Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect, and Communicate with Your Baby

Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect, and Communicate with Your Baby

by Tracy Hogg, Melinda Blau
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Guest More than 1 year ago
There is a lot to like about this book (even though constantly being called 'luv' did get old by about page 3)... in many parts there *is* very good advice. Tracy Hogg claims a middle-of-the-road approach to parenting a newborn and I agree with many of her ideas. She does not advocate letting babies cry and communicates overall the belief that parents should respect their babies as the tiny people they are. Overall, there is a lot of comforting stuff in here.

But I have issues with some of her specific advice. First, I find that she's judgmental about attachment parenting in general. I'm no die-hard attachment parent, but I'm no rigid-scheduler either and I totally disagree with her belief that demand feeding, cosleeping and the like teaches a baby bad habits or does not effectively meet their needs. She presumes that if AP doesn't work for some, then it will not work for all and is therefore not even worth trying because you'll end up with a baby with bad habits to break down the road. My experiences with flexibility vs. scheduled routine have been quite different. Gentle transitions from three completely attached newborns to independent individuals without parent-imposed schedules (it's been much more symbiotic than the method Hogg proposes) have worked quite well in our household. While my style may not be right for everyone, it certainly *can* work, something that Hogg fails to recognize. (She believes the 'family bed gives parents short-shrift' without acknowledging that it actually *works* for many.)

Then there is the breastfeeding advice. I am disappointed to see someone who calls herself a lactation consultant try to make such a strong case for formula feeding over breastfeeding. As a mom who has both bottlefed and breastfed (and is still breastfeeding), I agree with Hogg that guilt or judgment has NO place in this decision, but I also feel that she has done a great disservice to moms and babies by understating some very important advantages and benefits of breastfeeding. She explains that 'one can make a good case for either formula-feeding or breastfeeding.' Unfortunately, she never does get around to making the case for breastfeeding.

In this same section, entitled 'Making the Choice,' Hogg has a sidebar on Feeding Fashions. In this small box, where I presume she's trying to show that while breastfeeding is currently 'all the rage,' the tide may turn out of its favor in later years as has happened in the past. (It's not clear here whether she's saying therefore don't choose breastfeeding just because it's a modern day 'fad' or that if you decide to formula feed against popular opinion, know that 25 years from now it will probably be 'the thing to do' just like it was 25 years ago? I don't get it.) She also says here, 'As this book is being written, scientists are experimenting with the notion of genetically altering cows to produce human breast milk [yuk]. If that happens, perhaps in the future everyone will tout cow's milk. In fact, a 1999 article in the Journal of Nutrition suggests 'that it may ultimately be possible to design formulas better able to meet the needs of individual infants than the milk available from the mother's breast.''

Okay, that is fascinating information, but how should it impact any mother's decision *today*? Feed your baby formula now because in the future it might actually be the best choice!? (A statement in itself which is worthy of an opposing dissertation - there are more advantages to breastfeeding than the mere composition of the fluid.)

Later, in the breastfeeding section, she specifically discourages demand feeding - advice which is direct opposition to breastfeeding recommendations endorsed by the majority of professional lactation consultants and the American Academy of Pediatrics. Hogg has a schedule all charted out for new parents, beginning with day one, which becomes increasing less flexible over a three day period, until you're stuck on that

Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As a new and young father, I am very curious about who my baby is and what I am supposed to do to help her. This book was a wonderful read. I appreciate that the author's programs are rooted in fertile reasoning. While this book (along with most parenting books) was written to a maternal audience, as a father, I found the content very informative and effective. I plan on reading the author's other books as a result.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great book for new Moms. I do recommend you read it before your baby comes. I also think that a hard copy would be better than the nook version. I have the nook version and it seems to be missing part of the graphs. The advice is great though. It made me feel alot better about the job I am doing.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Once you get over the rather patronizing tone of the writing (being called 'ducky' and 'luv' every other page is a little tiresome), there are some gems of insight here, however, I found the EASY method to be completely off.

According to this, your child should Eat, have some Activity, then Sleep, (then it's time for You). However, according to this schedule, your baby's cycle is to sleep, then eat, meaning that the baby is always going to wake up hungry, and you're likely to miss the telltale signs of hunger before the baby cries unless you're standing over the crib watching the baby sleep all the time.

Also, you're putting the baby to sleep on a less-than-full stomach, which doesn't make a lot of sense, considering this is your baby's natural biorhythym, particulary if you're breastfeeding, since the baby will have just received a sleep-inducing dose of oxytocin.

She uses the western cultural model to support this cycle, where adults do not have a rest period after eating, however, in most parts of the world, including southern europe, it is still common to have a nap or significant rest period after lunch, the largest meal of the day.

Also, if you will be sending your child to preschool, keep in mind that most centers follow a model of having naptime right after lunch, so you may be setting your infant up for a pattern of eating and sleeping that will be in conflict with a childcare/preschool setting.

