The 3 Promises: Find Joy Every Day. Do What You Love. Make A Difference.

The 3 Promises: Find Joy Every Day. Do What You Love. Make A Difference.

by David J. Pollay


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ISBN-13: 9781454912484
Publisher: Sterling
Publication date: 10/21/2014
Pages: 208
Product dimensions: 5.70(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

David J. Pollay, M.A.P.P., is the creator and author of the international phenomenon, The Law of the Garbage Truck®, now translated into 12 languages. Pollay is an internationally sought-after speaker whose work has been featured on ABC, NPR, the CW, Univision, and in Businessweek Small Biz Magazine, Business Digest, the Chicago Tribune, the Los Angeles Times, and media worldwide. He was a featured speaker at TEDx Delray Beach. Pollay is a founding associate executive director of the International Positive Psychology Association and has held leadership positions at Yahoo!, MasterCard, Global Payments, and AIESEC. He lives in FL with his wife and two daughters. Visit David online at For information and resources about The 3 Promises, visit

Table of Contents

Introduction: The 3 Promises Revealed vii

The 3 Promises Quiz xi

Part 1 Find Joy Every Day: The First Promise

1 The Sticker Story: Positive Triggers 3

2 The Power of Positive Daily Rituals 6

3 A Daily Dose of Awe Meditation and Gratitude Prayer 9

4 The Secret to Getting Back Up 12

5 Be a Day-Starter 15

6 A Bridge to Your Positive Future 17

7 Stop for Gratitude Moments 20

8 Act on Gratitude Impulses 22

9 The Gratitude Path 24

10 The Power of Your Gratitude Chain 26

11 Make What You're Wearing Meaningful 32

12 Talking to Yourself Can Make You Happier 34

13 The Rule of the Narrator 37

14 Don't Play Email Lottery 40

15 Look for Beauty and Opportunity 42

16 Are You Laughing? 44

Part 2 Do What You Love: The Second Promise

17 A Dream Can Change Your Life 43

18 It May Be Time for a "Fill Year" 51

19 How to Keep Your Job During Your "Fill Year" 53

20 Let Other People Teach You 55

21 Tell People Your Dreams 58

22 The Rule of the Test Drive 60

23 Take "The Morning Test™" 63

24 A New Way to Say "Yes" 65

25 Get the Backstory of Success 67

26 Change Your Seat and Come to Life 69

27 "What's Your Story?!" 71

28 To Predict Your Future, Look at Your Beliefs 73

29 Build Your Own Case for Success, and Believe in It 75

30 Don't Hold Yourself Back 78

31 Don't Hide 81

32 Your Success and Rocket Science 84

33 The Great Depression Success Formula 86

34 Lay Down Your Towel 89

35 T.H.E. K.E.Y. T.E.S.T.™ of Doing What You Love 91

Part 3 Make A Difference: The Third Promise

36 The Good Packer 96

37 Butterfly Living 99

38 The Law of the Host 101

39 Be a "Cycler," Not a "Clicker" 104

40 The Power of Your "Love Example" 107

41 Hug Now. Don't Save It 110

42 Prefer, Yes. Judge, No 112

43 Upstream, Downstream: Where Are You Standing? 114

44 Don't Get Distracted by Differences 116

45 Who Do You Run To? 119

46 Give Up the Game Show Mindset 122

47 Lessons from an Unexpected Letter 124

48 Thank You, Ms. Zwitter 127

49 Giving Beyond Self-Interest 130

50 Making a Difference No Matter the Circumstances 133

51 Giving Beyond Loss 136

52 Giving Quietly 139

Part 4 The 3 Promises Challenge

53 The 3 Promises 3-Day Challenge 144

54 The 3 Promises Fulfilled in Fifteen to Thirty Minutes 153

Part 5 Amplify Your Positive Impact

55 The 3 Promises Conversations 164

56 The 3 Promises Projects 168

57 Your 3 Promises Identity 173

58 The Promise Cycle and the Garbage Cycle 176

Appendix: Bringing the 3 Promises to Work 180

References 185

Acknowledgments 187

Index 189

About the Author 192

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
David Pollay has an imagination and natural gift for developing ideas that make you feel positive about yourself and life. He is one of the positive thinkers of our time. Great addition to his first book; The Law of the Garbage Truck. James H. Godden, Ed.S.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It's one thing to read "The 3 Promises", it's another to live them. Positive Psychology leader and author, David Pollay, sets a very simple, yet effective course for taking action everyday to live a fulfilling, purposeful and happy life. This book is the perfect companion to his first best selling book "The Law Of The Garbage Truck". If you are looking for fresh inspiration, search no further. This book is AWESOME! and so is David Pollay. - Marta Tracy, one of the original creators of E! Entertainment Television and The Style Network. Author of Starring You! 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is one of those simple little books that makes a profound impact on your life.   Thank you for giving me the practical advice and motivation to change my life for the better.  This book makes a great gift.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book gives you practical advice on making changes in your life to improve your overall satisfaction with life.  You learn to focus on the things that  give you joy and maximize them.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed this book. I would highly recommend it.  It makes you look at life in a different perspective. I have been really trying to follow the three promises to help make each day of my life a happier one and not take anything for granted. You never know what tomorrow will bring. I try to find Joy in everyday, even  if it a little something. I try to do one thing I love everyday even it is small, because it is important to do things for yourself. I know I make a different each day as I am a teacher. This is a must read!!
