Each of us longs to be loved and accepted for the person we truly are. There is no better opportunity than our love relationship for us to be fully ourselves. Ironically, since our partner is so central to our life, his or her validation becomes critical and we are inclined to hide our true self. We become guarded from the most important person in our lives. The soul-baring intimacy and willingness to know and be known that made the beginning of love so passionate and exciting becomes simply functional. It is replaced with feelings of apprehension and guardedness. Over time we move from a passionate open relationship to one that is quietly cautious. It may work as a partnership, but the spark of the early years is down to embers, at best. You may wonder if it is possible to regain genuine connection. Dr. Joel Block, a psychologist specializing in work with couples for many years provides an effi cient, clinically tested program that he has used successfully with couples in his practice. It is not about trying to change each other, which is a waste of time. It is about understanding each other and ourselves at a deeper level than ever before.
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About the Author
Table of Contents
Other Books by Joel Block Ph.D. ii
1. Test Your Openness 1
Find out how open you really are.
Mastering the Basics
2. Emotional Conferencing 20
The key to relating better (with everyone)!
3. Six Benefits Heading Your Way 31
You’ll reap these benefits and more!
4. The Conference Illustrated 36
Follow one couple’s progress and learn how to equal
or exceed it.
Boosting Your Ability to Relate
5. The Unfinished Business of your Childhood 46
Check back with your family of origin.
6. Avoiding the Blame Game 51
Couple dynamics can be tricky.
7. Advanced Listening/Responding Strategies 66
Learn to speak in your lover’s voice.
8. Seven Positive Experiences to Share with your Partner 80
The rewards of emotional conferencing are powerful.
9. Seven Tips for Self-Soothing 84
This is an essential tool for a life well-lived.
10. FAQs 89
Anticipating some of your questions.
11. Epilogue 95