From Rob Bell, the author of the phenomenal New York Times bestseller Love Wins and a Christian pastor named by Time Magazine as one of the most influential people in 2011, comes Sex God, an enlightening exploration of sexuality and spirituality. With profound beauty and insight, Bell addresses the truism that we can’t talk about ourselves as sexual beings without asking who made us that way. For progressive Christians and readers who enjoy the writings of Donald Miller, N.T. Wrighter, Brian McLaren and Timothy Keller, Rob Bell is a pioneer among those seeking a new kind of Christian teaching.
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About the Author
Rob Bell is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and spiritual teacher. His books include Love Wins, How to Be Here, What We Talk About When We Talk About God, Velvet Elvis, The Zimzum of Love, Sex God, Jesus Wants to Save Christians, and Drops Like Stars. He hosts the weekly podcast The Robcast, which was named by iTunes as one of the best of 2015. He was profiled in The New Yorker and in TIME Magazine as one of 2011’s hundred most influential people. He and his wife, Kristen, have three children and live in Los Angeles.
Hometown:Grand Rapids, Michigan
Date of Birth:August 23, 1970
Place of Birth:Lansing, Michigan
Education:B.S., Wheaton College, 1992; M. Div., Fuller Seminary, 1995
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SEX GODExploring the Endless Connections between Sexuality and Spirituality
By Rob Bell
ZondervanCopyright © 2007 Rob Bell
All right reserved.
Chapter OneGOD WEARS LIPSTICK
In 1945, a group of British soldiers liberated a German concentration camp called Bergen-Belsen. One of them, Lieutenant Colonel Mercin Willet Gonin DSO, wrote in his diary about what they encountered:
I can give no adequate description of the Horror Camp in which my men and myself were to spend the next month of our lives. It was just a barren wilderness, as bare as a chicken run. Corpses lay everywhere, some in huge piles, sometimes they lay singly or in pairs where they had fallen. It took a little time to get used to seeing men, women and children collapse as you walked by them ... One knew that five hundred a day were dying and that five hundred a day were going on dying for weeks before anything we could do would have the slightest effect. It was, however, not easy to watch a child choking to death from diphtheria when you knew a tracheotomy and nursing would save it. One saw women drowning in their own vomit because they were too weak to turn over, men eating worms as they clutched a half loaf of bread purely because they had to eat worms to live and now could scarcely tell the difference. Piles of corpses, naked and obscene, with a woman too weak to stand propping herself against them as she cooked the food we had given her over an open fire; men and womencrouching down just anywhere in the open relieving themselves ... [a] dysentery tank in which the remains of a child floated.
This account is shocking, horrible, and tragic. But why?
Because people shouldn't eat worms?
Because people shouldn't make piles of corpses?
We answer yes to these questions because no one should be forced to live in conditions such as those at Bergen-Belsen. And yet we intuitively understand that the wrong being done to these prisoners - these people - was much more significant than just the physical conditions forced upon them. A concentration camp is designed to strip people of their humanity.
And in the Scriptures, anything that's anti-human is anti-God. Genesis begins with God creating the world and then creating people "in his own image." The Hebrew word for image here is tselem, and it has a specific cultural meaning. The stories of Genesis originated in ancient Near Eastern culture, where a king was said to rule in the image of a particular god. The famous King Tut is an Egyptian example of this. His full name was Tutankhamen, which is translated "the living image of [the god] Amon." The king was seen as the embodiment of a particular god on earth. If you wanted to see what that god was like, you looked at that god's king.
The writer of Genesis makes it clear that in all of creation there is something different about humans. They aren't God, and they aren't going to become God, but in some distinct, intentional way, something of God has been placed in them. We reflect what God is like and who God is. A divine spark resides in every single human being.
Everybody, everywhere. Bearers of the divine image.
Picture a group of high school boys standing by their lockers when a girl walks by. One of the boys asks, "How do you rate that?" They then take turns assigning numerical values to the various parts of her anatomy, discussing in great detail how they evaluate her physical attributes.
This scenario happens all the time, all over the world, every day. It's a pastime for some. There are television shows and websites and endless discussions all devoted to deciding who's hot and who's not. It's an industry, a form of entertainment, a culture.
And it's everywhere.
