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Perfect for expecting parents who want to provide a soothing home for the newest member of their family, The Happiest Baby on the Block, the national bestseller by respected pediatrician and child development expert Dr. Harvey Karp, is a revolutionary method for calming a crying infant and promoting healthy sleep from day one.
In perhaps the most important parenting book of the decade, Dr. Harvey Karp reveals an extraordinary treasure sought by parents for centuries—an automatic “off-switch” for their baby’s crying.
No wonder pediatricians across the country are praising him and thousands of Los Angeles parents, from working moms to superstars like Madonna and Pierce Brosnan, have turned to him to learn the secrets for making babies happy.
Never again will parents have to stand by helpless and frazzled while their poor baby cries and cries. Dr. Karp has found there IS a remedy for colic. “I share with parents techniques known only to the most gifted baby soothers throughout history …and I explain exactly how they work.”
In a innovative and thought-provoking reevaluation of early infancy, Dr. Karp blends modern science and ancient wisdom to prove that newborns are not fully ready for the world when they are born. Through his research and experience, he has developed four basic principles that are crucial for understanding babies as well as improving their sleep and soothing their senses:
The Missing Fourth Trimester: as odd as it may sound, one of the main reasons babies cry is because they are born three months too soon.
The Calming Reflex: the automatic reset switch to stop crying of any baby in the first few months of life.
The 5 “S’s”: the simple steps (swaddling, side/stomach position, shushing, swinging and sucking) that trigger the calming reflex. For centuries, parents have tried these methods only to fail because, as with a knee reflex, the calming reflex only works when it is triggered in precisely the right way. Unlike other books that merely list these techniques Dr. Karp teaches parents exactly how to do them, to guide cranky infants to calm and easy babies to serenity in minutes…and help them sleep longer too.
The Cuddle Cure: the perfect mix the 5 “S’s” that can soothe even the most colicky of infants.
In the book, Dr. Karp also explains:
What is colic?
Why do most babies get much more upset in the evening?
How can a parent calm a baby—in mere minutes?
Can babies be spoiled?
When should a parent of a crying baby call the doctor?
How can a parent get their baby to sleep a few hours longer?
Even the most loving moms and dads sometimes feel pushed to the breaking point by their infant’s persistent cries. Coming to the rescue, however, Dr. Karp places in the hands of parents, grandparents, and all childcare givers the tools they need to be able to calm their babies almost as easily as…turning off a light.
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About the Author
Harvey Karp, M.D., is a nationally renowned pediatrician, child development specialist, and a leading advocate in the field of children’s environmental health. He is on the faculty of USC School of Medicine and a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Dr. Karp’s books and DVDs, The Happiest Baby on the Block, The Happiest Toddler on the Block, and The Happiest Baby Guide to Great Sleep, teach parents his groundbreaking techniques to reduce infant crying, boost sleep, build toddler patience, and stop tantrums. Millions of parents have benefited from his advice, including celebrities such as Madonna, Michelle Pfeiffer, Larry David, Jewel, and Pierce Brosnan. Thousands of specially trained educators teach Happiest Baby classes across America. Dr. Karp’s works are translated into more than twenty languages, and their popularity have made him among America’s most read and trusted pediatricians.
For further information, please visit www.happiestbaby.com
Read an Excerpt
At Last There's Hope:
An Easy Way to Calm Crying Babies
All babies cry, but most new parents have little experience soothing them
The Basic Problem: In many ways, babies are born three months too soon
The Calming Reflex: Nature's Off switch for a baby's crying
The 5 "S's": How to turn on your baby's calming reflex
The Cuddle Cure: Combining the 5 "S's" to help any fussy baby
Suzanne was worried and exhausted. Her two-month-old baby, Sean, was a nonstop screamer. He could cry for hours. One afternoon her sister came to watch the baby, and Suzanne bolted to the bathroom for a hot shower and a quick "escape." Forty-five minutes later she awoke, curled up in a ball on the blue tile floor, being sprayed with ice-cold water!
Meanwhile, half a world away in the rugged Kalahari plains of northern Botswana, Nisa gave birth to a tiny girl named Chuko. Chuko was thin and delicate but despite her dainty size, she, too, was a challenging baby who cried frequently.
