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Stop Hurting the Woman You Love: Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior
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Stop Hurting the Woman You Love: Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior

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by Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, Elaine Eldridge (With)
 

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A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking.

End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop

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A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking.

End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781592853540
Publisher:
Hazelden Publishing
Publication date:
04/28/2006
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
193,249
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.50(d)

Meet the Author

Charlie Donaldson is director of the Men's Resource Center in Holland, Michigan. He has specialized in working with men for twelve years and offers batterer intervention, substance abuse counseling, and men's therapy groups. As an adjunct professor in the School of Social Work at Grand Valley State University in Allendale, Michigan. Donaldson specializing in working with male interns focusing on men's issues. He has presented seminars for other therapists on the psychology of men who abuse women, obstacles and approaches to working with men in therapy, risk and lethality issues for batterers, and interventions for angry and assaultive men. Charlie was instrumental in creating the Batterer Intervention Service Coalition of Michigan and the Lakeshore Alliance Against Domestic and Sexual Violence of Ottawa County, Michigan. He is credentialed as a Limited Licensed Psychologist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Addictions Counselor I and holds M.A. degrees in English and in Counseling Psychology.

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Stop Hurting the Woman You Love: Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
buswoman More than 1 year ago
Reading this book was life altering for me. I learned so much as to how abuse overtook my life without even realizing it was abuse. I will be forever greatful for this book and I have bought several to give to other women who I know are being abused and really don't know it. Very liberating to know I am not crazy like my husband has told me for the 35 years we were married.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was a lifesaver for me. I understood that I was being verbally abused but what I wanted was a book to help HIM understand why he would do that to someone he loves. (And he DOES love me). This book had a lot of credibility to him because it was written by 2 MEN. It wasn't written by an abused woman, or therapist looking to empower the woman to leave her man. It is aimed at helping the abusive party see the harm they are doing and WHY they do it. It is aimed at saving the relationship if possible but also explains beautifully why the woman left (if she already has) and that the reason for her leaving was the abusive treatment. My boyfriend agreed to read the book to save our relationship. He has a huge ego and is very successful professionally but has 2 failed marriages and a failed relationship with a live in girlfriend under his belt. His life experiences are showing him that what he had been doing has not been working. Failure at anything is intolerable to him so he is motivated to do the work. This book points out that abuse is always about CONTROL. It goes over in detail the different types of control and the tactics used to maintain that. The book also points out that many abusive men have the belief that he is ENTITLED to control his woman simply because 'he's the man'. They use that assertion to justify the abuse given to a woman who protests this control. They make it very clear that the relationship WILL NOT WORK unless he can change that belief to the belief that a woman has a right to be heard, a right to do what she wants, and should never suffer abuse for 'failing' to comply. It is a unique book and will help your partner understand what is going on under the abusive behavior do he can change it. The one negative review posted here is also posted verbatim on Amazon too. Looks like the information in the book hit quite a nerve, hopefully it won't discourage you from purchasing a much needed guide for the couple experiencing abuse. Another book that is even more powerful is 'Why Does He Do That?' By Lundy Bancroft. It is also written by a man who counsels men in court ordered treatment groups for being abusive. It is unbelievably good but written more with the abused woman in mind. Get both!
Pathillary More than 1 year ago
What a joke. I have never seen a book this badly written, with such outdated information. It is obvious the the author believes all marital problems are the fault of the husband / man. Their contention that men can't be victims of domestic violence is obtuse. The idea that if the woman withholds sex, cooking or the children, or talking bad to the children about her husband it is usually the fault of the man is unfounded and prejudicial against men. Don't waste your money on this book unless you have an outhouse (the one place the pages from this book may be useful.)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
xD Over-draaaaamatic...