In general, I think this book has a lot to offer, but I would advise parents to investigate other philosophies/methods before adopting all of the advise offered here.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A fantastic book, a must for all mothers. Great advice on sleep, lactation, crying etc. Authors are not anti-breast feeding at all. No where in the book is that implied. They do empasize that bottle feeding moms should not be ashamed.
Guest More than 1 year ago
How can a woman who claims to be a lactation consultant be so AGAINST breastfeeding. She comes across as arrogant and judgemental towards those of us who choose to breastfeed rather than formula feed. As a physician, I would highly discourage readers in following this author's advice which is mainly geared for 'hollywood' celebrities...not the general public. As a mother, I think her literary advice is 'hoggwash'.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Enjoyed reading this book, so many insights and helpful to relate to our bundle of joy. Respect and listening then responding are key points. Have had no luck finding the cassettes or CD recommended, A Child's Gift of Lullabies. Are they available in the northwest.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Good book with lots of good information. I recommend the book to new moms. But if you're looking for help solving sleep problems, I suggest 'Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child'.
Guest More than 1 year ago
OK, OK, there, I said it. I hated nursing. My son was miserable and starving all of the time and would only fall asleep while nursing. So he was tired all of the time too. And so was I. Tracy Hogg's book was the only one out there which didn't make me feel like a horrible parent for switching him to formula at 3 weeks old. The last thing a new mother needs is more guilt. Reading Dr Sears' book, which told me I should breastfeed my son until he goes to college, have him sleep in my bed until he asks for his own (uh, hello, I know of NO child who 'asks' for his own bed) and carrying my 25 lb son around in a sling until he is old enough to walk did nothing but make me feel like the decisions I had made were wrong. I bottle fed my son and he sleeps in his own crib. I have a very happy little boy and I am loving being a mom. And it was Tracy Hogg's book that helped along the way. This is a must read!
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One of the best baby books I've read! Helped me better understand my baby.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have read this book a few times and have used Tracy's methods with all four of my children. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 4 months old. Her method of eating, playing, and sleeping is fantastic. My oldest has always done this and continued in pre-school and kindergarten with the same method that both a private and public school use in my area. I did not read this book for lactation advice or to decide between nursing and bottle feeding. I used an actual lactation consultant or on-line advice from the la leche league especially since this book was published in 2002- much has changed from then even. I took this book as a guideline to help my children get on a schedule, sleep through the night and allow for me time. The silent night feeding she suggests is great- it has allowed me to get 4 hours of solid sleep which has been super valuable to me. I think the key is that this is a guideline and she has experience which has worked for many families. Every child is different and being flexible is also key, but I have learned that following her tips has been great for all my children.
LucyBH More than 1 year ago
Very sound and wise advise for some of very complicated issues. My issue was sleeping and it gave step by step instructions of how to get child accustomed to his room and his bed.
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NewMom2010 More than 1 year ago
I found that this book had some relavent pieces of parenting advice (such as creating a log to track your baby's various activities) but overall the advice felt somewhat rigid. I tried to maintain an open and objective outlook throughout my reading of the book but kept getting the sense that the author was promoting too much of a structured routine for my taste and sometimes came across as a bit overbearing. For me, the book "Happiest Baby on the Block" by Harvey Karp was much more relavent.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My husband and I used this book like a reference for the first 6 months after my son was born. Thank God for The Baby Whisperer!! It was hard at first to stick to the routine but we are now so glad we did. Our son is so happy and easygoing ad a great sleeper! This is a MUST READ and we give it to all our friends that are expecting
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Fantastic book! You will never panic, worry or feel lost if you STUDY this book. It has very easy to follow 'and working!' guidance on breastfeeding, formula, sleep, bathing, and all. God bless your soul, Tracy! You were a gift to all of us!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this one first b/c the local bookstore only carried this one vs the lastest version 'the 2005 version contains more info'. I highly recommend both Baby Whisper books, all the techniques work!! From sleeping in their own bed, a simple eating schedule, to sleeping thru the night. You will return again and again to this book as your baby grows.
Guest More than 1 year ago
We received this as a gift when my first child was 6 weeks old - he was not sleeping in his bed, I was spending the night sitting up in a chair while he fell asleep on me since as soon as I put him in bed he would start screaming and never took a nap in his bed. It took about 2 weeks to completely 'reprogram' him, but after that he slept every nap in his crib and went to sleep like an angel at night. At 2 he loves his bed and now often asks to take a nap or go to bed when he's tired. We started using the EASY technique with our second child right away and it has made a world of difference - I've been sleeping in my own bed since I came home from the hospital and baby is thriving. I cannot recommend enough for a caring way to give your child - and yourself - some independence. I just ignored the breast feeding information (with the exception of feeding every 3 hours on EASY) and breastfeed however long my daughter wanted, and pumped after most feedings to increase production (and get a good stockpile for when I return to work). We give this book to every expecting parent we are friends with and always keep a copy in the house to give to poor parents we meet who are having sleepless nights and feeling completely out of control. if you follow her 'rules' it really does work. It's the best investment you will ever make.