She Matters: A Life in Friendships by Susanna Sonnenberg
From the bestselling “immensely gifted” (Michiko Kakutani, TheNew York Times) author of Her Last Death comes a stunningly candid, compulsively readable, intensely provocative book about female friendships.
The New York Times called Susanna Sonnenberg “immensely gifted,” and Vogue, “scrupulously unsentimental.” Entertainment Weekly described Sonnenberg’s Her Last Death as “a bracing memoir about growing up rich and glamorous with a savagely inappropriate mother.” Now, Sonnenberg, with her unflinching eye and uncanny wisdom, has written a compulsively readable book about female friendship.
T he best friend who broke up with you. The older girl at school you worshipped. The beloved college friend who changed. The friend you slept with. The friend who betrayed you. The friend you betrayed. Companions in travel, in discovery, in motherhood, in grief; the mentor, the model, the rescuer, the guide, the little sister. These have been the women in Susanna Sonnenberg’s life, friends tender, dominant, and crucial after her reckless mother gave her early lessons in womanhood.
Searing and superbly written, Sonnenberg’s She Matters: A Life in Friendships illuminates the friendships that have influenced, nourished, inspired, and haunted her—and sometimes torn her apart. Each has its own lessons that Sonnenberg seeks to understand. Her method is investigative and ruminative; her result, fearlessly observed portraits of friendships that will inspire all readers to consider the complexities of their own relationships. This electric book is testimony to the emotional significance of the intense bonds between women, whether shattered, shaky, or unbreakable.
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More than 1 year ago
I had hoped to love and share this book with my friends but I was very disappointed. The writer was whiney and never seemed to get past the injustices done to her by the "friends" of which she wrote. I kept expecting her to have an epiphany about friendships or at least herself. If she did at the end it wasn't apparent. If I had borrowed this book instead of bought it I would not have finished it. I kept hoping it would get better. It didn't.
More than 1 year ago
My closest friend from childhood died recently, suddenly and tragically, and I purchased this book, thinking the stories would help with my grieving. I think it's a beautiful celebration of friendship as well as an honest portrait of how women can both love AND wound each other. To honor my friend, I've been giving this book to my other close friends with the message of "you matter to me."