Table of Contents
A Word from Dr. Bill, Martha, Dr. Bob, and Dr. Jim xiii
Part I Getting Started: Baby-Care Basics 1
Chapter 1 Getting Attached: What It Means 3
Parenting Your Baby 3
The Seven Baby B's of Attachment Parenting 4
Attachment Parenting Includes Fathers 10
Some Questions You May Have 11
Chapter 2 Ten Tips for Having a Safe and Satisfying Birth 21
Find "Dr. Right" for Yourself - Explore Options 21
Choose the Right Birthing Environment 22
Hire a Labor Coach 22
Get Moving 24
Get Off Your Back 24
Experiment with Labor Positions 25
Use Technology Wisely 25
Use Medical Pain Relief Wisely 25
Avoid an Episiotomy 27
Be Flexible in Formulating Your Birth Plan 27
Chapter 3 Preparing for Baby 29
Choosing Dr. Right for Your Baby 29
Choosing Other VIPs 30
Choosing Whether to Breastfeed or Bottlefeed 31
Circumcised or Intact? 32
Cord Blood Stem Cell Banking 35
Expanded Newborn Screening Blood Test 36
Preparing Your Nest 36
Chapter 4 Getting the Right Start with Your Newborn 41
Baby's First Minutes 41
Bonding - What It Means, How to Do It 43
Getting to Know Your Newborn 47
Attachment-Promoting Behaviors 48
Birthday "Pictures" 50
Routine Hospital Procedures 52
Newborn Jaundice 55
Baby's First Checkup 58
Chapter 5 Postpartum Family Adjustments 60
Nesting-in 60
Role Adjustments 61
Preventing and Overcoming Postpartum Depression 65
Now We Are Three 69
Shaping Up After Childbirth 73
Chapter 6 Caring for Your Baby's Bodily Needs 79
Diapering Your Baby 79
Cord Care 82
Care of the Circumcision Site 83
Nail Care 83
Bathing Baby 84
Keeping Baby Comfortable 88
Pacifiers: In or Out? 90
The Right Touch: The Art of Infant Massage 92
Chapter 7 Common Concerns in the Early Weeks 97
Early Newborn Changes 97
Spitting Up 104
Eyes 105
Baby's Mouth 106
Newborn Skin Marks and Rashes 107
Diaper Rash: Prevention and Treatment 110
Reducing the Risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome 114
Part II Infant Feeding and Nutrition 125
Chapter 8 Breastfeeding: Why and How 127
Why Breast Is Best 127
Preparing for Breastfeeding 134
Right-Start Techniques 137
How Your Breasts Make Milk 144
Common Breastfeeding Questions and Problems 146
Chapter 9 The Breastfeeding Mother: Choices, Challenges 159
Eating Right During Breastfeeding 159
Upsetting Foods in Breast Milk 162
Medicines for Two: Taking Medicines Safely While Breastfeeding 164
Breastfeeding Helpers 168
Getting It Together: Working and Breastfeeding 174
Expressing Milk 177
"Nursing Nuisances," Challenges, and Funny Things That Happen on the Way to the Breast 184
Breastfeeding Special Babies in Special Circumstances 190
Weaning: When and How 202
Chapter 10 Bottlefeeding with Safety and Love 208
Formula Facts 208
How Much? How Often? 216
Preparing Formula 217
Bottlefeeding Tips 221
Weaning Baby from the Bottle 223
A Person at Both Ends of the Bottle 224
Chapter 11 Introducing Solid Foods: When, What, and How 225
Why Wait? 225
Feeding Solids: Six to Nine Months 230
Feeding Strategies 232
Feeding Solids: Nine to Twelve Months 235
Making Your Own Baby Food 240
Commercial Baby Food 242
Bring Out the Cup 242
Chapter 12 Ten Tips for Becoming Your Family's Nutritionist 248
Feed Your Baby Smart Fats 248
Feed Your Baby the Best Carbs 251
Perk Up the Proteins 252
Shape Young Tastes 253
Fill Up with Fiber 253
Value Your Vitamins 254
Mind Your Minerals 255
Pump Up Baby's Iron 256
Make Every Calorie Count 257
Raise a Lean Baby 257
Chapter 13 Feeding the Toddler: One to Two Years 262
Nourishing the Picky Eater 262
Getting Your Toddler to Eat 263
Choosing the Right Milk for Your Toddler 271
Is Your Child Eating Enough? 275
Food Allergies 278
Pesticides: How to Keep Them Out of the Mouths of Babies 284
Part III Contemporary Parenting 289
Chapter 14 Babywearing: The Art and Science of Carrying Your Baby 291
New Support for an Old Idea 291
Choosing the Right Baby Carrier 294
How to Wear Your Baby: A Personal Course 295
The Babywearing Father - Becoming a Shareholder 301
Other Babywearers 304
Wearing Down to Sleep 306
Babywearing in Real-Life Situations 306
