Sexy Feminism: A Girl's Guide to Love, Success, and Style

Sexy Feminism: A Girl's Guide to Love, Success, and Style

by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong, Heather Wood Rudulph


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"We live in a society where sex is used against women as much as it’s used by women. Sexy Feminism calls foul on that (and other) double standards—and makes manifest my frequent observation that feminists are almost always the sexiest people in the room.” —Jennifer Baumgardner, author of F’em!: Goo Goo, Gaga, and Some Thoughts on Balls

Not your mother’s feminism! A humor-filled action plan for an accessible, cool, and, yes, even sexy brand of 21st-century feminism

Feminism can still seem like an abstract idea that is hard to incorporate into our hectic, modern lives, but Jennifer Keishin Armstrong and Heather Wood Rudúlph show how the everyday things really matter. In an age when concern-trolling, slut-shaming, and body-snarking are blogosphere bywords, when reproductive rights are back under political attack, and when women are constantly pressured to “have it all,” feminism is more relevant than ever. For many young women the radicalism of the Second Wave is unappealing, and the “do me” and “lipstick” feminism of the Third Wave feels out of date. Enter Sexy Feminism. It’s an inclusive, approachable kind of feminism—miniskirts, lip gloss, and waxing permitted. Covering a range of topics from body issues and workplace gender politics to fashion, dating, and sex, Sexy Feminism is full of advice, resources, and pop culture references that will help shape what being a feminist can look like for you.

“Genius! Sexy Feminism is a delicious primer for budding feminists (and the feminist-curious), as well as a sigh of relief for long-term third-wave feminists who long to be understood and are tired of explaining our beliefs. Jennifer and Heather do an outrageously good service to us all by bringing feminism into its sexy, confident maturity.” —Katie Goodman, feminist comedian and actress

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780547738307
Publisher: HMH Books
Publication date: 03/12/2013
Pages: 228
Product dimensions: 5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.67(d)

About the Author

Jennifer Armstrong is a pop-culture writer with fifteen years of journalism experience. She spent nearly a decade at Entertainment Weekly, where she was a senior writer covering TV and women in entertainment. She is the author of Why? Because We Still Like You, a history of the original Mickey Mouse Club published by Grand Central, and is currently working on a book about The Mary Tyler Moore Show, published by Simon & Schuster in 2013. She has provided pop-culture commentary for CNN, VH1, A&E, and ABC, and her writing has been featured in Salon,,, Glamour, Budget Travel, and the Chicago Sun-Times. She also co-founded and continues to run Her essays have appeared in the anthologies Altared: Bridezillas, Bewilderment, Big Love, Breakups, What Women Really Think About Contemporary Weddings,and Coffee at Luke’s: An Unauthorized Gilmore Girls Gabfest.

Heather Wood Rudúlph is the co-founder of and a lifestyle writer and editor. She has spent twelve years covering entertainment and pop culture for outlets such as the Los Angeles Daily News, AOL and, and editing lifestyle content for the likes of the Huffington Post and DAYSPA Magazine. She specializes in writing about feminism, pop culture and relationships, and teaches writing for the Gotham Writers’ Workshop.

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WE’RE HERE to detonate, once and for all, those pervasive myths about feminism. You know, that it wrecks homes and happiness, that it hates men and sex and anything pretty, that it’s a general drag. 
     Feminism, even in its most classical form, has never aimed to do any of that, but it makes sense that it got mixed up in such ideas. It’s a huge movement that’s evolved over many decades and split into many factions, although they all have the same aim: equal rights for women. At times, this has meant women leaving their husbands when they realized they wanted more from their lives, demanding equal pay, or telling their spouses to wash their own damn dishes. Sometimes the fight for equality has required flouting beauty standards to make a statement about their silliness —hence the stereotypical feminist who eschews armpit-shaving and makeup-wearing. The basic idea of equality for women has also spawned more radical ideas. Some splinter feminist groups have, for instance, recommended withdrawing from patriarchal society and establishing entirely new female-run subcultures, ruled out any sex with men as inherently fraught with inequality, and declared lesbianism the only logical orientation for a decent feminist.
     Feminism is mostly past this by now, but in mainstream society, the movement’s image as a buzzkill lingers, making it a tough sell even for many of the ambitious young women who have benefitted from it. With this book, we hope to dispel those negative ideas about feminism once and for all, but, more important, we hope to give any woman with the slightest desire for female empowerment the tools to bring feminist ideals into her everyday life.

We like Gloria Steinem’s take on the word feminist: “the belief in the full social, economic, and political equality of women and men. I would just add ‘and doing something about it.’ And when you look at the effects of that simple statement, it’s quite a transformation.” We couldn’t agree more. We see it like this. Step 1: Call yourself a proud feminist. Step 2: Live up to the word. Seems like a pretty easy first step, but the F-word has long been a stumbling block for the movement. It was first used in the 1870s in France to describe women agitating for change. By the time it showed up in the English language, in the 1890s, the term had already become derogatory. Or at least it was meant to be when the UK Daily News warned its readers of a dangerous new trend, “what our Paris Correspondent describes as a ‘Feminist’ group.” Even the more benign-sounding movement for “votes for women” got a bad rap when Queen Victoria called it that “mad, wicked folly.” About the same time that feminism officially became a word in the Oxford English Dictionary, in 1894, the women’s suffrage movement, commonly considered the first wave of feminism, was heating up. American women got the vote in 1920, and things died down until the second wave — the women’s lib movement of the ’60s and ’70s, which brought us the Equal Rights Amendment, Roe v. Wade, Ms. magazine, and a barrage of other political, sexual, and social breakthroughs. During that time, the word feminism took on the specific negative connotations that continue to plague it today (see above lesbian separatist movements and unshaven armpits).
     The “I’m not a feminist, but .....” problem spread during the 1980s backlash and persists today, and we’d love to see that stop. But feminist is just a word, you might say — why is it so important? Given the choice between living feminist principles and calling ourselves feminists, of course we’d choose the former. But we don’t think there should have to be a choice. To distance yourself from the word is to imply there’s something wrong with feminism and/or feminists, an implication that leads to the continued denigration of the cause itself. Ladies, if we can reclaim words like slut and bitch, using them, Riot Grrrl–style, to denote power instead of degradation, we can reclaim the word feminist.

Table of Contents

Foreword: Our Own Feminist Journeys vii

   one   Why Feminism Is Sexy 1
   Two   Our Poor Vaginas 17
   Three   Plastic Surgery: Can You? 36
   Four   Vanity Is Not a Feminist Sin 55
   Five   Is Dieting Antifeminist? 69
   Six   Being a Fashionista Can Be Empowering 85
   Seven   The Working-Woman Problem 100
   Eight   Be a Sexy Feminist, Not a Slut-Shaming One 114
   Nine   Flirting and Dating: The Rules, The Game,
and Real Life 132
   Ten   Feminism in the Bedroom 146
   Eleven   Feminist Relationships: from Long-Term
to Lifelong Partnership 165
   Twelve   Female Friendship: the Ultimate Feminist Act 184

Afterword: Activism Is Sexy 197
Appendix: Resources for Sexy Feminists 213
Notes 217
Acknowledgements 229

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