
The 4 Habits of All Successful Relationships: Improving Your Relationships at Home, at Work and in Life.
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The 4 Habits of All Successful Relationships: Improving Your Relationships at Home, at Work and in Life.
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Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781912863723 |
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Publisher: | Malcolm Down Publishing |
Publication date: | 06/01/2021 |
Pages: | 300 |
Product dimensions: | 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.62(d) |
About the Author
Dr Andrea Taylor-Cummings is the co-founder of 4 Habits Consulting and Soulmates Academy Foundation. Andrea and Jon have hosted a TEDx talk which has had over 3 million views.
Read an Excerpt
Learning to be more CURIOUS than critical So many friendships, couples and teams lose out on great relationships because the person who could complement them the most is often their diametric opposite in terms of skills, workstyle and approach. They can be the most frustrating to work with if you don’t understand each other. LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner did a survey back in 2018 which concluded that “people don’t leave companies, they leave bosses” and the top two reasons were being overly criticised and feeling micro-managed, two classic symptoms of personality strengths being misunderstood and mismanaged. When our first response is to judge or criticise people instead of getting curious about their different perspectives, we shut people down, kill their creativity and teach them not to speak up or be truthful. We also teach them how to blame rather than learn from mistakes. And we end up with editing and exclusion rather than authenticity and inclusion.
Table of Contents
Why Read This Book & What You'll Get Out Of It
Introduction - The secret to successful relationships 15
Part A Taking Control of Your Relationships
Chapter 1 Managing the WILL to keep relationships alive 33
Chapter 2 Building the SKILL to do relationships well 49
Chapter 3 How our levels of SKILL and WILL impact our relationships 57
Part B Mastering the 4 Habits®
Habit #1 BE CURIOUS, not critical
Chapter 4 Overcoming our in-built tendency to criticize 83
Chapter 5 Mining for strengths in personality differences 97
Habit #2 BE CAREFUL, not crushing
Chapter 6 Why we end up crushing each other… 119
Chapter 7 Strategies for treating each other with care, during conflict… 135
Habit #3 ASK, don't assume
Chapter 8 What's driving our assumptions? 159
Chapter 9 What would be most helpful to ASK for? 179
Chapter 10 Clarifying and protecting what matters most 207
Chapter 11 The art of ASKing well 241
Habit #4 CONNECT, before you correct
Chapter 12 Connection and belonging 269
Chapter 13 Getting better at connecting 285
Part C Taking Responsibility
Chapter 14 Taking responsibility for yourself 313
Chapter 15 Taking responsibility as a leader 325
Chapter 16 Taking responsibility as a society 343
Appendices 355
Footnotes and References 365
Acknowledgements 379
What People are Saying About This
The importance of relationships has never been more critical and The 4 Habits provides invaluable and tangible tools and behaviour changes to build successful relationships both at home and at work. The three-part structure makes it easy to digest and implement with strong reference points so the reader can make steady and lasting changes. A fantastic toolkit for us all to build our essential relational intelligence skills.
It’s one thing for someone to hand you a map. It’s another thing to have an expert guide walk you to that next great place. In this case, it’s two guides, Dr. Andrea and Jonathan Taylor-Cummings. Their 4 Habits book can help guide and strengthen your team, workplace, and family, and improve your most important relationships. I’ve been blessed to get to know both Jonathan and Andrea and I highly recommend them and their hugely helpful new book.
With the 4 Habits, the Taylor-Cummings have put together a template to help anyone have better relationships – whether in the boardroom or the bedroom! Dotted throughout with real-life examples, they present with clarity well-researched wisdom and strategies to enable anyone to develop their connection and communication with those who matter most. The ideas in this book aren’t just something to read, but to put into practice and reap the rewards.
This book is a treasure chest of rich vignettes, reflective questions and practical exercises that deepen our understanding of factors that can damage relationships and actions we can take to develop healthy relationships. It is not just a book about personal relationships, it offers insights as to how we can build productive relationships in the ever increasing complex work settings we now inhabit. The blend of honest reflection and evidence based research material makes this a wonderful resource.
Healthy, respectful relationships focused on mutual flourishing are the bedrock of the lives of couples and families and are vitally important in the workplace as well. This is also a key social justice issue as the evidence shows that healthy couple relationships are a bulwark against poverty, so I warmly welcome this practical book on how we can all keep our relationships in good repair and iron out those bad habits.’
Reading Group Guide
Learning to be more CURIOUS than critical
So many friendships, couples and teams lose out on great relationships because the person who could complement them the most is often their diametric opposite in terms of skills, workstyle and approach. They can be the most frustrating to work with if you don’t understand each other.
LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner did a survey back in 2018 which concluded that “people don’t leave companies, they leave bosses” and the top two reasons were being overly criticised and feeling micro-managed, two classic symptoms of personality strengths being misunderstood and mismanaged.
When our first response is to judge or criticise people instead of getting curious about their different perspectives, we shut people down, kill their creativity and teach them not to speak up or be truthful. We also teach them how to blame rather than learn from mistakes. And we end up with editing and exclusion rather than authenticity and inclusion.