Babywearing in Special Situations 311
How Babywearing Benefits Infants and Parents 312
Babywearing May Change Your Lifestyle for the Better 320
Chapter 15 Nighttime Parenting: How to Get Your Baby to Sleep 323
Facts of Infant Sleep 324
Step One: Give Your Baby the Best Sleep Start 327
Step Two: Condition Your Baby to Sleep 330
Step Three: Lessen Conditions That Cause Night Waking 335
Sleeping with Your Baby - Yes? No? Sometimes? 340
Handling Worries and Criticisms of Sleeping with Your Baby 345
Sleep Safety 350
Troubleshooting: Solving Your Baby's Sleep Problems 351
Frequently Asked Questions About Sleep Problems 363
Chapter 16 Parenting the Fussy or Colicky Baby 378
Fussy Babies 378
Why Babies Fuss 383
Matching Babies and Parents 385
Soothing the Fussy Baby 389
The Colicky Baby, Alias the Hurting Baby 393
Tracking Down Hidden Causes of Colic 396
Comforting Colic 411
Is Colic Preventable? 417
Entering the Promised Time 419
Chapter 17 Working and Parenting 420
The Real Issue: Attachment 420
Keys to Working and Attaching 424
Choosing Substitute Caregivers 428
The Commercial Day-Care Option 433
Chapter 18 Special Situations 439
Parenting the Adopted Baby 439
International Adoption 441
Parenting Twins 442
Single Parenting 443
The Down Syndrome Baby - A Special Kind of Parenting 444
Mixing Babies and Pets 448
Part IV Infant Development and Behavior 451
Chapter 19 Growing Together: Enjoying Your Baby's Developmental Stages 453
Growing Together 453
Attachment Parenting: How It Builds Better Babies - And Parents 454
How Babies Grow 456
The Five Features of Infant Development 458
Seven Ways to Build a Brighter Baby 459
Autism Screening and Early Detection 467
Sensory Processing Disorder 469
Chapter 20 The First Six Months: Big Changes 470
The First Month: Big Needs 470
Newborn Reflexes 476
The Second Month: Big Smiles 478
The Third Month: Big Hands 486
A Three-Month Review 490
The Fourth Month: Big Looks 491
Language Development, Four to Six Months 495
The Fifth Month: Big Reaches 498
The Sixth Month: Sitting Big 503
Raising Healthy Teeth 506
Chapter 21 The Second Six Months: Moving Up 513
Six to Nine Months: Exploring Big 513
New Fears and Concerns in the Second Six Months 524
Nine to Twelve Months: Big Moves 527
Caring for Your Baby's Feet 539
Chapter 22 The Second Year: From Babyhood to Toddlerhood 541
Twelve to Fifteen Months: Big Steps 542
Fifteen to Eighteen Months: Big Words 550
Enriching Your Toddler's Language 556
Does Your Child Walk Funny? 557
Eighteen to Twenty-four Months: Big Thoughts 561
Chapter 23 Bothersome but Normal Toddler Behaviors 572
The Real Meaning of Discipline 572
Headstrong Mind-set 573
Toy Squabbles 575
Temper Tantrums 576
Biting and Hitting 581
Baby Won't Mind 583
Screeching and Whining 584
Thumb-sucking 585
Chapter 24 Toilet Training 587
Facts You Should Know 587
Better Late Than Early 588
A Step-by-Step Approach to Toilet Training 588
The Child Who Won't Go 595
Toilet Training Quickly: The Weekend-Training-Camp Method 597
Part V Keeping Your Baby Safe and Healthy 601
Chapter 25 Babyproofing Your Home 603
Profile of an Accident-Prone Child 603
The Accident-Prone Home 604
Home Babyproofing Checklists 604
Choosing and Using Safe Baby Equipment 610
Safe and Sane Car Travel 614
Cycling with Infants 621
Plantproofing Your Home 622
Environmental Pollutants: Getting the Lead Out 624
Chapter 26 Keeping Your Baby Healthy 628
Health Maintenance Begins at Home 628
Well-Baby Checkups 631
Immunizations: Why, What, and When 633
Treating Little People 641
Giving Medicines 644
Chapter 27 The Most Common Medical Problems: Self-help Home Care 649
Parenting the Baby with Fever 649
Colds 664
Coughs 671
Ear Infections 674
Sinus Infections 682
Croup 683
Diarrhea 685
Vomiting 691
Constipation 695
Tracking and Treating Inhalant Allergies 698
Eczema 702
Questions Parents Have About AIDS 705
Childhood Illnesses at a Glance 706
Chapter 28 Lifesaving Procedures and First Aid for Common Emergencies 718
The Three P's 718
When Your Baby Isn't Breathing: A Step-by-Step Approach to CPR 719
Choking 720
Bleeding 725