The problem is that "that" is actually a "she." A person. A woman. With a name, a history, with feelings. It seems harmless until you're that girl - and then it hurts. It's degrading. It's violating. It does something to a person's soul.
WHEN A "SHE" BECOMES A "THAT"
Jesus had much to say about what happens when a woman, an image-bearer, a carrier of the divine spark, becomes a "that." In the book of Matthew, Jesus teaches that "anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." He connects our eyes and our intentions and our thoughts with the state of our hearts.
Jesus then takes it farther. He says, "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away."
Which is a bit violent. Not to mention painful. And if taken literally, renders half of the human race blind in a matter of moments. Not to mention that blind people are fully capable of lusting. Our only conclusion is that Jesus is using the "it's merely a flesh wound" picture here to point us to something else. Some truth beyond the removing of body parts. If we're not supposed to take it literally, then how, or where, are we supposed to take it?
Jesus explains by saying, "It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."
How did we get from lust, which is so common and doesn't seem like that big of a deal, to having your body thrown into hell in just a couple of sentences?
And to avoid this fate you should cut off your hand? Poke out your eye? That would be better?
He's stretching it a bit, isn't he?
Or did we miss something?
To understand how Jesus makes these connections, we have to explore the first-century Jewish understanding of heaven.
In the book of Psalms, it's written: "The Lord has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all." To the Jewish mind, heaven is not a fixed, unchanging geographical location somewhere other than this world. Heaven is the realm where things are as God intends them to be. The place where things are under the rule and reign of God. And that place can be anywhere, anytime, with anybody.
It's also written in the Psalms that "the highest heavens belong to the Lord, but the earth he has given to humankind." So there is this realm, heaven, where things are as God wants them, under the rule and reign of God. But the earth is different. God has allowed for the temporary existence of other kingdoms. Other realms of authority. The earth "he has given to humankind." Which means we can do whatever we want. We can live however we want. We can choose to live under the rule and reign of God, or we can choose to rebel against God and live some other way.
Now if there's a realm where things are as God wants them to be, then there must be a realm where things are not as God wants them to be. Where things aren't according to God's will. Where people aren't treated as fully human.
It's called hell.
Think about the expression "for the hell of it." When someone says "for the hell of it," what they mean is that whatever is being discussed was done or said for no apparent reason. It was, in essence, pointless. Random. And God is for purpose and beauty and meaning.
When we say something was a "living hell," we mean that it was void of any love or peace or beauty or meaning. It was absent of the will and desire of God.
We hear about war zones being like hell, working conditions being hellish, a divorce being emotional hell, a famine feeling like hell on earth.
Concentration camps are hells on earth.
And that's Jesus' point with the "gouge out your eye" teaching. His point isn't that you should mutilate your body if you find yourself lusting after someone. His point is that something serious - sometimes hellish - happens when people are treated as objects, and we should resist it at all costs.
When Jesus talks about heaven and hell, they are first and foremost present realities that have serious implications for the future. Either can be invited to earth, right now, through our actions.
It's possible for heaven to invade earth.
And it's possible for hell to invade earth.
A friend of mine talks honestly about how he spent years exploiting women for sex. He knew exactly what to say, how to act. He was a master at finding a woman who had a troubled relationship with her father and manipulating the situation for his pleasure. The first time he was telling me his story, he made a profound point that is true for all of us. He said that exploiting women for sex didn't just rob them of their humanity, it robbed him as well. As the years went on, he found that he didn't like what was happening to him. He was becoming less human in the process.
He said he was becoming a monster.
In treating women as objects, he was losing something of his own humanity. Somewhere along the way he came to his senses. He was repulsed by the person he was becoming. He describes it as a "rebirth" in which for the first time he saw things as they really are. Several years later, my friend came across a group that works undercover in Southeast Asia to free young girls from the sex trade. In remote rural areas, girls are kidnapped and brought to the city, where they are forced to work as prostitutes. My friend signed up and recently went undercover on a "mission," rescuing girls and helping them start a new life. I was with him when he showed a group of people a picture of him surrounded by the girls he had helped rescue. People were blown away by the picture.
He's charging into hell and bringing heaven with him.
We don't respect the divine image in others just because we want to uphold their humanity. It isn't just about them.
It's about us.
It's about our humanity as well.
