Reparenting the Child Who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments

Reparenting the Child Who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments


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Reparenting the Child Who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments by Christine Gordon, Caroline Archer

Finally, a parenting book which demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma and explains what the research means for the everyday life of parents of children who hurt.

As experts on adoption and fostering who are adoptive parents themselves, Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon explain how this knowledge can help parents to better understand and care for their child. They explain why conventional parenting techniques are often not helpful for the child who has experienced early trauma and explore why therapeuticreparentingis the only way to help repair the unhealthy neurobiological and behavioural patterns which affect the child's development. They do not shy away from how difficult reparenting is, acknowledging how hard it can be to recognise our own fallibility as parents and to change our own parenting patterns. The authors also offer hard-won advice on a range of common parenting flashpoints - from defusing arguments and aggression to negotiating bedtimes and breaks in routine, and making sure that special occasions are remembered for all the right reasons.

Reparenting the Child Who Hurtsis a humane, no-nonsense survival guide for any parent caring for a child with developmental trauma or attachment difficulties, and will also provide information and insights for social workers, teachers, counsellors and other professionals involved in supporting adoptive and foster families.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781849052634
Publisher: Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
Publication date: 12/15/2012
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 378,498
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Caroline Archeris an adoptive parent, an independent consultant in post-adoption support and a therapeutic parent mentor. She is also the bestselling author of First Steps in Parenting a Child who Hurts: Tiddlers and Toddlers 2nd Edition, Next Steps in Parenting a Child who Hurts: Tykes and Teens, and co-author (with Christine Gordon) of New Families, Old Scripts: A Guide to the Language of Trauma and Attachment in Adoptive Families. Christine Gordonis an adoptive parent with many years' experience of working with adoptive and foster families. She was a co-founder of Family Futures Consortium, London. Alongside her 'hands on' supportive role to parents, she is active in training and promoting the professional role of parent mentor as an integral part of the therapeutic team.

Table of Contents

Foreword Gregory C. Keck 7

Part 1 Stepping Forward: Exploring the Foundations

Introduction 10

Chapter 1 Knitting Your Kid! Patterns of Knitting and Nurturing Attachments 17

Chapter 2 Fitting the Pieces Together 55

Part 2 What Can We Do?

Introduction 66

Chapter 3 Key Concepts 74

Chapter 4 Information: The Need to Know - Understanding Our Children's Past to Understand their Present 91

Chapter 5 Laying the Foundations: Co-regulation for Self-regulation 99

Chapter 6 Rocking and Rolling: Creating Physical and Emotional Balance 117

Chapter 7 Seeing Eye to Eye 126

Chapter 8 Object Permanence and Object Constancy 140

Chapter 9 Talking, Telling, Timing 151

Chapter 10 Loose Connections 167

Chapter 11 The Child Within the Child 179

Chapter 12 Taking, Borrowing and Difficulties with the Truth 192

Chapter 13 Making Changes, Managing Changes 204

Chapter 14 Special Occasions 213

Chapter 15 Handling Holidays 222

Chapter 16 Juggling Siblings 234

Chapter 17 Taking Care of Ourselves 245

Chapter 18 Getting Help 251

Appendix 1 Posters to Print 259

Appendix 2 Check in and Check out Outline 264

Glossary 270

References 274

Selection of Useful Books for Children 278

Essential Resources 280

Index 285

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