Nisa carried Chuko in a leather sling everywhere she went. Unlike Suzanne, she never worried when Chuko cried, because like all mothers of the !Kung San tribe, she knew exactly how to calm her baby's crying-in seconds.
Why did Suzanne have such trouble soothing Sean's screams?
What ancient secrets did Nisa know that helped her calm her baby so easily?
As you are about to learn, the answers to these two questions will change the way you think about babies forever! They will show you the world through your baby's eyes and, most important, they will teach you how to calm your baby's cries in minutes and help prolong her sleep.
Your Baby Is Born
When perfectly dry, his flesh sweet and pure, he is the most kissable object in nature.
Marion Harland, Common Sense in the Nursery, 1886
Congratulations! You've done a great job already! You've nurtured your baby from the moment of conception to your baby's "birth"-day. Having a baby is a wonderful-and wonder-full-experience that makes you laugh, cry, and stare in amazement . . . all at the same time.
Your top job as a new parent is to love your baby like crazy. After showering her with affection, your next two important jobs are to feed her and to calm her when she cries.
I can tell you from my twenty-five years as a pediatrician, parents who succeed at these two tasks feel proud, confident, on top of the world! They have the happiest babies and they feel like the best parents on the block. However, mothers and fathers who struggle with these tasks often end up feeling distraught.
Fortunately, feeding a baby is usually pretty straightforward. Most newborns take to sucking like they have a Ph.D. in chowing-down! Soothing a crying baby, on the other hand, can be unexpectedly challenging.
No couple expects their sweet newborn to be "difficult." Who really listens to horror stories friends and family share? We assume our child will be an "easy" baby. That's why so many new parents are shocked to discover how tough calming their baby's cries can be.
Please don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying crying is bad. In fact, it's brilliant! Leave it to nature to find such an effective way for helpless babies to get our attention. And once your baby has your attention, you probably zip down a checklist of questions and solutions:
Is she hungry? Feed her.
Is she wet? Change her diaper.
Is she lonely? Pick her up.
Is she gassy? Burp her.
Is she cold? Bundle her up.
The trouble comes when nothing works.
Estimates are that one out of every five babies has repeated bouts of terrible fussiness-for no apparent reason. That adds up to almost one million sweet new babies born in the U.S. each year who suffer from hours of red-faced, eyes-clenched screaming.
This is why parents of unhappy babies are such heroes! A baby's scream is an incredibly heart-wrenching sound. Bone-tired and bewildered moms and dads lovingly cuddle their frantic babies for hours, trying to calm them, yet the continued crying can corrode their confidence: "Is my baby in pain?" "Am I spoiling him?" "Does she feel abandoned?" "Am I a terrible mother?"
Confronted by this barrage, sometimes the most loving parent may find herself pushed into frustration and depression. A baby's unrelenting shrieks can even drive desperate caregivers over the edge-into the tragedy of child abuse.
Exhausted parents are often told they must wait for their babies to "grow out of it." Yet most of us feel that can't be right. There must be some way to help our babies.
I'm going to show you how.
Help Wanted: Who Do New Parents Turn to When Their Baby Cries a Lot?
Although a network of clinics and specialists exists to help mothers solve their infant's feeding problems, there is little support for the parents of screaming babies. That's unfortunate because while the urge to quiet a baby is instinctual, the ability to do it is a skill that must be learned.
Today's parents have less experience caring for babies than any previous generation. (Amazingly, our culture requires more training to get a driver's license than to have a baby.)
That's not to say that inexperienced moms and dads are abandoned. On the contrary, they're bombarded with suggestions. In my experience, America's favorite pastime is not baseball but giving unasked-for advice to new parents. "It's boredom." "It's the heat." "Put a hat on him." Or "It's gas."
It can be so confusing! Who should you believe?
In frustration and concern, parents often turn to their doctor for help. Studies show that one in six couples visit a doctor because of their baby's persistent crying. When these babies are examined and found to be healthy, most doctors have little to offer but sympathy. "I know it's hard, but be patient; it won't last forever." Advice like this often sends worried parents to look for help in baby books.
