Someone I Love Is Gay: How Family & Friends Can Respond by Anita Worthen, Bob Davies
Finding out that a child, spouse, relative or friend is homosexual can be an unwelcome surprise. You're hit with a complex combination of emotionsgrief, shame, fear, guilt. You are flooded with questions ranging from why to what's next. You wonder what a biblical response would be. At the same time, someone you care about deeply may be awaiting your response. What should you say?
Someone I Love Is Gay was created out of Bob Davies's personal and professional experience and out of Anita Worthen's struggle with her son over these issues. Also drawing on experiences of others, the authors will help you handle your feelings while responding appropriately to your loved one.
Worthen has been involved with ex-gay ministry to family members and friends for over ten years. She and her husband, Frank Worthen, one of the founders of the ex-gay movement, have spoken about homosexual ministry on four continents. They live in San Rafael, California.
Bob Davies retired in 2001 as the North American director of Exodus International, a worldwide coalition of Christian ministries to men and women overcoming homosexuality. He currently serves on the music department administrative team at University Presbyterian Church in Seattle, Washington.
Table of Contents
Introduction: How This Book Can Help You 1 Homosexuality: The Shocking Discovery 2 The Grief Cycle: Surviving the Emotional Turmoil 3 Guilt: The Continual Crushing Weight 4 Disclosure: Do I Dare Tell Anyone? 5 Relinquishment: What Does "Letting Go" Really Mean? 6 Sexual Abuse: Uncovering Another Family Secret 7 Illness: Living in the Shadow of AIDS 8 Just for Parents: Special Concerns & Questions 9 Just for Spouses: Special Concerns & Questions 10 When a Friend Says, "I'm Gay" 11 Entering into Romantic Friendships: Concerns & Questions 12 Finding Hope Again: Life After Homosexuality 13 Afterword Appendix A: For Further Reading Appendix B: Resources for Additional Help Notes