Few topics are more difficult for parents to discuss with their daughters than dating and relationships. Due to their lack of knowledge about the world their teens face coupled with the scant dating information they received as teens, many parents feel ill-equiped to guide their daughters through the minefield that is teen dating.In The 10 Myths of Teen Dating, this father and daughter team combines the latest scientific research with poignant, personal stories to help parents engage their daughters in wise conversations. Weaving in solid biblical truths with practical application and discussion starters, Daniel and Jacquelyn seek to equip parents to teach their daughters how to date for today … and tomorrow.
|Publisher:||David C Cook|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.25(h) x (d)|
About the Author
Daniel Anderson is a former college All-American basketball player, an expert educator, and a father of two grown daughters and a son. As a veteran high school teacher in the public school system, Daniel was troubled by how his students approached dating and relationships. He and his daughter, Jacquelyn Anderson—a twentysomething and also a high school teacher—decided to address this need by equipping parents with The 10 Myths of Teen Dating, their first book together. Daniel and Jacquelyn both make their home in Portland, Oregon.
Table of Contents
Introduction: A Different Kind of Dating Book 13
Dating Myth #1 If I Had a Boyfriend I Would Be Happy 25
Dating Myth #2 I Should Trust My Feelings 49
Dating Myth #3 I'm in Love 75
Dating Myth #4 Sex Will Enhance My Relationship 97
Dating Myth #5 Love and Sex Are the Same 119
Dating Myth #6 Sex Comes without Consequences 137
Dating Myth #7 It's Okay to Break Up and Get Back Together 165
Dating Myth #8 He Will Never Hit Me Again 185
Dating Myth #9 A Rebound Relationship Is Just What I Need 209
Dating Myth #10 Serial Dating and Living Together Will Help Me Stay Married 223
Conclusion: Margaret and Rollie 237
What People are Saying About This
"The toughest period of parenting is during the teen years. I survived it with my three, but there were days when I wasn't sure. I wish this book had been available twenty-five years ago. But the good news is that it's available now and offers real common sense, as well as practical and road-tested principles of parenting. Don't wait to read it until your daughters are sixteen—read it when they are twelve and be prepared!"Mike Huckabee, former governor of Arkansas and talk show host
"The 10 Myths of Teen Dating is a crucial book for parents as they guide their girls to become 'smart daters.' This book, written by a wise father, educator, and husband, is filled with information and life lessons. It offers concrete advice on starting conversations that encourage girls to bring self-respect, awareness, and intentionality to their relationships."Bea Herzberg, Pinterest phenomenon with more than 1.05 million followers
"For parents to understand their daughters better and help them navigate through dating, this book is a must-read."Kim and Krickett Carpenter, authors of The Vow
"Dating is a cultural reality that is not going away. However, teenagers need guidelines. In The 10 Myths of Teen Dating, Daniel Anderson and Jacquelyn Anderson give realistic guidance. I highly recommend this book."Gary Chapman, PhD, author of The 5 Love Languages
"I'm the father of a soon-to-be-teenage girl. I can't imagine a better book about teenagers and dating. The lessons of The 10 Myths of Teen Dating are sure to help any family."Todd Hoffman, star of Discovery Channel's Gold Rush
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I picked up this book because, even though we don't allow my daughter to date yet, she does talk to boys and text with them. Recently a boy stopped talking to her because she couldn't date and that "made it complicated." Uhhh, yeah, because teen dating never is complicated (hear my voice dripping with sarcasm). Anyway, after I laughed a bit I found this book and purchased it. It was well worth it. Daniel and his daughter, Jacquelyn, keep it real. They don't shy away from tough subjects and speak the truth. This is honestly probably the best book I have read on the subject of teen dating and how to handle it with your child. There were some scary statistics when it came to how boys view sex that honestly make me a bit scared for when my son gets older. I need a book for him! There are great discussion questions at the end of each chapter for you to go through with your daughter, as well. If you have a teenage daughter I highly recommend this book
*My Thoughts* I was actually surprised by what I found in the pages of this title. The book was well written, factual, and was laced with just enough Biblical truths to be appropriate for non-Christians as well as believers. Daniel's experiences in a school setting for 20+ years gave him valuable insight into the subject, and his daughter was a great addition to the book. Overall, a pleasant read with some valuable information, great for moms of teens or teens to read. _______________________________________________________ *My Rating* I give The 10 Myths of Teen Dating by Daniel Anderson and Jacquelyn Anderson... 4 stars!! _______________________________________________ *I received this book free of charge from the author.
And I Thought ... Practical much needed resource for parents! A book every parent needs to read. The book is filled with realistic personal stories. Reflection questions end each chapter allowing the parent/reader to contemplate and ready themselves to discuss the content with his/her daughter. Here are a couple of examples . . . From Chapter 1- Myth1-If I Had a Boyfriend I would Be Happy. Questions-What have you taught your daughter about where happiness is found? From Chapter 4- Myth 4- Sex Will Enhance My Relationship Question-What have you told your daughter about why boys want to have sex? Discussion questions follow the reflection questions and provide very candid opportunities to discuss the content together with your child/children. This is a great book and I highly recommend all parents to read it. Although it is really written for girls I think that older guys (college students) might find valuable information. Anything that parents can do to ensure the safety of their daughters and son's as well is proactive. Giving children honesty and truth preparing them to 'date smart' is parenting 'smart'. I received a complimentary copy from Litfuse.
