Clinical psychologist and radio host Dr. Steven Craig offers a revolutionary book that helps couples identify the six different people they need to become over the course of their relationship in order to grow together rather than apart.
Throughout his career as a marriage counselor, Dr. Craig has identified a common thread in strained relationships: the belief that change should be avoided at all costs. Determined to destroy this harmful myth, Dr. Craig presents a concept as straightforward as it is original: Marriages don’t fail when people change; they fail when people don’t change.
In 6 Husbands, Dr. Craig divides the typical marriage into six stages, outlining both the common misconceptions and opportunities for growth at each level. From the earliest stage of becoming the right person for your spouse in the new marriage; to thinking and acting like a team; to adjusting to the dynamics of parenthood; to caring for older children and elderly parents; to adapting to the empty nest; and then to growing into the golden years and becoming a dependable companion, Dr. Craig offers new communication tools, rules for intimacy, checklists, and assessments designed to inspire change.
The 6 Husbands Every Wife Should Have will revitalize readers’ notions of marriage and turn it into an ongoing activity that husband and wife can conquer actively—together.
|Publisher:||Simon & Schuster|
|Product dimensions:||6.10(w) x 9.20(h) x 1.00(d)|
About the Author
Dr. Steven Craig is a therapist, corporate coach, and host of “Therapy Thursdays” on Detroit’s WDVD radio. He has appeared on ABC World News Tonight with Charles Gibson as well as in the New York Times, Newsweek, Good Housekeeping, and numerous local, national, and international publications. He lives in Birmingham, Michigan.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book offers a meandering presentation of how men must change as a marriage progresses. The downside for me was that it really offers few clear steps to take. Rather, it suggests vague solutions to problems. In addition, the examples seem quite contrived and forced to make the point. I wish I had not wasted my time or money.
As the title suggests, this book is heavily weighted to the perspective of the woman, so much so that I believe it makes this of little use to the couple seeking to understand and correct problems in their marriage. Pg 49 states that for men to be a "good catch" they "They must have outgrown many of their self-centered ways and be willing to share their lives with another person." The corresponding section about the woman suggests nothing to be outgrown. The book suggests that continuous change is necessary, but conveys the message that only women are doing this. Pg 20 "...many women embrace and incorporate changes so well that they risk long themselves in their many roles. However, as they work tirelessly over the years to change from student to businesswoman, to sex kitten, to wife, to mother, to soccer mom, and then sometimes back to businesswoman, many women devote so much energy to meeting others' needs that they lose focus on who they are and what they want from life." Men are portrayed as having to have change forced upon them due to inherent lack of insight, ancient cultural norms, etc. Several of the examples are condescending to men in general. Pg 108-9 "Most women are culturally conditioned to sacrifice themselves for others and to be considerate and nurturing whenever possible. ....All first-time fathers, at some point during the first few months of parenthood, are hit with the realization of how desperately in over their heads there are." Basically, I felt that this was a very frustrating and one-sided read that was of little help to me. If you are a weekend golfing, beer drinking, neglecting the kids, TV watching husband, then this is the perfect book for you. If you are a husband who shares in taking the kids to school, packing lunches, going to PTA, washing dishes, buying groceries, and more and is looking for solutions to problems at home, this book will be too frustrating for the few morsels of useful material that you might find. This is more of a "you go girl, whip that man into shape" type of book. I guess I shouldn't be too put off because the title really sets the stage. But, seriously, if marriages are to be repaired, the approach has to be even-handed, and the author should have known this. I would say, better luck with the next edition. If I could give zero stars for this one, I would. It is just not worth the time.
I found this book to be one-sided. Although he does go into some specifics, he falls short of describing EVENLY what both sides can do to rectify a marriage. He rants about what MEN need to do meanwhile never goes into what is expected and needed from the wife. they go hand in hand. I took his text to be yet another reminder / example of how books and therapists alike simplify the role/mindset of a man and how it can be 'molded' to your liking. May i mold YOU into what I NEED????