Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

by Kristen Clark, Bethany Beal

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Overview

For the modern Christian woman living in today's sexually charged society, embracing God's design for sex and purity can often feel like an impossible pursuit. As the culture seeks to normalize things such as pornography, erotica, and casual sex, both single and married women of all ages feel immense pressure to conform. With alluring temptations constantly inviting them to join in, they might even begin to question whether God's design is truly good. They wrestle with questions like

- What is the purpose of my sexuality?
- What does it mean to pursue purity?
- Are my sexual longings good or bad?

In this encouraging book, Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal share honestly about their own struggles and victories, and invite women on a personal journey to discover and reclaim a biblical vision for their sexuality. Kristen and Bethany help women understand why God's design for sexuality is good, relevant, and leads to true hope and lasting freedom.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781493417582
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/30/2019
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 457,527
File size: 8 MB

About the Author

Kristen Clark is married to her best friend, Zack, and is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries. She is passionate about promoting the message of biblical womanhood through blogging, speaking, mentoring young women, and hosting Bible studies in her living room. In the end, she's just a fun-lovin' Texas girl who adores all things outdoors and drinks coffee whenever possible.

Bethany Beal
is head-over-heels in love with her best friend and husband, David, and is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries. She is passionate about spreading the truth of biblical womanhood through blogging, speaking, and mentoring young women. To her family and close friends, she is simply a tall blonde girl who is obsessed with smoothie bowls and can't get enough of her little fluffy dog.

Clark and Beal are the authors of Girl Defined and Love Defined.
Kristen Clark is married to her best friend, Zack, and is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries. She is passionate about promoting the message of biblical womanhood through blogging, speaking, mentoring young women, and hosting Bible studies in her living room. In the end, she's just a fun-lovin' Texas girl who adores all things outdoors and drinks coffee whenever possible.

Clark and Beal are the authors of Girl Defined and Love Defined.
Bethany Beal is head-over-heels in love with her best friend and husband, David, and is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries. She is passionate about spreading the truth of biblical womanhood through blogging, speaking, and mentoring young women. To her family and close friends, she is simply a tall blonde girl who is obsessed with smoothie bowls and can't get enough of her little fluffy dog.

Clark and Beal are the authors of Girl Defined and Love Defined.

