Do you have an angry child? “Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly angry, and restless at timesor maybe all the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing you have a frequently angry child or teen.” (excerpt from Introduction)
In this book, healthy expressions of anger are discussed, as well as, when kids repeatedly say “No,” experience temper tantrums, and have angry reactions in interpersonal situations. The book illustrates how parents help children and teens master these feelings the Parental Intelligence Way.
The five steps to Parental Intelligence are explained with multiple examples of how busy parents use them to help angry kids solve problems. Parenting tips are elaborated in this quick read that offers powerful solutions for both ordinary and complex angry interactions. The audio is read by actor, Rich Hollman, son of the author, who was raised The Parental Intelligence Way.
|Series:||Busy Parent Guides: Quick Reads for Powerful Solutions Series , #1|
|Product dimensions:||5.00(w) x 7.00(h) x (d)|
About the Author
Laurie Hollman, PhD, is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy—a unique practice that covers the life span.
Dr. Hollman was trained in infant-parent psychotherapy at the Anni Bergman Parent-Infant Training Program in NYC affiliated with the Institute for Psychoanalytic Training and Research and the Contemporary Freudian Society. She has worked with a wide range of parents and their infants including battered women and their babies, mothers with autistic children and their babies, alcoholic mothers and their babies.
She received specialized training in child and adolescent treatment at New York University. Her PhD dissertation on nine-year-old girls culminated in a new finding and major contribution to the psychology of this age group focusing on troubling fantasies with which these children struggle. She was invited to join the faculty of New York University before graduating and taught clinical courses on listening to unconscious fantasies, child psychotherapy, and understanding the art work of children.
Dr. Hollman was trained in the psychoanalysis of adults at The Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research where she became the youngest graduate to join the faculty and Board of Directors and later became president. She taught courses on narcissistic and borderline personality disorders as well as art therapy for children.
Dr. Hollman has studied with world-renowned figures such as psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Dr. Jacob Arlow, psychologist and child researcher Dr. Anni Bergman, and psychologist and infant researcher Dr. Beatrice Beebe.
Dr. Hollman is widely published on topics relevant to parents and children such as juried articles and chapters in the international Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, and the Inner World of the Mother. She wrote on subjects relevant to parents of divorce for the Family Law Review, a publication of the New York Bar Association. As a columnist for Newsday’s Parent and Children Magazine and the Long Island Parent for almost a decade, she has written countless articles on parenting and child development.
She is a regular columnist for Moms Magazine and a frequent guest writer for popular parenting websites that reach over 500,000 viewers, including Mommy Bloggers, Natural Parenting Network, Positive Parenting Ally, Thrive Global, and The Huffington Post. These articles are regularly picked up by multiple family-oriented websites, making her known on the internet as a “Parenting Expert.” She is also a contributor to the The Mother Magazine in print in the United Kingdom.
Dr. Hollman also writes articles on mental illness for Long Island, New York pediatricians, internists and gynecologists/obstetricians, and for Long Island schools, discussing issues relevant to educators and mental health counselors, including Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), the gifted child, depression and anxiety in children.
What People are Saying About This
"Dr. Hollman builds upon the approach contained in her first book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child's Behavior by focusing on children's anger. Her empathic and self-reflective method is illustrated in various vignettes and accompanied by practical tips that provide parents with valuable tools to facilitate development of self-regulation, insight, and problem-solving skills in themselves and their children while building stronger and more satisfying family bonds. This book will appeal to all parents committed to raising their children into thoughtful and emotionally intelligent adults and future parents. Highly recommended for educators, policy makers, and therapists as well."
“Laurie Hollman’s primer for parents deciphers ‘anger’ in children and teens and describes its circumstances in a digestible format. Her five-step approach elevates the ‘Parental Intelligence’ that reduces the parent-child emotional impasses usually associated with power struggles in parent-child relationships. Parents are empowered to aim for understanding, but not in an ‘intellectualized,’ cerebral sense.
Through many illustrations, the book brings together the two generations, children and adults, searching for the overlapping elements in the history of and repetitions of anger-provoking situations. The best and worst of the parents’ emotional experiences with their own parents are reflected on, as Dr. Hollman suggests, which can produce empathy and constructive options in the present moment.
This book incorporates psychodynamic principles and practical wisdom for learning from our children and adolescent’s angry experiences. Parents can learn new approaches at problem solving from the perspective of child and family development and meaning-making. It’s like having Dr. Hollman as a live-in psychological-expert childminder. Read the book twice!”
“Children’s anger is a significant challenge for parents to deal with. Dr. Laurie Hollman’s book provides parents with an insightful approach to responding to their children’s anger through understanding their children’s actions as well as reflecting on their own reactions. She illustrates her approach with clear examples of working out problems with children. This book should enable parents to help their children deal with anger and enjoy their children even more.”
“Dr. Hollman has developed a concept that gives parents a method to help themselves and their children cope with the emotional challenges of childhood and adolescence. Using her method of ‘Parental Intelligence,’ parents are guided through the steps leading to the relief of anger and ultimately to a closer bond between parent and child. Using clear language and numerous examples, Dr. Hollman opens up the world of compassionate and empathic relationships to all of us. Dr. Hollman has transformed her many years of clinical experience and study into an immensely useful guide for parents and clinicians to help children and parents develop stronger familial relationships and relieve the stress and anger that may develop at different stages of childhood. Parenthetically, these methods work just as effectively for all relationships. This is a book that should be read by all parents and clinicians. Thank you, Dr. Hollman.”
"In her excellent bookUnlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior, Dr. Hollman encouraged parents to seek out the meaning of their child or teen’s misbehavior before trying to deal with it. She showed parents how to pause and reflect on their thoughts and feelings about the situation and how to think about their child’s possibly different thoughts and feelings and his or her developmental level. She explained how understanding the meaning of their child’s behavior enables parents to empathically resolve problem behaviors. This new book is a superb follow-up that provides a short, practical guide for parents struggling to manage their child or teen’s angry behavior. Dr. Hollman summarizes the Parental Intelligence principles and gives insightful real-world examples of the principles in action with angry children. The book is a quick, easy read that offers real help for managing different kinds of anger in children and teens. Highly recommended."
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