Based on the feature film of the same name, THE FATHER EFFECT is a must-read for the millions of men and women who have lost their fathers through divorce, death, or disinterest.
John Finch always struggled after his father committed suicide when he was eleven, but it wasn't until he was raising his own three daughters that he truly understood their futures relied on his coming to terms with his difficult past. To move forward, he needed to forgive both his father for choosing to leave, and himself for not being the best father he could be.
This journey led to THE FATHER EFFECT, a book containing practical help for anyone, man or woman, with a deep father wound from losing a dad through divorce, death, or disinterest. Through positive lessons on forgiveness and approachable advice on how to change your legacy as a parent, partner, and person, THE FATHER EFFECT is the ultimate healing tool for anyone who has suffered the absence of a dad.
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About the Author
John Finch is the producer and director of The Father Effect short and feature film. He heads The Father Effect ministry which is dedicated to addressing the father-wound in both men and women and helping them to heal through conferences, resources, and curriculum.
Table of Contents
Prologue: Letter from My Father xv
Introduction: The Day I Kissed My Dad Good-bye xix
Part I To Forgive My Father 1
Chapter 1 Who Was Big Jim? 3
Chapter 2 Angry and Abandoned 10
Chapter 3 The Poser and the Addict 16
Chapter 4 The Father Wound 23
Chapter 5 The Father Effect 32
Chapter 6 Man's Greatest Enemy 39
Chapter 7 The Generational Curse of Fatherlessness 50
Part II To Forgive Your Father 65
Chapter 8 The Incredible, Inestimable Impact of a Father 67
Chapter 9 Don't Drink the Cool-Aid 79
Chapter 10 Father God 93
Chapter 11 The Healing Power of Forgiveness 103
Part III To Be the Man God Created You To Be 119
Chapter 12 A Real Father, a Real Husband 121
Chapter 13 Go for the Assist: A Word from Michelle Finch John's Wife 133
Chapter 14 Daddy's Little Girls Lost 141
Chapter 15 What Is Love? A Direct Word to Fathers 154
Chapter 16 Fatherly Advice: Practical Steps Toward Becoming a Better Father 169
Epilogue: Letter to My Father 185
About the Author 195
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The Father Effect is an eye-opening account of the just how important it is to find healing if you did not have a father in your life...to forgive and to lean on our perfect Father for the wholeness you need. If you are a father, try to mend the rift in the relationship with your child. John shares his own journey with an honesty that is insightful and hopeful. Stories shared by men and women who have experienced hurt from their fathers, as well as words of wisdom from professionals, give this book a balanced approach that speaks to people with words of hope. I highly recommend this book to everyone no matter what your relationship with your father. And, if you are a dad...this is a must-read! Everyone should know the importance and value of a father in the life of his child.
The Father Effect will Affect YOU! If you are a father or still have a father or had a father and read this book and it does not touch your heart in some way, you need to check to make sure you still have a heartbeat. I challenge you to read The Father Effect. It will affect you. Far too many have grown up without a father present in their lives or present physically but not emotionally involved. Regardless of what you might read or hear in today’s feminized masculinity society, which often tells us a father is not needed, it does have an effect. John has termed this “The Father Effect” and explains exactly what that means to him and what he has learned from his experience dealing with the father effect in his life. During his journey and sharing his story he has learned he was not alone. Many others have similar stories. Isn't it amazing how often peoples’ stories turn out that way. Once you find out you are not the only one and how others have dealt with the issue, whatever that is, you are often better able to deal with your own issues. The Father Effect may be life changing for you or someone you know but the only way you will know is if you get yourself a copy and read it. I highly recommend you do just that. This book will give you hope and the solution might be the simplest yet most difficult thing you have ever done. You will not know his story and his solution though unless you get a copy of The Father Effect today. He has also produced a movie that is available at his web site - johnfinch.me. Full Disclosure: The author, John Finch, asked me to be part of his launch team so I did get an early PDF copy of the book in exchange for my honest review. The Father Effect debuted as the #1 New Release for Christian Men's Issues when it was released earlier this week. Whenever I read a book I hope it is interesting enough to keep me turning the pages and I can learn something from it. If it also touches my heart and gives me hope I can do or be better tomorrow that is always a plus and will get it 5 stars. I checked off all of these characteristics while reading The Father Effect and I think you will too. Get your copy today!
From the time John Finch was 11 years old he no longer had a father. His father committed suicide and Finch didn't know what to do with the gaping father hole that was left in his life for many years. When he was a father himself raising three young girls, Finch realized he needed God and he needed to forgive his father and himself in order to move on with his life. He wanted to be the best dad and husband he could be to his young girls. This touching book is also based on a feature film also called The Father Effect. Finch said he felt God was calling him to reach out and to share his story to help other men and women heal from the loss of their fathers. Whether they lost a father from death, divorce, or if they just had dads who weren't emotionally present, healing can be found through God and through learning to forgive. As a woman I have a different sort of father wound. I still have my dad, but he doesn't talk to me very often. I can see how my distant relationship with my dad led me to make some poor choices early on. I can also see where my dad didn't get training on being a dad from his dad so I can forgive him and understand where he came from. Fortunately, I also went to counseling and spent time in prayer with God, was helped and then healed from some of my wounds. As a result, I made better choices and now have a good relationship with my husband and we have been married many years. I think The Father Effect would be a helpful book for both men and women with father wounds of many types. Finch gives both personal stories from his life and the life of other people along with the sound advice of other experts to offer a solid book with a lot of helpful information in it. I would especially encourage men to read it and to become the best dad they can be to their kids. As Finch shared in several places, it isn't about being perfect, but rather being available and real with your kids while looking to God to lead you. As a woman, I also liked the chapter in The Father Effect that John's wife, Michelle, wrote about her experience with him and their family. There is also a chapter just for women and how we are affected by dads who are absent or distant. With many broken and struggling families in our world today, I think The Father Effect would be a truly helpful book to many of us. I highly recommend it. I received a copy of The Father Effect from FaithWords. I was not required to write a positive review in exchange for the book.