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Anonymous 20 days ago
Christ-centered, complete, deep, and perfect for a group study! What I love the most about this book is how they (Kristen and Bethany) don’t give us a long list of do’s and don’ts. Instead, they show us how the Gospel is the key on our pursuit for purity. You’re having struggles with your past? Here’s the Gospel. You’re having struggles with your mind? Here’s the Gospel. You’re not dealing well with your longings? Here’s the Gospel. It seems too simplistic but it does remind us that the Gospel is enough for us, and that’s what I found more interesting. Differently from the other books that could be read by anyone in any season in life, I would recommend this book to be read and studied with the guidance of a mentor, as the content is really deep and can cause some questions.
Anonymous 21 days ago
First off, I am so blessed to be able to be on the launch team for this book. "Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart" is truly an amazing book. I wish I had this book growing up! Many of the topics discussed in this book are never talked about in churches especially, and many wonder what is this and what is that. However, it is about time someone write about it and from a Christian view. It touches many topics related to sex, sexual desires, erotica, and others. I definitely recommend reading it, especially for the teenagers. It also includes discussion questions, which I found to be super helpful. Overall, give it a read. It shows a healthy and open way to talk about sexual sins and how to honor marriage and sexual intimacy. And one of the main things is how to find your satisfaction in Christ.
Pearlyn 22 days ago
In this day and age with so much sexual impurity rampant in the society and influencing our thinking starting from a very young age. Sex, purty and the longings of a girls heart is an amazing book that talks about all the deep dark secrets of a girl tires to hide or runs away from her life. Kristen and bethany teach us how to tackle and overcome such circumstances through our hero hero Jesus Christ. The word of God his intimacy , his sacrifice is what redeems us from our sin. A must read for all not just the women. Truly, you would be blessed and would be left with a new found courage and way out in Jesus Christ.
Anonymous 22 days ago
This book is absolutely AMAZING and one that I would say is a must read for girls! Bethany and Kristen have written a few other books but this one has so much information that is talked about. And its not topics that are over talked about. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart is a book that hits on hard topics and ones that are often avoided in the Christian circle. Unfortunately, I know many Christian girls who've dealt with struggles in sexual terms and had no resources to help discuss the Biblical design, until now! This book covers things such as actually explaining why sex should be saved for marriage. Christian's often just hear "Don't have sex before marriage" or "PURITY is SO important!" but are never given reasons why and honestly... human nature typically encourages things to be done that are warned against. So Bethany and Kristen actually talk about it and explain the reasons why it is bad to have sex outside of marriage. They also talk about porn or certain books with some not so appropriate scenes written out. Porn is a huge issues with technology at people's fingertips and its often an overlooked issues, especially when it comes to women. I love that they talk about this and are open about their own lives. Over all I think this book is wonderful and an amazing tool for women all over. I would recommend this book to women in youth groups (with parents ok, of course due to the topic itself) because its an amazing tool to help explain why the church encourages one thing or another. I am 25 years old and single but have decided to save myself for marriage. It doesn't mean I don't struggle with things, because I do....God has a beautiful design for marriage and I am so happy to one day be able to share even my first kiss on my wedding day. This was a choice I have made and I am not ashamed. This book would have helped me a lot when I was deciding as a young girl what I wanted to do for my future. Please take the time to read this book and share with other whom might also love it. I've had trouble with my computer the past few days but I am finally getting to write a review after being part of the AMAZING Launch team and getting to read the book prior to release thanks to Girl Defined and their publisher allowing us an advance copy in order to write a review.
NEGirl4ever 22 days ago
In this book Kirsten & Bethany are so openly honest about this topic that is so prevalent for our time, not many in the Christian world have a conversation about sexual struggles even Christians face, and These women are so bold to discuss these difficult topics its refreshingly written without condemnation & has an excellent comparison from the world view to the biblical truths that God has for all our relationships. Highly recommend reading it! I received an advanced copy of this book for the purpose of this review
wordsmith12 22 days ago
This book couldn’t have come at a more pivotal time, with screaming headlines of evil everywhere people are struggling with finding fulfillment and satisfaction in things that were never meant to satisfy the human heart. Sexual struggles are prevalent everywhere and never more in the church, with raw and open confessions of their own struggles Bethany and Kristin have written an insightful heartfelt book displaying deep helpful advice for not only young women which the book is mostly geared towards but for any person dealing with sexual struggles. Surprisingly candid the book reads like a private conversation with a friend, it would be prefect for church groups or book studies. The message is timeless and one of truth. I could not recommend more. I rcieved this book free from the publisher for being apart of the launch team.
Anonymous 22 days ago