Parents of colicky babies spend hours scanning books for "the answer" to their infant's distress. Yet, often the advice can be equally confusing: "Hold your baby-but be careful not to spoil him." "Love your baby-but let her cry herself to sleep."
Even these experts confess that for really fussy babies, they have nothing to offer:
Very often, you may not even be able to quiet the screaming.
What to Expect the First Year, Eisenberg, Murkoff, and Hathaway
The whole episode goes on at least an hour and perhaps for three or four hours.
Your Baby and Child, Penelope Leach
It's completely all right to set the baby in the bassinet while trying to drown out the noise with the running water of a hot shower.
The Girlfriend's Guide to Surviving the First Year of Motherhood, Vicki Iovine
But a hot shower is cold comfort for the parents of a screaming baby.
Many exhausted parents I meet have been persuaded, against their better judgment, that they can only stand by and endure their baby's screaming. But I tell them otherwise. Unhappy babies can be calmed-in minutes!
The Four Principles of Soothing Babies
In many ways, the peoples living in primitive cultures are backward compared to Western societies. However, in some areas their wisdom is great . . . and we are the "primitive" ones. This is particularly true when it comes to soothing crying newborns.
I teased out shreds of information from the past and wove them with cutting-edge modern research and some unique observations made during my years of caring for more than five thousand infants. From this, I distilled four principles that are crucial for anyone who wants to understand babies better and be skillful at comforting them and improving their sleep:
The Missing Fourth Trimester
The Calming Reflex
The 5 "S's"
The Cuddle Cure
The Missing Fourth Trimester-Many Babies Cry Because They're Born Three Months Too Soon!
Did you ever see a baby horse or a baby cow? These newborn animals can walk, even run, on their very first day of life. In fact, they must be able to run-their survival depends upon it.
By comparison, our newborns are quite immature. They can't run, walk, or even roll over. One British mum told me her new daughter seemed so unready for the world she and her husband affectionately nicknamed her "The Little Creature." They're not alone in seeing babies that way; the Spanish use the word criatura, meaning creature, to describe babies.
In many ways your new baby is more a fetus than an infant, spending most of her time sleeping and being fed. Had you delayed your delivery just three more months, your baby would have been born with the ability to smile, coo, and flirt. (Who wouldn't want that on their baby's first day of life!) However, I've never been able to talk a woman into keeping her infant inside for a fourth trimester . . . and for good reason. It's already a tight squeeze getting a baby's head out after nine months of pregnancy; by twelve months it would be impossible.
Why are our babies so immature at birth? The reason is simple. Unlike baby horses whose survival depends on their big strong bodies, a human baby's survival depends on big smart brains. In fact, our babies' brains are so huge we have to "evict" fetuses from the womb well before they're fully ready for the world to keep their heads from getting stuck in the birth canal.
Newborns have some abilities that demonstrate their readiness to be in the world, but these notwithstanding, for the first three months, our babies are so immature they would really benefit if they could hop back inside whenever they get overwhelmed. However, since we're not kangaroos, the least we can do as loving, compassionate parents is to make our little criaturas feel at home by surrounding them with the comforting sensations they enjoyed twenty-four hours a day in the womb. However, in order to give babies a fourth trimester, parents need to answer one important question: What exactly was it like in there?
In your womb, your baby was packed tight into the fetal position enveloped by the warm wall of the uterus and rocked and jiggled for much of the day. She was also surrounded by a constant shushing sound a little louder than a vacuum cleaner.
For thousands of years, parents have known that mimicking conditions in the uterus comforts newborns. That's why almost every traditional baby-calming technique around the world imitates the sensations of the womb. From swaddling to swings to shushing, these methods return babies to a cuddly, rhythmic, womblike world until they are ready to coo, smile, and join the family. As helpful as this fourth-trimester experience is for calm babies, it is essential for fussy ones.
Most parents assume that this imitation soothes their baby simply by making her feel "back home." Actually, these experiences trigger a profound neurological response never before recognized or reported-until today. This ancient and very powerful baby reflex is the calming reflex.
