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The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior

The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior

by Andrea Anderson Polk
The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior

The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior

by Andrea Anderson Polk

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Overview

Is there someone in your life who tries to monopolize your time and consume your energy? Or someone who leaves you feeling confused or misunderstood, but you cannot put your finger on exactly how or why? Is there someone with whom you are unable to have a rational conversation and things seem very complicated? Maybe this person is never satisfied, no matter how much you try to love, help, and please them. Are you the one doing all the work in a relationship?

In The Cuckoo Syndrome, Andrea Anderson Polk, a licensed professional counselor, helps us fend off the cuckoos—unhealthy relationships, toxic thinking, and self-sabotaging behavior—in order to find our identity in God and discover new purpose, vision, and meaning in our lives.


We know the cuckoo bird as a colorful wooden figurine that pops out of a clock and chirps the hours of the day to the delight of children and adults alike. In reality, the cuckoo bird is a parasite—invading the nest of other birds, destroying the eggs already present, and fooling the family into raising an ever-demanding, never-satisfied cuckoo chick.

Polk, a licensed professional counselor, compares cuckoo birds—nature’s infamous imposter—to the human experience, situations, and relationships demonstrating haunting confusion and unnecessary suffering. Cuckoos can invisibly sabotage our most intimate relationships, our ministries, and our careers—our deepest desires.

In The Cuckoo Syndrome, Polk gives us new insight and ways to fend off these cuckoos that invade our “nests” with their devious disguises. Cuckoos can take many forms. There is the cuckoo of avoiding emotion, the fear cuckoo, the stress cuckoo, the shame cuckoo, the unresolved grief cuckoo, the perfectionism cuckoo, the counselor cuckoo, and probably the most insidious cuckoo of all: the religion cuckoo.

Drawing from a depth of study in scripture, science, and psychology, Polk breaks us free from the cuckoo’s snare by teaching us to embrace the desires of our heart as we uncover the truth of who we are, who others are, and who God is. We can learn to establish great joy in our identity by committing ourselves to discover meaning in suffering and understanding how our pain is the genuine catalyst for purpose.


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781637630419
Publisher: Forefront Books
Publication date: 05/03/2022
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 109,602
Product dimensions: 6.10(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

A respected, professional counselor, published author, and keynote speaker, Andrea Anderson Polk leverages more than a decade of clinical experience, illuminating storytelling, and deep compassion to help people uncover truths, break free of harmful behavior and relationships, and celebrate a newfound freedom.

She is a Licensed Professional Counselor, is Nationally Board Certified, and has served as president and vice president of the Northern Virginia Licensed Professional Counselors (NVLPC). She is a registered supervisor for the Virginia Board of Counseling, where she works with counseling candidates pursuing their professional licenses. Additionally, Andrea holds a ministerial diploma and has a deep understanding of theology.

More than a decade ago, Andrea started a private practice, Andrea Anderson LPC, LLC & Associates, counseling individuals and couples. It was her clients who encouraged her to bring her thoughts about the cuckoo bird syndrome into print because of the difference it has made in their lives.

Andrea lives in McLean, Virginia with her husband and best friend, Dan.

Visit Andrea online at andreaandersonpolk.com and connect with her on Facebook @AndreaAndersonPolk, Instagram @andreaandersonpolk / @thecuckoosyndrome and Twitter @AndreaAPolk #thecuckoosyndrome #thecuckoosyndromebook

Table of Contents

Author's Note 11

Introduction: Are Cuckoos Real Birds? 13

Chapter 1 The Cuckoo in Your Nest 19

Do Your Relationships Resemble Cuckoos?

Chapter 2 Stuck in Cuckoo Land 47

How to Deal with the Cuckoos in Your Life

Chapter 3 The Cuckoo of Not Feeling Your Feelings 73

What Happens When You Avoid Emotions?

Chapter 4 The Cuckoo of Loss 91

The Paradox of Grief

Chapter 5 What Feeds a Cuckoo? 101

Lies We Believe and Defenses We Use

Chapter 6 The Fear Cuckoo 127

A Subtle Cuckoo in Disguise

Chapter 7 The Perfectionism Cuckoo 149

When Passions Become Obsessions

Chapter 8 When You Become a Cuckoo 165

Making Yourself a Project to Fix

Chapter 9 Cuckoo Counsel 177

Who Hurts You and Who Can Help You

Chapter 10 The Religion Cuckoo 199

Twisters of God's Word

Chapter 11 A Protection against Cuckoos 223

The Gift of Anger

Chapter 12 The Antidote to Cuckoos 237

Discovering Your Purpose

Chapter 13 How to Live a Cuckoo-Free Life 251

Embracing Desire, Pursuing Passion, Creating Vision

Chapter 14 Let Your Eggs Hatch! 271

Treasures from Darkness

Acknowledgments 283

Notes 287

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