What made Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart unique for me was not the topic (purity has been emphasized in the church for years), but the manner in which it was discussed. Not only are Clark and Beal not afraid of bringing up the hard stuff, they aren’t afraid of biblical truths, either. They dig down deep and talk about issues rarely mentioned in Christian circles, like masturbation, pornography, and sexual desires. They go back to the very root of why purity matters and what the Bible has to say about it. They go beyond a list of dos and don’ts to the principles that should guide every Christian’s life. They answer not only the “what” questions, but the “why” questions. They lovingly point to the forgiveness and grace found in Christ that motivates a godly life. They speak the truth in love. They call women to live out God’s design for them in every area of their lives, including purity and their God-given sexuality. I found this book to be very gracious, Biblical and balanced. I would highly recommend this resource to parents who want to read WITH their teenagers as an opportunity to talk to them about these tough topics.
Aranza 22 days ago
I'm thankful for the chance of reading this book which is a beautiful Christ-centered and Gospel-focused one. Growing up as a Christian girl myself from a very young age, we're often afraid and ashamed of asking relevant questions regarding our sexuality. In this book, Kristen and Bethany become friends and sisters to the reader in order to biblically show forgiveness and redemption. This is the book I want every Christian girl in my generation to read and pray through to understand how sexually broken we ALL are and how much Christ has gained for his people. God has so much in store for those who trust Him. His Truth surpasses the sexuality experienced by the world standards that lead to suffering,
Jori Eriks 22 days ago
Sex, Purity and the Longings of a GIrl’s Heart is a wonderful book. Kristen & Bethany do a wonderful job of unpacking what God’s design was for our sexuality. We are sexual beings, but with that idea comes a multitude of issues because of the fall. We are sinful in our sexuality, and so many unanswered questions are floating around. These girls aren’t afraid of answering the “Hush-Hush” questions as they call it. This could be a life changer for someone who is struggling with sexual impurity, masturbation, same-sex attraction, and so much more. I recommend this book to any teen or older woman, single or married, struggling or not necessarily struggling. The authors bring practical advice to the table that is so helpful.
Anonymous 22 days ago
I am so happy that I got to be a part of this launch team! Kristen and Bethany have released yet another book that deals with real-life issues that are in dire need of being talked about! I would recommend this book to any girl who knows what sex, porn, and other sexual topics are/mean. If a girl knows what sex is, she should read this book!
Anonymous 22 days ago
I never could find many Christian books about sex and purity, I am so glad that these girls wrote this phenomenal book about a topic much needed in the world so girls are not scared to talk about it and learn about how God created for sexual Intimacy to be. Throughout this book Kristen and Bethany do a wonderful job explaining what the Bible says about sexual intimacy and why it is truly the best decision for us to make to follow His good and perfect plan. I recommend this book for Christian men and women who want to understand why God created sex and how to not be scared of it. This book is also for people dealing with sexual sins and how to break free from it through God's power and His direction.
Kayla Marie 22 days ago
I've heard all the purity talks. I see people portray sexual purity as the only thing that matters in a girl's life. If you have premarital sex, you are a lost cause. And topics like porn and erotica are hardly ever spoken of. On the other hand, I see Christian girls move in with boyfriends, fall into habitual sexual addiction, saying it's healthy and okay, and create their own sexual identity. This book was a welcome change! Kristen and Bethany don't shy away from the big issues such as causal sex, gender, porn, erotica, and masturbation. However, they speak the truth in love and go straight to God's Word for the answers. There is also an appendix on sexual abuse, which was written in a very loving and understanding way. I loved this book! And I strongly recommend it to any girl or women who is struggling sexually, needs healing from past sexual sin, or is simply looking for a better, more accurate way to view purity, according to God's design.
Katlyn_Yates 22 days ago
I have been waiting for so long to read this book and read it from cover to cover in about a day! It was amazing! If you are struggling with sexual desires, lust, purity, then this book is for you. Even if you just have questions, this book is for you. Bethany and Kristen write this book using their own struggles to relate to the women that they are writing to. They do not shy away from masturbation, lust, sex, and purity. They struggled through it and write this book as nonjudgemental. I totally recommend this book to anyone that is struggling! Older teens up to adults should read this book by these amazing ladies! I received this book free to review as being part of the launch team. All opinions are my own.
kelciehuff 22 days ago
In a society violently wrestling with issues like sexual identity, gender, and marriage, Kristen and Bethany's book is a source of hope. In all the confusion, it's refreshing to know there is a "True North," and this book points straight to it. I commend Kristen and Bethany for being brave and bold enough to teach unpopular truths in loving and relatable ways. No one reading this book will feel judged or condemned, no matter what sexual sin they are struggling with, because Kristen and Bethany explain that they have been there too and we are all sexually broken in our own ways. I highly recommend this book for older teens and all ages of adult women. It is a much, much needed read. I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Anonymous 23 days ago