I just received an email asking if I would sign a petition protesting the use of torture to get information from enemy soldiers caught in battle. The email said this issue is being debated among politicians right now and that the public needs to speak up on the matter.
There's a debate about this? The issue isn't just what torture does to the person being tortured, it's what torturing does to the person doing it. We're already in trouble when people debate the use of torture as if it's only about what it does to the enemy.
Our own humanity is at stake.
THE NEW HUMANITY
The first Christians had a phrase for what happens when people properly respect and acknowledge the image of God in those around them. In the letter to the Ephesians, we read about a group of people who were previously divided because of race, background, wealth, socio-economic status, worldview, and religion. One group is made up of Jews, the other Greeks, and in this new church, they find themselves united because they've all become followers of the resurrected Jesus Christ. All of the old categories simply don't work anymore. This new commonality, this new bond, is simply bigger than all of the things that had previously kept them apart.
The first Christians called this the "new humanity."
In the beginning, God created us "in his image." So first, God gave us an image to bear. Then God gave us gender: male and female. Then God gave us something to do, to take care of the world and move it forward, taking part in the ongoing creation of the world. Later, people began moving to different places. It takes years and years of human history to get to the place where these people are from here and those people are from there. Different locations, skin colors, languages, and cultures come much later in the human story.
What we often do is reverse the creative process that God initiated. We start with different cultural backgrounds and skin colors and nationalities, and it's only when we look past these things that we are able to get to what we have in common - that we are fellow image-bearers with the shared task of caring for God's creation. We get it all backward. We see all of the differences first, and only later, maybe, do we begin to see the similarities.
The new humanity is about seeing people as God sees them.
WHEN THEY BECOME WE
I was having lunch in September of last year with a group of people I had just met. We were discussing the kind of work we each did and places we had been, and one man started telling stories about being in the marines. He had led one of the first groups into Iraq during the Gulf War in 1991. He talked about what it was like to enter enemy territory and to be shot at - about the complexities of war - and he had us all on the edge of our seats. During one battle he and his marines won quickly, they had to arrest the soldiers who had just been shooting at them. They lined them up and were handcuffing them when one of them ran up to him waving a letter, begging to have it sent immediately. The man was frantic and starting to cause a scene. He kept repeating that this letter he was holding had to be sent immediately. He then looked the marine in the eyes and said, "Please mail this letter for me. It's to my father, and he must know that I love him."
The man telling the story paused, looked around the table at each of us, and said, "He had no idea about the troubled relationship I had with my own father. Here I am, out in the middle of nowhere in the desert of Iraq, trying to arrest a group of soldiers who moments before were trying to kill me, staring at a man who wants me to mail a letter for him, thinking, I could be him."
Several years ago a woman called the church where I was a pastor because she wanted to talk. We set up a time to meet, and when she showed up, I asked her how I could help. She said that she was a prostitute and didn't want to live anymore, so she had made a plan to kill herself. She described in detail how she was going to do it, when she was going to do it, and where it was going to happen. She was very thorough. She said she was telling me all of this because she had to know whether she would go to heaven or hell when she died. Somewhere in the course of telling me her plans, she mentioned that she had a daughter because one of her clients had gotten her pregnant. She was confident that a family member would raise her daughter when she was gone.
I asked her to tell me more about her daughter. She gave a few details. Then I asked what her daughter's name was.
She replied, "My daughter's name is Faith."
There are these moments when the enemy all of the sudden becomes just like me.
When a soldier becomes a son.
When a prostitute becomes a mother.
When they become we.
When those become us.
When he becomes me.
Moments when all of the ways that we divide ourselves and rank each other and convince ourselves of how different, better, and unalike we are disappear, and we are faced with the fact that first and foremost, we are humans. In this together. And not that much different from each other.
We could be them.
THIRTY YEARS LATER
When I was five, my family visited my grandparents in California during Christmas vacation. They lived in an apartment building with an alley beside it - very exciting for a boy who lived on a farm in Michigan. At some point in my exploration of the alley, I decided to make a Christmas present for my dad out of the things I had found there. So on the morning of the twenty-fifth, my father had the privilege of opening a gift of a piece of black and green drainpipe glued to a flat gray rock with little white stones resting on the inside of it.
A masterpiece, to say the least.
