 The Child Within the Child 179
Chapter 12 Taking, Borrowing and Difficulties with the Truth 192
Chapter 13 Making Changes, Managing Changes 204
Chapter 14 Special Occasions 213
Chapter 15 Handling Holidays 222
Chapter 16 Juggling Siblings 234
Chapter 17 Taking Care of Ourselves 245
Chapter 18 Getting Help 251
Appendix 1 Posters to Print 259
Appendix 2 Check in and Check out Outline 264
Selection of Useful Books for Children 278
Essential Resources 280