Have you reached a respectable level of business and financial success but feel a nagging sense that you're still not good enough to sustain it? Do you appear self-assured to the world but secretly feel plagued by self-doubt? Have you hit ceilings that you can't break through?
Welcome to the club. This book is for people like you: high achievers who want to feel better about what they've already accomplished while being empowered to accomplish even more.
You're an ambitious, results-driven, no-excuses bottom-liner. You've climbed over or pushed your way through monumental barriers to get where you are. You accept nothing but the best in yourself and in others. You've earned your success. So why do you still feel insecure?
In striving to get to the next level, you studied the lives of other high achievers; you read all the cutting-edge business books in search of the next breakthrough strategy. But the answers and the reassurance you seek lie much closer to home; they lie within yourself.
This book teaches you how to access your inner resources consistently and powerfully. As you do so, you will learn how to expand your inner capacity to think and see clearly, maintain positive and optimistic thoughts, make wise decisions, and feel calm, peaceful, and confident regardless of what is happening in your external world.
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REVERSING THE SENSES
INCREASING YOUR INTERNAL CAPACITY TO LEAD AND ACHIEVE
By MARTIN HUBBARD, STEPHEN PALMER
River Grove BooksCopyright © 2014 Martin Hubbard
All rights reserved.
WHAT IS "INTERNAL CAPACITY"?
"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us." —Henry David Thoreau
Michael was an energetic seven-year-old. Looking for a way to help him manage his energy, his parents enrolled him in swimming classes. Two years later, his parents divorced. While in the sixth grade, he was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Swimming became his world, his outlet, his source of peace and confidence.
At age eleven, after achieving a record for his age group, Michael met Bob, a swimming coach who pushed him further and helped him fine-tune his technique. More age group records followed as Michael rapidly improved. Under Bob's training, he qualified for the 2000 Summer Olympics at the age of fifteen, becoming the youngest male to make a U.S. Olympic swim team in sixty-eight years. On March 30, 2001, Michael broke the world record in the 200-meter butterfly swim to become, at fifteen years and nine months, the youngest man to ever set a swimming world record.
Bob kept pushing Michael even harder. They trained for six hours a day, six days a week, without fail. During peak training, Michael swam a minimum of 80,000 meters per week—nearly fifty miles. He lifted weights three days a week. To fuel his intense routine, he consumed twelve thousand calories a day.
All that hard work paid off in the 2012 Olympics, where Michael Phelps won four gold and two silver medals, bringing his total to twenty-two Olympic medals, including eighteen gold medals (which is double the number for the second-highest record holders) and making him the most decorated Olympian of all time.
What was Michael's secret? Obviously, his hard work and dedication cannot be overstated, and without them he never would have succeeded. And his hard work over the years resulted in a remarkable physical trait: his lung capacity is a staggering twelve liters—double the average of a typical adult male. His unrivaled lung capacity helped him to swim longer, faster, harder, and to achieve with almost superhuman ability.
What I call your "internal capacity" can have a similar effect on your life. It can propel you to levels of success and achievement that previously have been beyond your reach. Developing your internal capacity transforms your hard work into more effective and efficient work that enables you to break through limitations. It gives you more internal peace and confidence so you make better decisions and influence people more effectively.
Your internal capacity is your ability to manage and leverage your inner world of thoughts and emotions and to reverse your senses when need be. It is your conscious ability to quiet your mind and create internal harmony—the peace you feel inside yourself when you have no conflict regarding who you are. A person with high internal capacity can maintain positive, optimistic, fearless, and courageous thoughts in the face of challenges and setbacks. He has the ability to understand, reason with, and control emotions. He has the instinctive ability to handle complex and difficult situations.
In short, internal capacity is your ability to think and see clearly, maintain positive and optimistic thoughts, make wise decisions, and feel calm, peaceful, and confident regardless of what is happening in your external world.
Developing your internal capacity starts when one stops asking the question, "What should I do?" and instead asks, "How should I think and be?" The rubber hits the road when you stop looking for answers outside yourself and begin looking for answers inside yourself.
High achievers pride themselves in their drive and work ethic—in fact, that's typically what they attribute their success to. They are constantly looking for that next breakthrough business strategy or marketing technique. They network with other high achievers, all in an effort to figure out what they should do, what actions they should take to get to the next level. But hard work and external strategies can only take you so far.