MikeyP_1969 More than 1 year ago
DJP's new book is awesome. I love it for many reasons, but mainly because it is actually working in my life. Unlike so many of the self-help books I have read in the past, the 3 Promises gives me an immediate challenge to better myself. I really dig how it has brought me joy already! I learned how not to be a Garbage Truck in DJP's first book and now I know how to bring joy into my life by bringing joy into others lives as well.  I totally recommend this book to anyone who is looking joy in there lives. Not permanent happiness...who has that?...but at the very least some joy everyday is possible! Supercool! 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is excellent, The 3 Promises is filled with a lot of amusing stories making it easy to read and follow. In addition this book can help you find simple ways to find joy every day, do what you love every day and lastly make a difference which will increase your happiness. This truly is an amazing book and I’m so happy I was able to read this book I am going to let my sister borrow it so she can look at life in a new perspective. The simplicity of this book makes it easy for almost anyone to read. And David truly makes it easy to incorporate the 3 promises in even the busiest person’s life.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
David Pollay is an amazing person he is inspirational and the Book The 3 Promises is really easy to relate to! I was so inspired by him and this book I decided to do a book report about this book! I got to meet David Pollay and he is such a great person very kind and he is his book! I believe everyone should read his book and try and practice the 3 promises and try the challenge that this in his book. If you haven't  read his Law of the Garbage Truck you should also give that a try !! That is my next book I will be reading and I am so excited! The 3 promises is a really easy book to read and easy to relate to it is also sectioned of by promises the first is finding joy everyday, doing what you love everyday, and making a difference everyday. Also each chapter has is own promise action to do so you can also try. This is a book everyone should put on their to read list!!!                      By: Sophia Lee                                       
Ana_Patricia_Cosentino More than 1 year ago
The 3 Promises is an excellent book that conveys simple, yet powerful, steps that you can take to live a more fulfilling life in all areas!! So often we get caught up in going through the motions of life that we forget that we deserve more out of life. David Pollay’s down-to-earth style of writing made me feel like I was listening to a long-time friend. He integrated his extensive knowledge in the field of Positive Psychology with personal life experiences on how he lived The 3 Promises; which enabled me to see how living through those filters can create the life that you want. The book is enjoyable to read and is well organized around each of the 3 Promises: Find Joy Every Day, Do What You Love, and Make a Difference. Each chapter is told through stories of David’s life and gives you actions and/or questions to consider to better live that particular promise. Even the chapter names are meaningful in that they evoke the lessons of each chapter. I keep a copy of the Table of Contents as a primer on the lessons of living through The 3 Promises. The 3 Promises actively engages you right from the beginning of the book with The 3 Promises Quiz; which gives you a clear indication of how fulfilled you are on a daily basis. Later on towards the middle, you can take T.H.E. K.E.Y. T.E.S.T of Doing What You Love. This quiz gives you additional information on how actively engaged you are in doing what you love. At the end of the book, David’s The 3 Promises 3-Day Challenge offers a simple format and suggestions of things that you can do to fulfill each promise on a daily basis. When I took the challenge, it raised my awareness on how and where I focused my energy. I saw results immediately on the first day! You can apply these concepts to helping your family, your team at work, and your community. David reminded me that I owe it to myself and more importantly that I have the power within me to create the life that I want by committing to The 3 Promises. I highly recommend this book! …Ana Patricia Cosentino
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The Three Promises is something everyone can carry out everyday, though sometimes we might not even be conscious that we are doing it, but we are, and effectively identifying and carrying out these promises will help you lead a more fulfilling life.  Now, don’t get me wrong, disappointments do happen and things often will go wrong, but instead dwelling in these situations that we cannot change, why not change our attitude about it and try finding another path around it?  This is a gratitude path.   This book is easy to read, David has shared many stories and concepts, many short stories; it’s these short stories that we can all relate to, such as staying up late out of habit, saying “yes” when we really want to say “no,” and showing gratitude and love to those close to you.  This book, in my eyes, questioned my everyday actions.  Am I doing the best that I could have? Will I regret not showing how much I love and appreciate them if anything were to happen?  Do I dwell on negative emotions for too long?  David has truly been inspiring, and I believe everybody can learn something in this book.  I promise to find joy everyday, do what I love, and make a difference.  It is so simple, yet, so life-changing.