“I love this book as an adult book-group choice because it addresses so many issues familiar to women in our community's book groups: sex, marriage, motherhood, aging, weight, body image, identity, shame, fear, courage, risk.” PublishersWeekly.com / Shelftalker
“The edgy quirkiness of the story, combined with the author's honesty and character-saving ability to laugh at herself, make the book an engaging read...bold and surprisingly moving.” Kirkus Reviews
“Shameless is enthralling, hilarious and incredibly courageous. A most headyand sexy combination. Pamela Madsen is the living, breathing embodiment of the power of pleasure to transform one's life.” Christiane Northrup, M.D., author or Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom
“If you've ever dreamt of becoming a real live sex Goddess Pamela Madsen will show you the way; with grace, integrity and joyful abandon! "Find true pleasure" with this liberating book chock full of adventures from the heart. This is the first of a whole new genre in sex education books.” Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., Ecosexual Sexecologist and Artist and author of Dr. Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex
“Shameless sex goddess Pamela Madsen treats us to an astonishing memoir of one woman's journey into her precious inner wildness. This brave suburban wife and mother unveils the secrets of an unbelievably expanded sexuality in which desire becomes a virtue, and sexual greed opens the gates to spiritual ecstasy and orgasmic revelations.” Dossie Easton, co-author of The Ethical Slut and Radical Ecstasy
“Pamela Madsen's new book about healthy sexuality, Shameless, reminds you to tell the truth about yourself, embrace the most challenging topics, surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and celebrate your inner diva.” Wayne C. Shields, President and CEO, Association of Reproductive Health Professionals (ARHP)
Fertility advocate Madsen recounts her midlife sexual self-reclamation.
The narrative begins with the 42-year-old mother of two telling her colorfully neurotic women friends that she feels "trapped in [her] own life" and sexually unfulfilled. Refusing to break matrimonial vows in pursuit of an extramarital affair, she sought out gay erotic-massage therapists in hopes of easing the sexual restlessness that a steady diet of "fantasy, romance novels, and porn" could not. The experts she met reawakened her senses and helped her learn to love a body she viewed as overweight, aging and inadequate. Though generically—even stereotypically—handsome as men, they, like most of the other narrative figures, are somewhat flat and serve limited textual roles—in this case, to initiate a nervous but determined middle-aged woman in the ways of "sacred sexuality." With the help of her teachers, Madsen explored her most forbidden desires, including a fondness for erotic games of bondage and domination. In so doing, she was transformed from "a bundle of missed opportunities" into the envy of all her adulterously "liberated" friends. Not content to savor her experiences alone, she went on to earn online notoriety for daring revelations she made under the name "Riverdale Goddess." The more she comes to terms with her sexuality, she writes, the more she finds that other issues—in particular, those pertaining to weight and food—fall by the wayside. Madsen even found renewed zest in her marriage and in the "freakish" monogamy that seems so out of step with the disregard for marital commitment she sees around her. The language is at times clumsy and some of the dialogue slightly wooden, but the edgy quirkiness of the story, combined with the author's honesty and character-saving ability to laugh at herself, make the book an engaging read.
Flawed, but bold and surprisingly moving.