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Spouse in the House: Rearranging Our Attitudes to Make Room for Each Other

Spouse in the House: Rearranging Our Attitudes to Make Room for Each Other

by Cynthia Ruchti, Becky Melby


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A frank and funny look at what to do when together is too close

Two's company, especially for those who love each other. So what happens when—due to retirement, working from home, or even running a business together—spouses find that being in the same space all the time is awkward, complex, annoying, and just plain challenging? How can partners co-exist without co-exhausting each other?

Cynthia Ruchti and Becky Melby know all too well how adjusting to a new, all-the-time closeness can cause the bliss of marriage to form blisters. Drawing from their experiences, and from men and women across the country in the same situation, the authors take a deep breath and dive into the root causes of the discomfort. They dig into the ways God's Word addresses the topic, and they offer practical tips for learning the spiritual, emotional, relational, and even physical steps that can help readers replace irritation with peace.

For any Christian who wants their home to be a refuge of peace and serenity for all—not just themselves—and who wants to know they aren't alone in the mental and physical claustrophobia of too much togetherness, Spouse in the House is a vulnerable, charming, and pragmatic breath of hope.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780825446788
Publisher: Kregel Publications
Publication date: 09/21/2021
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 719,502
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Cynthia Ruchti tells stories of hope through novels, nonfiction, devotionals, and speaking events. She serves as the professional relations liaison for American Christian Fiction Writers and is a frequent speaker at writers conferences across the country. She married her grade school sweetheart, and the two live in the heart of Wisconsin, not far from their three children and five grandchildren.

Becky Melby is an author and speaker, with more than twenty books to her name, including four cozy mysteries for Guideposts’ Secrets of Wayfarers Inn series. She makes her home in the heart of Wisconsin with her husband, and is long-time BFF with co-author Cynthia Ruchti. Find out more at

Table of Contents

1 Honey, I'm Home … All. The. Time 11

2 Love Keeps No Record of Who Cleaned the Toilet Last 19

3 The Line Down the Middle 29

4 I Never Used to Be a Night Owl, but It's the Only Time I Can Be Alone 41

5 To TV or Not to TV? How Can We Manage Relaxation Differences? 51

6 But Honey, Both Our Names Are on the Mortgage 61

7 At Least One of Us Has to Be a Bomb Sniffer 71

8 The Sins Febreze Can't Quite Cover 83

9 We're Dancing, but He's Listening to Different Music 93

10 Are We Renting or Owning This Marriage? 103

11 Money Talks, but It's Not Telling My Spouse What It's Telling Me 113

12 Get That Out of My Pail! (His Bucket List Doesn't Play Well with Mine) 123

13 It's Still My Rib, Adam. It's Still My Rib Cage, Eve 131

14 Why We Need HHATT Sisters and Guys Need Guy Friends 141

15 I Need a New Nameplate 149

16 Familiarity Breeds Meh 159

17 Circadian Algorithms: Solving the Problem of Differing Schedule Preferences 169

18 I Meant It When I Said "I Do" to the "In Sickness" Part of Our Vows 177

19 Give Your SITH a Pass 185

20 Continuing the Love Story 195

Acknowledgments 205

If Your Spouse Is a Louse (When Home Is Not a Safe Place) 207

Top Ten Questions to Help SITHs Find Their Footing 211

Inspiration for Any Home-All-the-Time Circumstance 213

Inspiration for Conversations with One Another 215

Resources for Consideration 217

Notes 219

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