from a Pastor and Teacher
Communication expert Dr. Michael D. Sedler offers groundbreaking, practical strategies for identifying, counteracting, and responding biblically to gossip, criticism, and negative words, and learning to speak words that bring life.
Through both biblical and modern-day examples, Sedler reveals how profoundly words can hurt--or heal. This book offers multiple tools to reveal, step by step, the impact of verbal contamination; how to identify and counteract it; why silence in the face of negativity isn't enough; and how parents, leaders, teachers, spouses, and friends can build one another up by choosing life-giving words.
He also shows how to
•discern why people relay destructive gossip
•identify a negative conversation and counteract it
•experience cleansing from conversational pollution
•find freedom and reconciliation with those who have spoken harm
|Publisher:||Baker Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)|
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Table of Contents
1 The Power of the Spoken Word 13
2 Here Comes the Pitch: Being on the Alert 23
3 Controlling the Tongue 37
4 Attitude: The Cornerstone of Life 51
5 Why Do We Gossip? 67
6 Keeping Free from Verbal Contamination 85
7 Subtle Seductions in Conversation 99
8 Avoiding False Alignments 115
9 What Happens When Fear Talks? 129
10 How to Judge Impurity 147
11 Walking and Speaking in Truth 163
12 The Cleansing Process 181
13 Words That Heal 199
14 Restoring Relationships 211
15 Closer to Home 225
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Disclosure: I received a complimentary book to facilitate this review. All opinions are my own. Most of us know that it's not fun to be the victim of gossip or slander. And we know we probably shouldn't speak ill of others. But there's a new book that explores these, and also the effect of hearing too much negative talk - beginning right away with pointing out how often we get messages that it's really OK to talk bad about other people (talk and reality shows that feature sensational and controversial stories and exploit the people involved, media outlets that focus on celebrity and political scandals, other reality shows that revolve around back-biting and embarrassing other people). I've heard a lot lately about using the acronym THINK before talking - True (or Thoughtful), Honest, Intelligent, Necessary, Kind. In Stopping Words that Hurt, Dr. Michael Sedler explores why gossip is so easy to fall into and discusses avoiding gossip and "verbal contamination." What I find even more helpful, however, is the fact that at the end of the book, there is a chapter on words that heal, a chapter on restoring relationships, and a set of eight clearly written guidelines to help prevent falling into using words that hurt in the future. I liked the book, but especially those last three chapters. Without condemning anyone, the book is clear on the dangers and repercussions of negative speech. But instead of just looking at prevention (which is important) it also looks at healing and restoring, which helps fill out the book and make it even more helpful and hopeful.
he Bible clearly says death and life are in the power of the tongue, but many times we hear ourselves saying things we know we shouldn't have said. Then there are those times that people tell us words that destroys us. Words are that powerful, thus James, the brother of Jesus aptly says anyone who can control their tongue has surely matured. How can we stop our words from hurting others and how can we stop others from hurting us through their words? Dr. Michael D. Sedler, gives us the answers we are all looking for in his book 'Stopping words that hurt-positive words in a world gone negative.' In this wonderful book, Dr. Sedler first tells us the importance of the spoken word. In a world that promotes or condones white lies, this books shows us there is nothing white about white lies and reveals how dark they really are. This book can be read as a loving correction to most of us who has made it their ambition to air their views even though they result in edification to the hearer. I will be lying if I say I enjoyed reading the book, because no one ever enjoys it when they are corrected. But the book was written out of love and the love of Christ leads to repentance. It is this love of Christ knitted throughout the book that keeps you reading on, knowing your tongue will never be the same when you reach page 234. I recommend reading this book highly and please note I received this book for free from Chosen a division of Baker Publishing Group for reviewing.
Helpful book on watching your words.
It made me more aware of what words and subject matter I should and should not use - to avoid hurting others.
Fair warning! If you are going to read this book you will have to put your big girl/ big boy pants on! I guarantee you the Holy Spirit is going to convict you! It isn’t a book to be read just once or even twice, but many times and studied along with the scriptures. It isn’t going to give you a quick read it, fix it solution. . It does give you the tools to make a lifelong pursuit of making your words pleasing to God, written, spoken or even listening to others. Be ready to get serious! I have read many books on the subject of the tongue and this is by far the most thorough and extensive. As soon as you begin reading you will think of someone who is offensive and cruel in their speech. The gossip, the slanderer, the critic, will all pop into your head, probably with people’s names attached. Stop yourself and focus on looking at yourself. After all, by reading this book, you are the only one you can help change. Words can be a slippery hole of transgression we easily fall into, damaging not only our lives but the lives of others. The sad part is we so easily excuse ourselves, thinking it really isn’t that important, then “corrupt communication” becomes an unconscious way of life. Mr. Sedler covers so many areas that one rarely thinks to look at. He also helps you view our communication from God’s perspective. At the end of each chapter are questions for self-examination. This book is well written and easy to read. I like the multitude of scriptures the author uses to guide you, and also the answers he gives to help you apply them. A powerful book! I received this book free from Bethany House Publishers. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own