Suppose you wanted to achieve Richard Branson's level of wealth, success, and achievement. Further suppose you were granted the opportunity to shadow him for a year. You could watch everything he did in his daily routine. You could study his business decisions. But if you were to go home and simply try to copy his actions, you would never match his success. It wouldn't be enough to do what he does. Ultimately, you'd have to learn to think as he thinks, feel what he feels, and see what he sees in his internal world. His success—like that of all ultra-achievers—has less to do with what goes on in boardrooms and more to do with what goes on between his ears. (In fact, I detail a few key components of what goes on between his ears in chapter five.)
All ultra-achievers have incredible internal capacity, which has been forged in the fires of adversity. They have chosen to look inside themselves for answers instead of just mimicking the actions of other achievers. They are masterful decision makers because of the internal peace and clarity they experience.
Hard work, natural intelligence, and drive have taken you a long way in your life. Yet if you're like most high achievers, you still feel burdened by limitations, frustrated by complexity. Although people looking on the outside would say you're a great decision maker and confident leader, you know otherwise. You struggle with insecurities. You worry that you're not making the right decisions.
The answers you seek are not in the next book about business strategy. They are not found by copying someone else's actions. They are not found by working longer and harder. To get to the next level, you must stop working so hard and instead learn to process your thoughts and emotions more effectively. Your external results are a direct reflection of your internal capacity. The more you develop your internal capacity, the easier it will become to conquer limitations, the fewer mistakes you will make, the faster your business will grow.
Many times we don't see the ceiling until the roof starts to cave in. Such is the case for many of my clients. One in particular exemplifies this situation, and his story is worth highlighting. I started working with Jim just before the near-collapse of his business. During the couple of years prior to this point, his business had been booming. He was preparing to sell it and cash in on the years of hard work he had devoted to creating the financial security he had always dreamed of.
Unfortunately, during the process of the sale the market turned and the deal fell through. To make matters worse, he was so focused on trying to make the business look better on paper that he neglected the day-to-day management and failed to adjust for the downturn. By the time he realized he wouldn't be able to sell the business at that time, it was deep in the red and not prepared to adequately operate given the new market conditions.
When Jim got to me, his thinking was confused, he was filled with fear and anxiety, and he was uncertain how he would ultimately navigate this situation. For Jim, as for many, the focus was so much on the external that he had very little internal resources to adequately manage the complexity of his deteriorating external world. Once we're in this state it is nearly impossible to think clearly and objectively because there is so much attached to what is happening around us. Our emotions play havoc with our mind and it seems like we are going insane.
Thankfully, Jim found a happy ending by learning to shift his focus from external events to internal capacity. He was able to see how, for his entire life, he had been relying on external rewards to produce an elusive sense of happiness and satisfaction. With that realization, the flood gates opened for a new way of operating based on developing internal capacity and allowing the results to follow.
The turning point for Jim came when he realized that his method of thinking, though it had gotten him far in life, was rooted in faulty beliefs. His emotions were continually reinforcing a distortion relative to sustainable success. Jim's faulty beliefs were anchored in the notion that only the strong survive and that wealth equaled strength. The story in his mind was that if you failed, you were weak. He also craved external approval and recognition because he equated them with love. This survival mentality affected everything he did in life at a subconscious level. Yes, it created his drive for success. But it did so in a way that was unhealthy and ultimately unsustainable. It created the difficult emotions that accompany the ebbs and flows of life and ultimately distorted his judgment relative to success.
The breakthrough moment of "seeing the red coat" is only the beginning. But it is critical to making any meaningful headway toward life correction, whether small or large in magnitude. Once this is achieved the real work begins. Jim experienced that moment of clarity and was then motivated to reverse his senses—to use his thoughts to overcome his destructive subconscious emotions—and to develop his internal capacity.
One of the primary techniques I guided Jim to use was mindfulness meditation, which is simply sitting quietly and learning to still your mind, become the observer of your thoughts and emotions, and gain greater awareness of your motivations and fears. I discuss the process and benefits of meditation in greater detail in chapter four.
I also helped Jim become aware of how his emotions would distort his thoughts. His most compelling emotion was anger, which came from his deeply rooted subconscious beliefs. When he felt threatened, he would get angry, and his thoughts would turn to being critical of others and wanting to control or degrade them to win and survive. With his newfound awareness, he realized he no longer needed to be held captive by anger, fear, worry, or other negative emotions.
Furthermore, Jim learned how to leverage the power of autosuggestion, through the repetition of positive mantras and belief statements, to rewrite the internal scripts that were holding him back. When he caught himself in negative self-talk, he would repeat in his mind the mantra "I am whole, strong, clear, and powerful. I am compassionate, loving, and harmonious." I detail how you can use autosuggestion in chapter six.
Through this process, he was not only able to save his business but also to direct his energy to more satisfying pursuits, both personally and professionally.
