After I heard the tragic news that one of my day care families had lost their little eight-year-old girl, I thought that their world was over. She was the most energetic, sweet, loving big sister anyone could ask for. I had the pleasure of working with this family for a year while I worked in a kinder program. Ever since that day, I knew there was really nothing anyone could do to make their pain go away. I thought and I thought, “How can I help children understand that this does happen, we can’t stop it, and we don’t know if it will happen to our family?” When children think of losing someone, they think of grandmas and grandpas, when they get really old, or family pets that go up to doggy heaven. But the reality is that death can happen at any time to anyone of us. The family had started a garden in their backyard. Family and friends contributed to planting, adding decor, gathering there for special events and sharing memories. It is beautiful.
I lost my grandma when I was very young. Soon after that, it was my mom’s and dad’s aunts and uncles who would pass away. Another funeral here, two more there. By the time I had reached the age of twenty, I am sure that I have been to more funerals than I could count on my fingers and toes. Then when Dad passed, it really hit home.
Do children really understand this when it happens? We teach them that the loved ones that we lost are angels looking over us and making sure we make it through our days, in which it is okay to cry over them. And although we cannot see them anymore, they are watching over us. It helps, but for how long?
This book is not long. It’s not precise to every little detail about our tragic events. It’s short, it’s sweet, it’s sad, and it’s real. Death is real no matter how old a person is. It’s real.
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By Amy Dawn Belcourt
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My sister woke up one day, she couldn't go to school, and she couldn't play. We all stayed home and had a cozy day together. That is What we usually did with mommy when we felt under the weather.
Sarah smiled, and she laughed at me, she giggled at our baby Brother Jeffrey. All day we watched movies, we cuddled with mom and Dad, we sat together on the couch then Sarah's headache started to Get very bad.
We got out the blankets and snuggled next to mom, my big sisters Breath was slow and soon gone. We had to go to the hospital, we wanted her to open her eyes. No one would expect that my sister would Die. I asked mommy what happened. She did not even understand. When will Sarah come back? I wanted my big sister, my Best friend.
Was this real? Was it a dream?
Family gathered around us, and friends from everywhere to give us all Hugs as Sarah leaving us was not at all fair. I got to see my Aunties, Uncles, Cousins, Grandma and Grandpa! We had a Funeral to say our goodbyes. I see mommy and daddy with tears all the time. I know it hurts their hearts as it also hurts mine. Why did this happen? Sarah was not sick the day before she left us?
My sister had a brain Aneurysm; I don't really know what that is. It Happened so very fast. It is not fair, she was only a kid.
I felt very angry, very sad. ... Everyone tells me that it is hard on our feelings when somebody we love dies. They are gone but never forgotten. That everyday will hurt, but it does get easier.
We have lots of pictures and belongings of Sarah's that we look at every day.
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