The reason I remember this is because I visited my dad at his office a few days ago, and while I waited for him to finish his meeting, I wandered around looking at the pictures on his walls and the papers on his desk and the things on his shelves. On one of his shelves sat the drainpipe and rock sculpture, thirty years later.
He still has it.
He brought it home with him and put it in his office in 1977 and hasn't gotten rid of it.
We know why he kept it. How you treat the creation reflects how you feel about the creator.
When a human being is mistreated, objectified, or neglected, when they are treated as less than human, these actions are actions against God. Because how you treat the creation reflects how you feel about the Creator.
To be a Christian is to work for the new humanity. Jesus commands his followers to feed and clothe and visit and take care of those who need it. They're fellow image-bearers, they're just like us, and when we love them, we're loving God.
A church exists to be a display of the new humanity. A community of people who honor and respect the poor and rich and educated and uneducated and Jew and Gentile and black and white and old and young and powerful and helpless as fully human, created in the image of God.
These bonds we have with each other are why, for many, there is so much power in the Eucharist, also called Mass or the Lord's Supper or communion. We take the bread and dip it in the cup to remind ourselves of Jesus' body and blood. To reflect on the truth that we're all in this together, one body, and that his body being broken and blood being spilled are for our union.
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I can't keep a copy of this, as i want to give it to everyone! (And i'm usually a book hoarder!) I will buy this on my nook just to have this, as it's a great inspiration to pray, read the Bible, and a fun, easy read. It's written with a very unique poetic style (spoke right to my heart). I felt like i knew more of who God was (which is quite a wonderful journey!) as i was reading it, and i couldn't put it down. I say it's a fun read, because to me it's a joy to read about God and humanity, yet i also remember going through quite a few kleenex. I'm having a hard time writing this review as words can't even express the insight and value i got out of this book. It is on my top absolute favorites, along with my Bible, The Shack, and Heaven is for Real.
This book is absolutely incredible. I learned so much from it about myself and why I have made some of the choices that I have as well as the world around me. This isn't a know all book, but it's a great book to read if you are open to learning more. I love Rob Bell. He is so insightful and I really enjoy his different perspective. It makes me stop and think about things. Truly worth the time to read!!
Rob Bell's unique non-fiction "SexGod" is a beautiful, bold look at the comparisons between sexuality and spirituality. Digging underneath our human nature, he brings to light that we are meant to be sexual beings. Not in the essence that we must constantly be divulging on the act of sex, but that we are sexual beings as a comparison to our intimate relationship with God and how He made us. "You cannot talk about this without talking about that" is his ultimate premise. "This" being sex and "that" being God, therefore "SexGod." The style in which Bell writes in is very Eastern, in the essence that it is not linear and does not go in a solid, straight line. Instead the writing goes in circles and comes back on itself, allowing your mind to digest Bell's thoughts. He uses an almost gatekeeper like style, expanding on information that he has collected over the years and distributing it in a first person account. Jumping from meaningful conversations to Biblical reflections, Bell connects with his audience making a strong case on just how disconnected we really are. Disconnected from the earth. Disconnected from each other. Disconnected from God. One of the most sexual cities in the world is Amsterdam, however they are some of the least intimate people. The most sexual yet the least intimate; it almost sounds like an oxymoron. Shouldn't intimacy and sexuality go hand in hand? This is what Bell argues, that our extreme desire for sex is really a desire for a relationship with God. Bell is not saying we should do without sex, but rather, sex is a physical expression of our truest desire: to be completely naked in front of someone and be unashamed; to be unconditionally loved and swallowed whole; to be connected with someone in the deepest way possible. Covering all sorts of topics which include, but are not limited to pornography, male/female relationships, why marriages fail, and masturbation, Bell writes in his signature style with short paragraphs, some of them only lasting a sentence. This is a beautiful attempt at breaking down language barriers between the writer and the reader. You will not find yourself trudging through muddy sentences or fanciful florid words. Clean. Simple. Pure. Reflective. Even the cover of the book reflects on the pages inside with its fresh, pristine peach and graham cracker colored stripes. It reminds me of a dessert, soft pink pages inside that crackle with a crispness that is likened to strawberry cheesecake. With his extremely gifted communication skills, Bell delivers his knowledge through concepts of spirituality and sexuality unlike anything I've read or heard before. "SexGod" is a culturally rich read that integrates patterns of human knowledge, belief, and behaviour which make the concepts that much more impactful. Transmitting this culture, he takes what the world has told our society about what sex should be and about what spirituality should be and explains to us how it could be if we only realize that the two are connected more wonderfully than we could know. Sex is about bringing the disconnected back to the connected. A connection that shows that we are all image-bearers of God. A connection that shows how you treat the creation reflects on how you feel about the Creator. Sex. God. As Bell states, they are connected and cannot be separated. To make sense of one, we must explore the other. And that is what this book is about.
