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What Would Your Life Be Like If You Accepted People and Things as They Are?
Do you wish your parents had been more nurturing and supportive? Are you wondering if you’ll ever find your perfect soul mate and dream boss? Do you wish you had “perfect” children, relatives who never fight, and friends who always agree with you? No one gets to sail through life free of turbulence. What separates people who shake it off, bounce back, and stay positive from the bitter, never satisfied, and defeated?
Best-selling author and former compulsive controller Daniel A. Miller convincingly attests that the answer is choosing acceptance. In the GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE: Embracing People and Things as They Are, Danny shares what he’s learned—through extensive research, inspiring true stories, and his own experience with hardships—about the integral relationship between accepting the facts of life and others, with their quirks, flaws, and differences, and enjoying greater satisfaction in life.
Recognizing the benefits of acceptance isn’t difficult. Yet the reality of accepting an unexpected job loss or financial setbacks, a friend’s betrayal, a child’s struggle with addiction, a serious illness, or even the annoying traits of a loved one can be extremely challenging. To make it easier, THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE offers insights, intentions, and strategies for practicing acceptance of parents, a significant other, children, siblings and extended family, coworkers, friends, and foes; of life’s adversities and the limitations of getting older; and, perhaps toughest of all, of yourself.
You will learn how practicing acceptance helps you
• Navigate life’s ups and downs more easily
• Enjoy greater trust, openness, and intimacy with your loved ones and those closest to you
• Survive control freaks, foes, and other crazy makers
• Lift self-imposed burdens and obligations and experience less stress, frustration, and worry
• Reduce the struggle with your children
• Strengthen bonds with coworkers and business associates
• Discover new choices and opportunities in the most discouraging situations
• Turn setbacks and failures to future successes
• Find the path to secure self-acceptance
THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE is a book with the potential to repair relationships, revitalize careers, and make the world a better place.
Find out how accepting “What Is” lets you discover “What Might Be”!
|Publisher:||Ebb and Flow Press|
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About the Author
While still in his twenties, he became a popular real estate instructor in the UCLA extension program, and in his thirties he wrote a critically acclaimed, best-selling professional book, How to Invest in Real Estate Syndicates (Dow Jones-Irwin, 1978). He later founded the California Institute of Real Estate Education, which offered state-licensed seminars to thousands of real estate professionals.
Financial success came early to Danny. Celebrities and other wealthy people entrusted him with large sums to invest on their behalf. By his midthirties he could afford to live in the exclusive Old Bel Air section of Los Angeles.
But for all his achievements and success, Danny had no sense of inner peace and serenity. He was imprisoned by his fears, anger, and anxieties-all bedfellows of controllers-and thus not open to the joy and wonders all around him.
After suffering a series of traumatic events and financial setbacks that he could not control-no matter how hard he tried-he finally began a new life journey based on letting go of control and accepting people and things as they are. He surrendered to the ups and downs and twists and turns of life instead of resisting them and trying to control people and events.
Over many years, he learned effective tools and strategies for letting go of control and accepting "what is" with his family and friends, as well as in sports, creative endeavors, and the workplace. In the process, he became an artist, a published poet, a successful businessman, a champion senior tennis player, a happily married man, and a much wiser parent-all while cutting his work time by more than half.
Thus, through letting go of control and embracing life as it is, Danny found a different and more gratifying kind of success-an internal, core sense of well-being. He now writes and speaks about the profound benefits of letting go of control and practicing acceptance. His website www.danielamiller.com features over seventy of his blog posts on the control and acceptance dynamics, his poetry and paintings, and keynote speaker information.
Table of Contents
Introduction: My Path from Control
to Acceptance 1
Part I. Embracing Life as It Is
1. The Serenity of Living in Acceptance 15
2. The Gifts of Acceptance 21
3. What Acceptance Is—and Isn’t! 31
4. Letting Go of Denial 41
5. The Serenity Prayer: An Acceptance Guide 49
Part II. Accepting Others as They Are
6. Accepting Our Loved Ones 63
7. Accepting Our Children 79
8. Accepting Our Parents 101
9. Accepting Our Siblings and Family 111
10. Accepting Our Friends 121
11. Accepting Our Foes 133
12. Accepting—and Surviving—Control Freaks 147
Part III. Accepting Change and Adversity
13. Accepting Limitations and Infirmities 159
14. Accepting the Losses of Aging 173
15. Accepting Setbacks and Failure 189
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Part IV. Accepting Ourselves
16. Truths and Paradoxes of Self-Acceptance 203
17. Discovering and Accepting Who We Are 213
About the Author 243