Family caregivers are oftentimes ruthlessly challenged by uninvolved family members who are quick to condemn, but reticent to offer assistance. Such is the case for Colleen Strand, a widow who recently found her own footing who takes on the task of caring for her father, Patrick Quinn, recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.
Her older brother, Jonathan, criticizes Colleen at every turn and verbally abuses the father when he has the gall to exhibit symptoms of his disease. In short, Jonathan travels down the road of denial, leaving Colleen to deal with all matters regarding their father’s care.
Connected tenuously to a father who barely remembers her and a brother who has become an enigma, Colleen faces the moving target that is Alzheimer’s disease, determined to clothe her father with the dignity he deserves, while capturing the far too fleeting moments of time with him.
|Publisher:||Black Rose Writing|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.48(d)|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Irene Frances Olson writes believable fiction. Her characters are kind, funny and endearing -- even in their flaws. When Colleen takes over her father Patrick's caregiving because of his advancing memory issues, the reader can't help but be moved by the tender relationship between them. The effervescent Colleen finds herself in a challenging life situation -- pulled between her father's condition, her working life, her brother's disdain for her father's illness and her own desire for companionship. Having experienced the devastation that Alzheimer's can bring to a family, it was both heartbreaking and a joy to follow Colleen's path. Yes, there was loss, but the author helps us see the beauty and courage in facing the inevitable challenges of aging and how it's possible to do it with grace and love.
Requiem for the Status Quo is, first of all, a compelling and engrossing story, from first page to last. It is also an honest, transparent, informative and in-depth look at the disease of Alzheimer’s. And importantly, Requiem provides us with a very compassionate and believable portrayal of the challenging journey of being a caregiver to a loved one with dementia. Personally, Requiem re-connected me to my own experiences as caregiver for my wife, who passed away from early-onset dementia. The challenges and pain the story’s characters experience around an Alzheimer’s diagnosis were familiar. Finally, the author was not at all afraid to bring to the surface, and normalize, the humor – the wonderfully silly stuff! – which I most certainly experienced in my caregiver role, and which can be common, and a welcome gift, along the caregiver journey.
This is such a beautiful, heartfelt, and touching book and story. The author shares so clearly and bravely the trials of dealing with all of the decisions that have to be made in every stage of dementia or Alzheimer's for each phase your loved one is going through. The unknowns of what your loved one is going through is heartbreaking to watch, but she shows that love can trump these unknowns with laughter, humor and the help of family and friends. No one expects this disease to touch their families, but it does inflict itself onto her father. The love that she shares with her dad, her sister, and eventually her brother who has been in denial shows us that the needs of someone with Alzheimer's disease can be met with dignity and care. I highly recommend this book for anyone who has dealt with this disease, for anyone who is dealing with it right now, or for anyone who might have to deal with it in the future.