I have been looking forward to reading this book for quite some time now. So when I finally got my hands on it, I read it cover to cover in one single day! Ladies, this is a much needed book that you need to get your hands on! It's raw, it's honest and real. Kristen and Bethany are very open and direct about the problems girls struggle with in terms of sexuality and purity. They do not shy away from talking about masturbation, pornography and lust. With this book, they counter the lie that "girls don't struggle with these things" and offer practical help and show what sexuality defined by God looks like. The book was easy to read and understand with many examples and personal stories to illustrate their points. All throughout the book, what they say is based on Scripture and they refer to it. There's also a study guide and an appendix on healing from sexual abuse at the end of the book. This book did not focus on biblical womanhood or God's design for relationships, because these topics have already been the focus in their first two books. One might therefore want to read Girl Defined and Love Defined to see how it fits into the whole picture :) I can only recommend this book to any young Christian woman trying to figure out sexuality and fight temptation. I think this is Kristen and Bethany's best book so far! However, please note that if you grew up very sheltered or have not been confronted with these issues so far, you might want to read this with your mom or a mentor.
Anonymous 23 days ago
I don’t even know where to begin! I can say with full certainty that this book has changed my perspective, and to be completely honest, my life. Purity is worth so much more than we realize, and I am beyond thankful to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with the temptations talked about in this book. My heart is overjoyed that someone (And that someone is Girl Defined) has answered the questions about sexuality that I have wondered for far too long. In this book, we learn that the answer to our struggles is in Jesus Christ. A relationship with Him is stronger than the most alluring temptation and light years more satisfying than the sinful self-serving actions we do to try and fill those fleshly longings! We learn that His name is greater than any lie that satan tries to draw us into. We learn that going against worldly culture is something to find joy and fun in! Kristen and Bethany teach us that no matter how far we’ve gone JESUS shows us that we are WORTHY! We are TREASURED! We are CHOSEN! We are NEW! Our identity is in our Savior, and all the powers of darkness and lust and sexual struggle are broken right now in Jesus name! We have a HERO in this life, and that means we can stop striving so hard. Our identity is in Him, and His love gives purity in life. So we will stand up! We will reach for purity and receive His goodness! We will show this world that abstinence is BEAUTIFUL! That our bodies and hearts and minds are worth being TREASURED! And shame and guilt have no more power in Jesus name! We are more than conquerors through Christ. Our hearts, minds, and bodies are healed. How I praise the Lord that He has given us an answer: Jesus Christ, the Savior of the universe. I can’t thank Girl Defined enough for letting God use them to bring these truths into my life! I recommend this book to anyone and everyone, and I most definitely will be having my future daughters read it. This is a keeper!
Anonymous 23 days ago
Sex. How can three little letters be so powerful to cause so much confusion, pain, and shame? It can control our thoughts, decisions, and even our whole lives if we allow it to. However, why does nobody ever want to talk about it? Luckily, there is a way to fight back against the struggles we face with sex, lust, and everything that comes with it. In Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal’s new book “Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart.” They illustrate beautifully what God-defined sexuality truly is designed to be. It was never created to be something bad, to be ashamed of or to be used to objectify the female body in order to sell a hamburger or a car. God-defined sexuality was designed to be beautiful and to reflect true intimacy and relationship with Him the Creator. Kristen and Bethany share their own past struggles of sexual desires and their secret struggles with porn, erotica, and masturbation. Along, with practical ways to fight these struggles and lean more into God’s truth through the His word. I liked how they opened my eyes to the World’s lies about sexual design and what popular magazines tell us about “do what feels right” or if you love him show him. They showed me God’s true design for sex and intimacy as being meant to be celebrated within the covenant love called marriage. Kristen and Bethany also discuss the biblical definition of feminity and womanhood. That they are strong, beautiful, confident, intelligent, and more, and not to use are bodies seductively in a way that objectifies who God created us to be. Our bodies were not created to be used to sell burgers or wear bikini tops and jean cutoffs in Country music videos. “We were made for intimacy.” I challenge you to buy your copy and discover God’s definition and design for sexuality and intimacy and turn away from how the world has defined sexuality. This book would make a great book study choice for church youth groups, college women’s ministries, or just to study on your own. If you are struggling with sexual sin, lust, or the thoughts in your mind this book is for you. I received this book as a free gift from Bakerbooks publishers as a part of the launch team, but I believe this book would be great for anyone’s daughter, wife, or sister!
Anonymous 23 days ago
Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart has been so helpful to me. The Christian perspective that the authors take is seen throughout the whole book. I enjoyed the external sources that the authors used in the book. This includes very influential Christian leaders. Overall, I learned about how to have a Christian perspective on sexuality. This included clear steps to work toward purity. This book is benefiical to me in my season of singleness. I would recommend it to single women and married women.
Elie-Renee 23 days ago
