Stop Giving It Away: How to Stop Self-Sacrificing and Start Claiming Your Space, Power, and Happiness

Stop Giving It Away: How to Stop Self-Sacrificing and Start Claiming Your Space, Power, and Happiness

by Cherilynn M. Veland LCSW, MSW


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Winner of the National Indie Excellence Book Award for Women’s Issues in 2015, Stop Giving It Away untangles what binds so many women to other people’s needs, wants and expectations. Cherilynn Veland, a social worker, counselor and coach, builds a case for what women can do to make changes that will help them live more fulfilling personal and professional lives.

Stop Giving It Away illustrates real-life stories of women who―to the detriment of their relationships and personal happiness―have given away too much at home and at work. The book offers a toolkit for recognizing and analyzing unhealthy behaviors, developing healthy relationship strategies, and setting good personal boundaries.

Accessible, entertaining, and illuminating, Stop Giving It Away is a book for every woman who tends to put everyone else first―and herself last.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781631529580
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 05/17/2015
Pages: 298
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Cherilynn Veland has worked extensively in psychiatric settings, child welfare agencies, domestic violence, sexual assault, and substance abuse treatment programs, and has consulted for corporate and employee assistance programs. A clinical social worker licensed through the State of Illinois toprovide counseling for individuals, couples, and families, Veland holds a master’s degree in social work from the University of Alabama and is amember of the National Association of Social Workers. She currently runs a successful therapy and counseling practice in the Lincoln Park area of Chicago.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 What is a Giveaway Girl? What Is Giving It Away? 5

Chapter 2 What Is Detrimental Caretaking? 31

Chapter 3 Giveaway Moms 49

Chapter 4 Giveaway Wives and Girlfriends 77

Chapter 5 Giveaway Girls in Career 111

Chapter 6 What Shapes a Girl's Role in the World 133

Chapter 7 From Giveaway Girls to Got it Girls 163

Chapter 8 Got It Girls: Boundaries 183

Chapter 9 You: Self-Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit 209

Chapter 10 Letting Go When It's Hard to Let Go 233

Chapter 11 Call to Action; Seven Steps to Getting It Back 251

Afterword 265

Acknowledgment 269

Resources find Recommended Reading 271

Sources and Research 275

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Stop Giving It Away: How to Stop Self-Sacrificing and Start Claiming Your Space, Power, and Happiness 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Mallory_SupernaturalFan More than 1 year ago
Review: STOP GIVING IT AWAY by Cherilynn Vreeland Psychotherapist Cherilynn Vreeland draws on decades of experience to identify how--and why--so many individuals "give it away": giving of their time, attention, energy, and empathy, to their detriment, also preventing the recipients from learning their own self-determination. Years ago, Robin Norwood wrote of "women who love too much." Ms. Vreeland explains it's not just women, and it's not confined to just emotional and physical intimacy. It's a lifestyle. Smoothly written and easy to understand, STOP GIVING IT AWAY is an eye-opener 
Joyce_Marter More than 1 year ago
Such an important book!  A must-read for every woman. Easy to read, great examples and practical solutions. Perfect for any woman interested in practicing better self-care, setting healthier boundaries and feeling better about herself and her relationships. I loved it!