This is a fresh word on God's design for sex in marriage.
Extremely interesting it provoked many wonderful thoughts and it enjoyed much more than his book " Jesus Wants to Save Christians. My only criticism is that I wish he had gone into more detail with almost everything. Regardless this should be read by everyone though!
Another thought provoking book by Rob Bell. Although I can't always follow his line of reasoning, the book made me think. And, the book at times made me cry. The book does a wonderful job of balancing the importance of sex between the extremes of the animal behavior of much of society and the unrealistic angelic standard of much of the church. I whole-heartedly recommend this book.
Very good. Great exploration of the connections between sexuality and spirituality.
The author does a nice job exploring the connections between sexuality and spirituality. His main thesis is that humans are relational in nature. Our sexuality and spirituality are the two greatest avenues we seek out relationships (with each other and with god). I thought the book takes a more refreshing view of sexuality than most traditional Augustinian-influenced texts. I know some have proposed this being a good text to replace the "I kissed being a sexual person goodbye" series, but I am unsure if the material within this book can be understood by the majority of high school students. Nevertheless, the book will create some good conversations within theological settings.
Tries too hard. Some great thoughts and the beginnings of many wonderful conversations, but not a worthy book.
A superb exploration of spirituality and sexuality from Christian perspectives. Rob Bell's book is rooted in practical examples and situations, and is informed by a deep understanding of Christian writings. His style is clear and engaging, drawing the reader in and then bringing you up short with new insights. I loved it.
Bell is clever --he cites Banksy at one point-- but the book is completely Christian-centric. The sub-title belies the book's narrow focus on one religious tradition. He then holds up the June Carter - Johnny Cash union while conveniently omitting it's adulterous origins. "Ring of Fire" is not exactly obtuse in its symbolism -- to a Biblical literalist it is not even symbolic (e.g.: defile holy union, burn in hell.) So, from within the frame work Bell has placed himself this seems a disingenous slight of pen. Not so off, perhaps, as suggesting that the fruit of the tree of life was a watermelon. Sorry, I am missing the punchline on that one.
Rob Bell has a distinctive writing style - very conversational and easy. You really get the feeling he is talking to you from across the couch. Although the change in tone is refreshing, I think it could get old quickly (Max Lucado-ish). The points in his book are a great topic. The conclusions he came to, the jumps in inference are too much to go unmentioned, though. There was little grounds and little Scriptural backing to support his ideas.Most profound for this review, though, is that, although I finished this book within the last week, I'm having trouble recalling much about it. It was pretty forgettable apparently.
What is it about:How sexuality, spirituality, being human,being a Christian, loving others, dating, marriage,letting go of your past, relationships...are all inter-connected.What went through my mind:Instead 0f calling this a book,it's more like a collection of insights / wise sayings.I liked how the book is not written likea (boring) lecture / theological discussion,but simply the thought process of a fellow Christ-follower,contemplating how to connect the dots in life,so things would fall into place in God's bigger picture --Glad that i got to take a peek at his ideas : )Why Should you read it, too?Just to gain some fresh ideas about life & God & people.& No, this book doesn't talk exclusively about SEX."This is really (not) about THAT."
No just guys sorry
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Perhaps the most influential and detailed explanation of true relationship matters in relation to us and the creator. As Rob Bell so eloquently does through his words, he spells out in great artistic form what love really is and means. Bell's writing style is supreme and informative. You will truly enjoy the knowledge received through this spectacular display in theology as it relates to sex and love and God.
This book takes the so often ignorred topic of sex and puts it into a complete new perspective. You get to connect yourself with why we have been created and how, if used the way God intended, sex in NOT negative but very powerful. It also explains how sexuality is not just about "sex" it's about our entire lives and our purpose in Gods plan I highly recomend this book to EVERY person. It will open your mind and your spirit. Sex. God. Amazing.