The Calming Reflex: Nature's Brilliant Off-Switch for Your Baby's Crying
This automatic reset switch stills a baby's crying and is truly a baby's (and parent's) best friend. Why did nature choose imitating the uterus as the trigger for this blessed reflex? The reason is clear but unexpected: As important as it was for our ancestors to be able to quiet their babies, it was triply important for them to be able to quiet their fetuses!
Just imagine what it would feel like if your fetus threw a temper tantrum inside you. Not only could pounding fists and kicking feet make you sore, they could damage the fragile placenta or rip the umbilical cord, causing a fatal hemorrhage. Perhaps even more deadly than the risk of accidental injury was the chance that a squirming baby might get stuck in a bad position in the uterus and be unable to slide out, thus killing herself and her mother.
I'm convinced that the survival of our fetuses, and perhaps even the survival of our species, depended on this ancient calming reflex. Over millions of years, fetuses who became entranced by the sensations inside the uterus didn't thrash about and thus were most likely to stay alive. Our babies today are direct descendants of those "Zen" fetuses who were so easily pacified by the womb.
The 5 "S's": Five Steps to Turn On Your Baby's Calming Reflex
How is a vacuum cleaner like a lullaby? How is a Volvo like a flannel blanket? They all help switch on your baby's calming reflex by imitating some quality of your womb.
Although our ancient ancestors intuitively understood how to turn off their baby's crying and turn on their baby's calming, recognition of the calming reflex itself remained completely overlooked until I identified it during the mid-1990s while studying the characteristics of hundreds of crying babies in my practice.
I was struck by the fact that many traditional baby-calming methods failed to work unless they were done exactly right. I realized that, similar to a doctor setting off a knee reflex with a precise whack of a little hammer, the calming reflex could only be triggered by certain very specific actions. When presented correctly, however, the sounds and feelings of the womb had such a powerful effect that they could carry an infant from tears to tranquillity, sometimes even in mid-cry.
Parents and grandparents traditionally have used five different characteristics of the womb to soothe their babies. I refer to these time-honored "ingredients" of calm as the 5 "S's":
Side/Stomach-lying a baby on her side or stomach
Shushing-loud white noise
Swinging-rhythmic, jiggly motion
Sucking-sucking on anything from your nipple or finger to a pacifier
These five methods are extremely effective but only when performed exactly right. When done without the right technique and vigor, they do nothing. (Detailed descriptions of how to perform each "S" are in chapters 8 through 12.)
The Cuddle Cure: Combining the 5 "S's" into a Perfect Recipe for Your Baby's Bliss
You don't have to be a rocket scientist to be a terrific parent, but there are some little tricks that can help you do your job better. Most infant-care books list these calming tips, but that's as unhelpful as listing the ingredients of a recipe without giving the instructions for how to combine and cook them.
Each individual "S" may be effective for soothing a mildly fussy baby. Your "easy" baby may only need to suck or to be danced around the room in order to be calmed. However, doing all five together can switch on the calming reflex so strongly that, for many babies, they become an irresistibly soothing force for even the most frantic newborn. This layering of one "S" on top of another is so successful at making unhappy babies feel cozy and calm that one of my patients dubbed it "the Cuddle Cure."
What People are Saying About This
This beautifully written volume meets a tremendous need for a scientifically sound and effective parent guide to the care of persistently crying babies. Dr. Karp has written the best book that I've read on this challenging topic.
Perry W. Lesh Professor of Pediatrics, Indiana University School of Medicine
A witty and masterful book bursting with wisdom from start to finish. It contains some of the best, most original ideas about new babies I have ever seen. Dr. Karp entertains as he teaches, providing wonderful and innovative suggestions in a family-friendly way.
Chairman, Department of Anthropology, University of Notre Dame, and director, Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory
A must read! Dr. Karp offers insights into parenting by combining ancient and modern wisdom. Our baby boy responded to the 5 S’s immediately!
TV journalist/environmentalist and actor
What a marvelous book! Parents for years to come will be grateful to Dr. Karp for this lucid and entertaining explanation of why babies cry and how to help them.
Professor of pediatrics, University of California, San Diego Medical School, author of Encounters with Children: Pediatric Behavior and Development
Simply put, this is the best book I've ever read about keeping babies calm and happy. It is a must for everyone who cares about infants.