You, too, can develop your internal capacity as Jim did, by embracing, applying, and practicing the five principles of the Core Process.CHAPTER 2
CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #1
YOUR THOUGHTS DETERMINE YOUR ULTIMATE RESULTS
"The thought manifests as the word, the word manifests as the deed, the deed develops into habit, and habit hardens in character ... As we think, so we become." —Buddha
IF YOU HAD TOLD ME "YOUR THOUGHTS DETERMINE your ultimate results" when I was in college, I would have said you were crazy. I would have retorted that my actions create my results, that it doesn't matter what I think, only what I do.
It wasn't until I went through rehab that I started to connect the dots—namely, my internal fears and insecurities were resulting in my drinking habit. How I was inside was determining how I acted, which in turn dictated my results in the outside world. Presented with positive information during rehab, I learned to change my way of thinking to take a positive path in life in direct opposition to the negative one I had been on. The new insight and correction in my way of thinking was profound and struck at the core of my very being—even if I would need to understand this lesson at a deeper level later on. As a result of learning to change my thoughts, I was also able to change my actions. As my actions began to change, the world around me opened up and a new realm of possibilities presented themselves. I developed a more positive outlook and in turn made better decisions.
Simply put, our lives are shaped by our minds. What we think deep inside, where no one is looking, is who we are and who we will continue to be unless we learn to alter these thoughts. And who we are dictates what we can achieve, and how successful we can become.
This simple truth is certainly not a revelation made to me alone. It has been discussed for centuries. Leaders of major religions and philosophical schools have returned to this idea time and time again in their teachings.
What we think, how we think, and what we choose to nurture in our minds—and subsequently in our hearts—define who we are at a fundamental level. As such, you are the maker of your own fate. The life you lead is dictated by the thoughts you choose to encourage. I do not mean passing thoughts; I mean the kind of thoughts that penetrate the core of your being and shape your character. The thoughts that dictate what you love, hate, cherish, and admire. The thoughts that shape your unique perception of the world. The thoughts you nurture and justify.
Our harvest at the end of our lives is a direct result of the seeds—the thoughts and subsequent actions—that we have sown throughout our lives.
William James, the first educator to offer a psychology course in the United States, which occurred in the late 1800s, was likewise one of the first pioneers to teach the power of thought. As he put it, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind."
James Allen, a contemporary scholar of William James, best articulated this truth in his book As a Man Thinketh. He explained, "You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you."
Ralph Waldo Emerson, founder in the early 1800s of the Transcendentalist movement, added, "Great men are those who see that thoughts rule the world."
Then Charles F. Haanel, a successful businessman and contributor to the "New Thought Movement," came along and confirmed in his 1912 book, The Master Key System, "Conditions, environment, and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual, or predominant, mental attitude ... Therefore, the secret of all power, all achievement, and all possession depends upon our method of thinking."
Napoleon Hill, one of the earliest authors in the personal success genre, who later built on the shoulders of these first pioneers, taught in his book Think and Grow Rich (published in 1937) that "Our brains become magnetized with the dominating thoughts which we hold in our minds, and by means with which no man is familiar, these 'magnets' attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life which harmonize with the nature of our dominating thoughts."
Norman Vincent Peale published The Power of Positive Thinking in 1952, explaining that he developed the notion of positive thinking as a child. He says he had "the worst inferiority complex of all" and began to develop a method of positive thinking and positive philosophy in order to help himself. He then came to accept this truth, which he elegantly encapsulated as, "Change your thoughts and you change your world."
Albert Einstein, the consummate scientist, agreed with them all when he said, "The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking."
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Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION: THE PARADOX OF "HIGH ACHIEVER SYNDROME", 1,
CHAPTER 1: WHAT IS "INTERNAL CAPACITY?", 19,
CHAPTER 2: CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #1 Your Thoughts Determine Your Ultimate Results, 31,
CHAPTER 3: CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #2 Your Emotions Influence Your Thoughts, and Vice Versa, 59,
CHAPTER 4: CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #3 Most Thoughts and Emotions Are Subconscious: Awareness Is the First Step of Change, 81,
CHAPTER 5: CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #4 True Success Is Internal Harmony, 103,
CHAPTER 6: CORE PROCESS PRINCIPLE #5 Managing Your Thoughts and Emotions Increases Your Internal Capacity to Lead and Achieve, 131,
CHAPTER 7: OVERVIEW OF THE CORE PROCESS, 163,
CONCLUSION: BREAK THROUGH YOUR CEILINGS BY FOCUSING ON THE RIGHT THINGS, 185,
ABOUT THE AUTHOR, 197,