The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts

The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts

by Shannon Ethridge, Stephen Arterburn
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The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Jessica_Richter More than 1 year ago
Shannon has done an amazing job again. Healthy sexual relationships and integrity to God's word for how sexuality should play out in our lives is her forte. Today's age is bombarded with sexual innuendo and explicitness at every turn. It is becoming more and more extreme, like chasing the dragon, and people are trying to follow it in their bedroom. It is something that is an epidemic in the "real world" but something rarely addressed in the church. With this book Shannon opens the door to an equal playing field for both sides of the line to openly talk about and understand the elephant in the room, our fantasies, and how to deal with them properly. She has provided very thorough research on the psychology behind our thoughts that is worded for everyone to understand and real life, intimate testimonies that makes the reader know that they aren't the odd man out and not the only one having these thoughts. Shannon encourages us to glean the lessons from facing your past that your fantasies are trying to heal itself from. This is a highly, highly recommended book for anyone out there. It's something that relates to all!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a must read and brings to light a great amount of understanding.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is like visiting with a counselor for free! Ethridge has great insight into a whole range of sexual fantasies and what the underlying emotions, longings or traumas might be. I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling with guilt over fantasies or anyone who simply wants to know why they think they way they do during sex.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The Fantasy Fallacy is not the type of book I would typically choose to, but with the recent popularity of books like 50 Shades of Gray, I thought it was an interesting topic that needs to be discussed more in the church. I also personally know people whose marriages have suffered because of issues such as these. I was given the opportunity to review it for Thomas Nelson Pusblishers. The author brings out a lot of interesting thoughts from her counseling experiences. She also addresses 50 Shades of Gray, why women read it, and the dangers behind the ideas presented in the series. It wasn't what I expected - she delves into the "why" behind fantasy and what causes issues in people's lives. This would be a great read for anyone who is in ministry or who mentors people. It could really help them understand the reasons behind issues like this and how you can help someone who is struggling with this.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The Fantasy Fallacy is not the type of book I would typically choose to, but with the recent popularity of books like 50 Shades of Gray, I thought it was an interesting topic that needs to be discussed more in the church. I also personally know people whose marriages have suffered because of issues such as these. I was given the opportunity to review it for Thomas Nelson Pusblishers. The author brings out a lot of interesting thoughts from her counseling experiences. She also addresses 50 Shades of Gray, why women read it, and the dangers behind the ideas presented in the series. It wasn't what I expected - she delves into the "why" behind fantasy and what causes issues in people's lives. This would be a great read for anyone who is in ministry or who mentors people. It could really help them understand the reasons behind issues like this and how you can help someone who is struggling with this.
Kate-L-B More than 1 year ago
The Fantasy Fallacy Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts By Shannon Ethridge takes a look at the other side of the argument for the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon. Delving into what some of our fantasies stem from and using Biblical references, Shannon explains some of the problems behind why we crave what we do on a sexual basis. Written in a very readable wand exciting format, you won't get bogged down in psychoanalyst mumbo jumbo, but come out of it understanding maybe just a bit more about the human psyche. I have never read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, and don't really have plans to in the near future, though I have read my fair share of erotic fiction. In the past I have struggled with some of my own thoughts regarding my own fantasies and I was quite excited to read Shannon's book even though I usually avoid 'self-help Christian' books. I flew through this book in a matter of days, enjoying every aspect of it, even the areas I disagreed with, which were very few. Whether or not you've read Fifty Shades, I would highly recommend The Fantasy Fallacy. Not only is it an enjoyable read filled with a lot of information , but it is excellent and thought provoking if you have struggled with your own fantasies. My only complaint would be that I wished it were twice as long because I want to know more about human behavior and I don't know what to read next! Definitely five stars. This book has been provided courtesy of the publisher, Thomas Nelson, and the Booksneeze program, for the purposes of this unbiased review.
Christianfictionaddiction More than 1 year ago
The best-selling author of the Every Woman's Battle Series returns with her latest book, The Fantasy Fallacy. Within the pages of the book, Shannon Ethridge explores the deep psychological roots behind our fantasies, noting that they are the brain's way of trying to heal from unresolved tragedies and traumas. She candidly takes a look at some difficult topics, including gay and lesbian desires, desires for threesomes, or fascinations with pornography, bondage or sadomasochism. Shannon teaches the reader how to take each fantasy captive to Christ and allowing Jesus to heal us from our brokenness that leads to inappropriate fantasies. Shannon Ethridge is a fantastic author whose book is extremely timely for a generation who has become addicted to pornography and enamored with books like "Fifty Shades of Grey". I greatly appreciate how she tackles each subject in a straight-forward manner, not shying away from disturbing topics, but instead addressing them in a non-judgmental manner. I found the book to be a breath of fresh air, a book that will absolutely lead readers to a place of freedom. I appreciated the practical nature of the book, that she includes ideas to control unwanted fantasies. She provides a wonderfully balanced look at the topic of sexuality, recognizing that sex is an absolute gift from God and is meant to be something good, and shows us how we can keep the perverse from twisting this wonderful gift. The book simply breathes with scripture, and as such you can read this book knowing it is based on truth. I strongly recommend this book, and award it a rating of 4 out of 5 stars. If you or someone you know is struggling in the area of purity, then this book may just have the guidance you are looking for! Book has been provided courtesy of the publisher, Thomas Nelson, and the Booksneeze program, for the purposes of this unbiased review.