An invaluable book that I wish would've been available before my daughters approached the dating age. This book is written from two perspectives-that of the father who will never be ready and that of the daughter who's always been ready (so she thinks). Although co-author Jacquelyn is grown now, she provides an insight into some of the very honest thoughts going through a girl's mind during the dating years. As a mom of two older teenage daughters, some of it I knew (through painful experience) and other was enlightening. The chapters are divided by myths teenage girls are known to believe: If I Had a Boyfriend I Would Be Happy I Should Trust My Feelings I'm in Love He Will Never Hit Me Again And six more myths that whether my daughters admit it or not I know these thoughts have passed through their minds-because at some point they passed through mine. The chapters are filled with statics, scientific explanation, and experience by both authors and while the topics have a Christian world-view the book can be picked up by any non-believer and they would find it equally as pertinent to protecting their daughter and preparing her for the world of dating. Preparation. That is what this book stresses. As Daniel Anderson admits, his rule for his daughter dating was to wait until she was older, more mature, read. As his daughter, Jacquelyn Anderson admits, all her father's rule did was push her to date earlier and secretly, unprepared. Both admit to the mistake of not communicating and that's what this book facilitates. Conversation. At the end of each chapter are questions for reflection and questions for dialogue between parent and daughter. The desire here is to bring up valid points of argument on both sides and discuss the truths behind the myths to prepare our daughters for the roller coaster season of dating. It is my belief that there is much in the world that is out to harm our children and our best defense is an offense of preparation. This book will help prepare you and your daughter to engage in a battle of myths that could potentially harm your child (possibly even for a lifetime) and keep them from the healthy relationships God longs for them to experience. There aren't many parenting books that I advocate but this is a MUST-HAVE for all parents (including those with boys-because, hey, if you can help your son understand these myths-he'll be all the more prepared to be the kind of young man a girl would be lucky to date!) to have on their shelves. Read it. More than once. Listen. Discuss. And let's prepare our daughters to "date smart, avoid disaster, and protect her future." *I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.
THE 10 MYTHS OF TEEN DATING is a book I wish my parents would've read when I was a teen. I made so many mistakes in dating it isn't even funny. He "loves" me, but he "loves" her and is dating both of us. Verbally abusive. Controlling. Oh, and the dating cycle, breaking up and getting back together, over and over and over. I am having both of my teen daughters read this book with me and we are discussing it. I think this is invaluable information and I will keep it for my tween daughter to read someday. Invaluable resource that will be invaluable to mom's, dad's and teens. Well-written and informative, not preachy. A book to read and reread. Very relevant.
This is a book that I will need to re-read a few times in order to fully process all that is in it. I was impressed with the way the book was set up and by the co-writing of the father and daughter team. Although the author is a Christian and he does make a couple of references to a few Christian beliefs that he personally holds, this book is not written from a “religious” point of view. Instead the authors have used experience that they have gained over the years as educators in the public school system, working with teens, and through personal experience to break down many “myths” that can cause problems for teen girls. I thought that the “myths” were explained and discussed very well. The authors point out how important it is to have an honest and open relationship with your children, talking about the types of situations and decisions that begin with the dating scene. Sometimes using humor and sometimes the story of a former student or friend, the authors share good recommendations. This book delves into some scary topics and some tips to address these situaions, as well, and hopefully avoid them, too. This book was a wealth of good information. I received a complimentary copy of this book. All opinions are my own.
THE 10 MYTHS OF TEEN DATING is a thorough and resourceful guide for parents on opening up discussions on dating with teenage daughters. Full of statistics and actual experiences, it gives a solid base as to what teens believe and what they should know. If you're looking for something to help you as a parent broach this topic with your daughter, this is the perfect segue. I found this book to be very informative, especially reading it is a mother. I also thought it was honest and straightforward. Dating in all it's various forms, challenges, and risks is thoroughly discussed. The difference between girls and boys, their emotions, and how they see intimacy is also discussed. This book does not shy away from consequences of moving forward too soon in relationships, which I think is something almost never talked about nor taught in schools or the media. It also didn't shy away from other hard topics, like rape and girls feeling used and abused. I liked that the book also didn't come off as preachy or overly religious, which makes it useful for everyone regardless of religion. I also liked how each chapter focused on a myth and had both a view from the father and from his daughter (co-authors for this book) and usually some experiences from others. Each chapter ended with "Questions for Reflection" and "Questions for You and Your Daughter to Discuss," which I also found helpful in actually opening a discussion. I do wish there would have been a summary of each chapter as well, but otherwise, the information was organized well. The author sums up the purpose of the book quite well in the introduction: "So, I wrote this book for you, the parent, so that you might engage your daughter in discussions around dating and her future happiness." In the end, was it what I wished for? I found this to be extremely helpful and a book that will be kept on our shelves and used in the coming years with my daughters. Source: Received a complimentary copy from the publisher through Litfuse Publicity, which did not affect my review in any way.