Center for Development and Learning, University of North Carolina, and author of Family-Focused Behavioral Pediatrics
Dr. Karp is simply the best. Any time a problem pops up in our children, he guides us with warmth, wisdom and humor. And that helps us sleep better at night.
Director of Airplane, Ghost, and Rat Race
Harvey Karp would make my Big Mama proud! He is leading us back to ages old basics, back to motherwit.
"Dr. Karp's 'Cuddle Cure' is quite simply the best way I know to calm crying
Professor of Pediatrics, UCLA School of Medicine Director, Pediatric Emergency Medicine, Harbor-UCLA Hospital
Harvey writes about areas that most parenting books don’t address. What every mother needs are simple tools that really work . . . and Harvey’s do.
Harvey Karp’s enlightened and creative approach has been a benefit not only to our children, but to my wife and me as parents.
photographer and singer-songwriter, Fleetwood Mac
Harvey Karp is the type of pediatrician that every parent would want. His experience is beyond compare and his ability to relate to parents is impressive. The Happiest Baby on the Block has the perfect solutions for helping parents grow and thrive . . . along with their babies.
R.N., M.S., member, Board of Directors, Lamaze International
There is nothing quite like watching Dr. Harvey work wonders on a screaming baby. He’s not a pediatrician, he’s a magician. Every time I bring my kids in to see him, I walk out wishing he was their father.
star of Curb Your Enthusiasm and co-creator of Seinfeld
The ‘Karp Wrap’ can stop a baby’s cries instantly.
RN, Director, Newborn Nursing Services, SM-UCLA Hospital
Dr. Karp’s practical approach is a superb way to help babies when they are crying or upset. All who care for children will gain greatly from this new addition to our parenting library.
Chairman, Department of Pediatrics, Infants and Children’s Hospital of Brooklyn, Maimonides, editor-in-chief, American Academy of Pediatrics Caring for Your New Baby and Young Child: Birth to Five
I wish I had known Dr. Karp for my first two children. With the soothing, loving tips in this book, caring for my two most recent babies has been a dream.
actress/founder of Hunter’s Chosen Child
Dr. Karp's book is extraordinary. The advice contained in this book, will make any parent, or grandparent, feel like a baby expert.
Professor Of Pediatrics, UCLA School Of Medicine, Director Primary Care Pediatrics, Cedars-Sinai Medical Center
Dr. Karp was exactly the doctor to see us through parenthood. He has the magic touch - not just with babies, but with new parents too.
screenwriters of Matilda, Reversal of Fortune and Practical Magic
The Happiest Baby on the Block is fun, fascinating and convincing. I highly recommend it to all new parents to help them accomplish one of their most important jobs…soothing their crying baby.
author and co-founder of Lamaze International
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I bought this video for some friends who are first time parents. They had a baby boy a couple of weeks ago. They had been struggling with their baby sleeping all day and crying ALL NIGHT. When I would talk to them, they were always exhausted. They were also getting really frustrated which was causing problems with their relationship. Dad was working all day, and wanted to come home and unwind and get a little bit of sleep. Mom was confused and at her wits end because she didn't know what else she could do. Nobody was getting any sleep at night. Mom was having to let baby sleep on her chest while sitting on the couch, and dad was in the bedroom. I started doing some research to see if there was anything that could help their baby sleep at night. I happen to stumble upon this book title on B&N and started reading all of the outstanding reviews. When I went to B&N to pick up the book, I saw that there was a video and purchased the video for them instead. Boy was this a GOD SEND!!! While simultaneously watching the video, they tried Dr. Karp's techniques, they were amazed when it INSTANTLY worked!!! They went from not getting any sleep to 6-7 hrs of sleep a night and their little one will only be two months. The parents have showed the video to their sister-in-law, who has a 7 mth old baby herself. She used to sit in the rocking chair in the middle of the night and cry with her baby because she didn't know what to do. She stated 'where was this video 7 mths ago, when I needed it?!?!' I myself am due to have a baby boy in January and plan to use Dr. Karp's techniques on my newborn right away!!! P.S. if you could get the video, PURCHASE IT!!! You can apply the techniques right away. Some parents and babies, may lose out on much needed rest because they are too busy and don't have the time to read a book. The mom I purchased this video for even told me, if I would have purchased her the book, 'I would not have read it. I was too frustrated and too exhausted with the little guy'. I will definitely purchase a copy of this video as a gift for all future baby showers that I attend!!!
