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The Art of Hard Conversations: Biblical Tools for the Tough Talks That Matter

The Art of Hard Conversations: Biblical Tools for the Tough Talks That Matter

The Art of Hard Conversations: Biblical Tools for the Tough Talks That Matter

The Art of Hard Conversations: Biblical Tools for the Tough Talks That Matter


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Your next conversation could impact someone's life forever

Hard conversations challenge everyone. Some people make every effort to avoid them altogether; others dive in enthusiastically, damaging relationships in the process. A solid middle ground is difficult to find—especially for those who want to make sure they're following a biblical model for these tough encounters.

Lori Roeleveld firmly believes that the dialogues everyday Christians delay are often the very channels God wants to use to deepen relationships and transform lives. And she is eager to address the challenges they pose and to guide readers to meaningful conversations that rely on the wisdom of the Bible rather than the world.

In The Art of Hard Conversations, Roeleveld provides motivation, inspiration, and practical, readily applied skills to make those tricky talks more effective. Through funny, vulnerable personal stories, sound biblical teaching, and sections of tips and assignments to practice, the principles here are guaranteed to increase the confidence and competence of Christians in discussing sensitive topics of every kind.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780825445552
Publisher: Kregel Publications
Publication date: 02/19/2019
Pages: 240
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Lori Stanley Roeleveld has degrees in psychology and biblical studies, but learned most of what she knows in life's trenches, raising children and working with families in crisis. She currently works in Rhode Island with at-risk families or those who have a child with a serious emotional disorder. Lori's previous books include Jesus and the Beanstalk and Running from a Crazy Man (and Other Adventures Traveling with Jesus). She also writes a popular blog at

Table of Contents

Foreword 11

Acknowledgments 13

Introduction: Why Bother Having Hard Conversations? (Why Is It an Art?) 15

Part 1 Perspectives and Personalities-Understanding and Embracing the Challenge

1 The Place of Personality in Hard Conversations 21

2 Fears, Arguments, and Invisible Walls 35

3 Addressing Our Walls 52

4 Changing Lives 69

5 A Time to Be Silent, a Time to Offend 85

Part 2 Prepare for Success

6 Where Is the Path to the Point? 101

7 What Do I Know About the Other Person? 117

8 What Emotions May Be Involved in This Conversation? 134

9 What Biblical Guidelines Exist for This Conversation? (Is It Based in Truth?) 152

10 Is This Conversation Grounded and Timed in Love? 169

11 What's My Plan for Following Up Either Success or Rejection? 184

Part 3 Putting the Art into Practice

12 Openings and Agreements 197

13 Now We're Talking (Tips for Midtalk) 209

14 Commence Conversations 225

An Invitation to Keep Talking 237

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