I appreciated the book very much for the Lord was already using the first chapter to convict me of the importance of sexual purity! The book does not hide or cover the truth of God's Word but lays it out in a real but relate-able way while giving also being practical in giving tips on how to look to the Lord in the battle for sexual purity. It lays out a healthy and open way to talk about sexual sins and really it's power is in the sense of community you get as you read it.
Micaha 23 days ago
WOW! This is a book that will uncover topics hidden and silenced by most Christian groups and churches. Bethany and Kristen became vulnerable providing both personal experiences and Biblical truth to strike up a discussion about sexuality. I highly recommend this read! It will challenge and strengthen you. These ladies have really gone beyond the forced views of society to provide truth in such a sexually confused world. This is definitely a must read!
MarissaJean 23 days ago
Like the previous books I have read by the ladies over at GirlDefined, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart is an authentic and raw account. I thoroughly enjoyed reading and reflecting on each chapter and feel like I was able to take something away from it. Growing up in the church, it has been difficult to find resources that go beyond "don't do this" and "don't do that", especially for young women. Kristen and Bethany carefully crafted a book that was kind, but also challenged me to hold myself to the standards that God has set. All in all, a FANTASTIC read! I recommend to anyone who is struggling with feeling like they are alone in the fight against lust, and even those who feel like they aren't. Dating or single, or to give to a friend, all can learn something from this book.
Anonymous 23 days ago
I am so grateful that this book exists! Kristen and Bethany address topics that aren't discussed enough for Christian women: masturbation, same-sex attraction and LGBTQ+ beliefs, erotica, what "purity" truly is, and how we can truly glorify God no matter what we've done or what we will do. This book was not easy to read because it was so raw, eye-opening, and truly inspiring. I found myself tearing up at some parts and truly praying for God's grace throughout the chapters. I felt as though Kristen and Bethany were sitting across from me in a coffee shop and explaining God's truth about sexuality and purity right in front of me. Each chapter was personal and practical - not only did the authors give Biblical evidence throughout the book, but they provided realistic ways to combat secret sexual sins. With topics like these, Christians face a lot of backlash and criticism for being "old-fashioned" and "close-minded"...but this book shows that sexuality and purity is designed by God and meant to glorify Him. Kristen and Bethany don't shy away from touchy subjects or tell us to "just pray the gay away!" (which is faulty to begin with!). They bring in Biblical evidence that shows why Christian women should use their sexuality to glorify God, and they quote various experts that have testimonies and advice for every woman struggling in private. DO NOT HESITATE TO GET THIS BOOK. It has completely transformed my mindset on sex, and it has left me feeling inspired and longing to deepen my relationship with Christ. I am recommending this to every woman I know.
Anonymous 23 days ago
I am so grateful that this book exists! Kristen and Bethany address topics that aren't discussed enough for Christian women: masturbation, same-sex attraction and LGBTQ+ beliefs, erotica, what "purity" truly is, and how we can truly glorify God no matter what we've done or what we will do. This book was not easy to read because it was so raw, eye-opening, and truly inspiring. I found myself tearing up at some parts and truly praying for God's grace throughout the chapters. I felt as though Kristen and Bethany were sitting across from me in a coffee shop and explaining God's truth about sexuality and purity right in front of me. Each chapter was personal and practical - not only did the authors give Biblical evidence throughout the book, but they provided realistic ways to combat secret sexual sins. With topics like these, Christians face a lot of backlash and criticism for being "old-fashioned" and "close-minded"...but this book shows that sexuality and purity is designed by God and meant to glorify Him. Kristen and Bethany don't shy away from touchy subjects or tell us to "just pray the gay away!" (which is faulty to begin with!). They bring in Biblical evidence that shows why Christian women should use their sexuality to glorify God, and they quote various experts that have testimonies and advice for every woman struggling in private. DO NOT HESITATE TO GET THIS BOOK. It has completely transformed my mindset on sex, and it has left me feeling inspired and longing to deepen my relationship with Christ. I am recommending this to every woman I know.
Anonymous 23 days ago
As a 17-year-old woman in today's age, I've often found myself curious in the area of sexuality. I wanted to know how God intended for me to view and act on my sexuality, but every time the topic was brought up in the church it seemed to be greeted with very uncomfortable reactions. When I heard about 'Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart', I couldn't wait to get my hands on a copy. As I read through each page, I felt as if Kristen and Bethany had written this book specifically for me. I was provided comfort in knowing that my curiosity and desires were entirely normal, and actually a part of my design; I began to find freedom in my mindset towards purity and sexuality that I never knew I needed; and I finally found the answers I had been searching for for so long. I believe every woman, whether single or not, needs to read this book.
Anonymous 23 days ago
Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart by Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal should be read by all women. In today's society, women are bombarded by sexualized content every day. Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal dive into what God says about purity and sexuality. If you're single, dating, or married you will benefit from the in-depth knowledge that is provided in this book. The tools and suggestions given are realistic and manageable for every woman. I highly recommend this book. **I received a complimentary copy from authors/publishers to read and review.