Thawing Toxic Relationships, is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you! If you can relate to the Iceberg Model, or help people who can relate, Thawing Toxic Relationships is a "must have". Learning to build healthy relationships is a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family system.
Growing up in a moderate-to-severely dysfunctional family does not offer the necessary training to co-create a healthy, happy & functional relationship. Just as Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome heals your relationship with yourself; Thawing Toxic Relationships helps you heal your relationships with those who are most important to you! We have deficits in communication, setting boundaries, choosing safe partners, emotional regulation (either too numb or feel things too intensely), and in living a balanced, happy and productive life.
Based upon Carl Jung's idea that "One cannot have a healthy relationship with others until they first develop a healthy relationship with themselves", the author recommends completing Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome prior to completing Thawing Toxic Relationships, especially if your family of origin was moderately to severely dysfunctional. In severe cases it is best to start with Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings is also highly recommended for anyone who is not sure where to start.
About the Author
Don Carter, MSW, LCSW has been a therapist for nearly three decades during which time he has been employed at several mental health agencies around Mid-Missouri. He has held positions from entry level up to manager of a chemical dependency program at a large hospital. His primary specialty areas include addictions, codependency, mood disorders, PTSD, and Adult/Child Syndrome. The middle of seven children, Don grew up on a farm with hard-working parents who had their own issues from childhood. The farm work lead to a scholarship to play football at the University of Missouri at Columbia in 1977-79. He followed that with a brief stint with the New Orleans Saints in 1980. That experience was cut short by a developing problem with alcohol and drugs. A series of childhood tragedies and bouts with addictions lead Don to his first encounter with the mental health system when he entered an inpatient treatment program at 29 years old. Don found treatment and recovery such a profoundly gratifying experience that he returned to school, finished two degrees, became a licensed therapist and dedicated himself to helping others find their way out too. The Iceberg Model in his bestselling "Thawing the Iceberg Series" was a product of the years that followed. Don attributes most of the success of that series to his relationship with God. "I really feel I am living the plan He has for my life and carrying a message He wants me to carry."