Good information, but it could have easily been boiled down to a twenty-page pamphlet. Also, the author spends considerable time discussing his theories regarding the evolution of the species; this could be offensive to some. All in all, it is not worth buying. Borrow from a friend and read it in a day.
Here is the book in a nutshell: Swaddle your baby, let them have a pacifier, and make the shush sound when they are upset. By doing this you will be the best parent on the block. Not worth your time. Not revolutionary.
After 3 months of struggling with our collicy baby boy, I bought this book along with a couple of others. This book was by far the best. The swaddling alone helped my baby take longer naps, and by 4 months he was sleeping all night. The shushing also helped - we used a white noise maker at night to sooth him. His binky, the sucking, continues to sooth him today. Now at 11 1/2 months old, he is a happy baby boy who continues to sleep all night and take 2 solid naps a day. I just wish I would have found this book earlier! I will definitely recommend it to my friends who are expecting!
I've read EVERY baby book out there re: sleeping and crying, and this is the only one that WORKED immediately and meets your instincts as a mother that the baby is too young and physically immature to soothe herself and put herself to sleep in her first few months. I started using the techniques in this book when our baby was just under 3 months. We were at the height of the crying all night long, plus she was not taking naps during the day (if she did go down, she woke herself right up). I was able to soothe her to sleep in minutes and she stayed asleep much longer. Now at 4 months, she needs less of these techniques and she can fall asleep on her own -- just as well as the other books that told you to let you newborn just cry it out said their techniques would lead to. BUY THIS BOOK!
My husband and I read this shortly before our twins arrived - thank goodness! Such useful information and instructions on ways to help calm a fussy baby. Luckily a few different friends had recommended it to us, and then the pediatrician recommended it after they were born (we already had it by then). I'd say this is a must-have for all new parents!
This book is so helpful! A friend suggested it when our daughter was about 5 weeks old and was taking forever to go to sleep and crying most of the day. Needless to say, we needed help. Within two days we had a total turnaround on our daughter's behavior and a much happier baby. She slept longer and more solidly and was generally more content throughout the day.
I give this book to family and friends who are having a baby. As a nurse, I've used Dr. Karp's techniques many times. I incorporated in to our parenting classes.
I bought this book when I had a newborn and because it was so helpful I just bought it for my expecting sister-in-law (I had given my copy to a co-worker who was expecting). If you do not want to loose your mind on your child you MUST get this book, it is a life saver. This book helps your understand life from the baby's point of view, why it wants the 5C's and how to properly give them. I would recommend this for all new moms and maybe experienced moms that have had a large gap between babies or had a hard time with other babies. I don't like to read so I just focused on the very important parts but if you want a fuller understanding of what is going on in that baby's mind read this book. You won't regret this purchase.
The logic behind the "fourth trimester" and how to make the transition of your newborn from the uterus into this world by using the 5 S's to calming your baby makes so much sense. I have seen my one daughter use it on my grandson and have another daughter ready to give birth to my second grandson who is planning on using these techniques. I think that as a grandparent it is profitable to know these techniques as well. This provides consistency and security for these little ones learning how to cope in this big and sometimes cold world.
After a sleepless night, my husband and I read this book together. The techniques taught us how to get our baby (preemie) to sleep for longer stretches and put into words how to calm him when he is fussy. I attribute this book to saving us, our son and our marriage. Everyone I know that is having a baby is getting a copy.
The premise of this book is based on Dr. Karp's belief that even full-term babies are born prematurely and need a "fourth trimester" to fully develop before birth. The theory is intriguing and his argument compelling (especially since the suggestions he makes to aid your baby in being happy, calm and settled truly work!) I loved the book and recommend it highly...it's become part of my baby shower package for all expectant mothers I know.