Cupcakegirly More than 1 year ago
This is one of those books I wish I could get into the hands of everyone I know because the information Shannon Ethridge shares is upfront, honest and informative. Having a background in counseling/human relations, she knows her stuff and she presents the material in a way that is neither condemning nor judgemental which I appreciated and I am a Christian. I read 50 Shades a few months ago, not because I wanted to but because I felt led to. So many in my social and church circles (surprisingly) were huge fans of the trilogy and I didn't really understand all the controversy surrounding it. I chose to "take one for the team" so to speak and I wish I'd had The Fantasy Fallacy to read immediately following it. Shannon shares her thoughts concerning 50 Shades in the beginning of her book and one of the quotes that jumped out at me was this one... "My heart broke for the naive twenty-one-year-old girl in the story who, after knowing him less than one week, gives her virginity away to a man who wants her to sign a domination/submission contract that will allow him to ritualistically beat her anytime he wants in the name of sexual pleasure." xvii I couldn't agree more! When I finished the books I thought of all the women I know with daughters who'd read it and wanted to ask them, "Is this really the message you want to send to your daughters?" My intention is not to be a judgy mcjudgypants but there are times when we need someone else to help us open our eyes and see things for what they really are and The Fantasy Fallacy does just that. This book addresses anything and everything concerning sex and the world of fantasy surrounding it; the pros and cons, what's acceptable (biblically speaking) as well as real life stories from people she's talked with. Shannon also explains the difference between sexual fantasy and lust because they aren't the same. In a nutshell, there's nothing wrong with sexual fantasy when it involves your spouse and doesn't include pressuring or coercing them to do anything that could cause them harm either physically or emotionally. Sexual fantasy is OK as long as you're fantasizing about what's already yours. Lust is craving something that doesn't belong to you. It's when you find yourself combing these two aspects, sexual fantasy and lust, that you enter the danger zone. Addiction to porn is just as much a problem in the Christian life as it is in the secular and it can leave women feeling inferior and hurt. But here's the thing, those perfect, gorgeous men in erotic novels who always say and do the right thing, satisfying the woman's every need ALL THE TIME? They're no different than the women in porn films and magazines. Both are an unattainable illusion. Men who are addicted to porn want the women in their real lives to be like the women in porn, and women who read erotic novels expect the same of the men in their lives. It's a lose-lose situation. God gave us the gifts of imagination and sex and but they quickly turn into burdens when not used wisely.
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Marlee-Amanda More than 1 year ago
In the mist of the Fifty Shades of Grey craze comes Shannon Ethridge’s The Fantasy Fallacy and I can say with certainty that it’s right on time. The courage to stand up and speak out on a subject swept under the carpet by the church and society is commendable and gutsy. After reading The Fantasy Fallacy I’m more convinced than ever that we need to open up more about “what’s going on between our ears.” The Fantasy Fallacy pulls back the curtains and sheds much needed light on a once dark and lonely place in the minds of most human beings . . . the world of sexual fantasy. This book serves as an ice-breaker to give courage to those who feel trapped and controlled by their fantasies to discover the roots and break free from the bondage they create. The Fantasy Fallacy exchanges the label of “FREAK” for “HUMAN” and in doing so gives voice and power back to those desperately trying to find their way out of the tangled web of the fantasy world. For some it will serve as a GPS to freedom, for others it will serve as a loudspeaker to confirm what they already know and wake them up to the solutions they have been ignoring. Whether you are Christian struggling with guilt and condemnation from yourself or the church, or whether you are just the average person with no spiritual or religious affiliation; The Fantasy Fallacy is a MUST READ. Anyone who is a human being can and will benefit from reading this book. Whether you discover new principles for overcoming unhealthy fantasy or whether you are just building on a previously laid foundation, I can assure you this book is worth the read. The Fantasy Fallacy gives everyone the permission to be human, the courage to be honest, and the things we need to navigate our way from bondage to freedom. One cannot thank Shannon enough for answering the call of God and writing this book. The world has needed her bravery, her honesty, and her obedience. Thank you for daring to venture into taboo territory and by doing so freeing many captives.
GKibler More than 1 year ago
Let's talk about sex. With a series such as the 50 Shades of Grey infiltrating homes all over America like a cloud of erotic smoke, it's no wonder why more people are wondering about the world of fantasy and caught up in it's allure. Shannon Ethridge has taken the topic of sex, sexual fantasy and pornography to a level most would steer clear of, especially it seems, those in the church. Her book titled The Fantasy Fallacy, goes beyond first impression of such topics and takes a deeper look into why we might think the way we do, exposing the roots of things such as fantasy or sexual addiction. Well researched and cited, the information is not only eye opening and thought provoking, but mind changing as it allows the reader to "think outside the box" in terms of their own sexual identity, someone they know or about sex in general. Shannon has taken a seemingly taboo topic and written in a way to bring light and understanding to the subject of sexual fantasy and has created I believe, an outline for conversation and steps to healing the pain and guilt that is most often attributed to sexual fantasy. A must read for both women and men, this book is a refreshing, healthy look into the world of sexual fantasy and how it affects our lives and relationships. Shannon's eagerness to see healthy sexual relationships in our unhealthy world today, is so strongly apparent in this book and the information could not have come at a more necessary time.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago