Still Standing After All the Tears: Putting Back the Pieces After All Hell Breaks Loose

Still Standing After All the Tears: Putting Back the Pieces After All Hell Breaks Loose

by Valerie Silveira


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ISBN-13: 9780986110405
Publisher: Still Standing Group, The
Publication date: 02/10/2015
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 844,630
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

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Still Standing After All the Tears: Putting Back the Pieces After All Hell Breaks Loose 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Cait_W More than 1 year ago
This book is a great guide for anyone struggling with their own hardship, or as Valerie Silveira calls it, the Beast. Beasts come in all shapes and sizes and Silveira has written a series of action steps one can use to battle and overcome them. Her specific struggle is with codependency and guilt over the path her daughter has taken in her life, going from a stellar high school life to becoming a heroin addict. Silveira's story itself is heart wrenching. She has to watch her daughter suffer through the highs and lows of addiction while learning to detach herself from her daughter's toxic life. After spending several years trying to be "Supermom" and help her daughter, Silveira realizes that all she is doing is enabling her. She learns that she has to separate her life from her daughter's and she the guilt and shame she carries with her as "mother of an addict." Using her personal journey, the author creates a list of actions to being to overcome your Beast, whatever it may be. The tools are generic and Silveira touts that what makes her approach special is building all of these actions into one game plan. When used simultaneously, they all work together to keep you fighting against what is holding you back. There aren't necessarily any new tactics included that haven't been suggested elsewhere - for example, identifying your inner circle of people you can rely on, or focusing on forgiving people - but Silveira collects and presents them in a way that seems doable and helpful. Throughout the book, she relates the action steps back to her own life. I found this tactic encouraging, because instead of just bulleted lists of instructions, she was able to offer real-life examples of how and when she applied these tools. I believe this book would be extremely beneficial to anyone struggling specifically with addiction, either in their life or the life of someone close to them. Silveira even mentions that finding someone with a similar experience is important because they have the understanding that other people don't necessarily have. Additionally, anyone with any kind of hardship that seems to be draining them of their life and energy - which is probably the majority of the population - could learn a lot from this book. I suffer from health issues and anxiety and took away a lot of good advice from this book. I may also use it as a resource in the future to form a "game plan" to fight my Beast. I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.
ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Charity Tober for Readers' Favorite Still Standing After All The Tears by Valerie Silveira is a tough but motivational read. The author uses this book to not only share her personal heartbreaking story, but also to empower others to fight and prevail over the “beasts” in their own lives. Silveira defines a “beast” as “that situation, person, attitude or circumstance that has left you lost, defeated, frustrated, angry, hopeless and helpless, or living in paralyzing fear.” The author recounts the painful story of how her own daughter battled a “beast” of drug addiction and bad choices, which ultimately led to her being shot by an ex-boyfriend (who was also a gang member). The author points out that one poor choice can lead to another, and things can escalate fairly quickly. From her own experience with a life-changing ordeal, the author presents readers with nine steps to battling a personal “beast,” whether it be drugs, alcohol, abuse or any other number of debilitating life issues. Silveira advises readers to stand up and fight, put on spiritual armor, change their attitudes, adjust their focus, and make meaning of the madness! This book was a very motivational and introspective read for me. Valerie Silveira writes with such emotion, conviction, and a can-do attitude. She shows that no matter what you are going through, you can’t just lie down and take it. You must empower yourself to fight back and win against any “beasts” that come into your life. I was really inspired by how the author took such a heartbreaking situation (such as a child spiraling out of control) and used that to build a positive message of strength and support. Highly recommended for anyone going through a life trial.