The House We Grew Up In: A Novel

The House We Grew Up In: A Novel

by Lisa Jewell


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From the New York Times bestselling author of Then She Was Gone...


Meet the picture-perfect Bird family: pragmatic Meg, dreamy Beth, and towheaded twins Rory and Rhys, one an adventurous troublemaker, the other his slighter, more sensitive counterpart. Their father is a sweet, gangly man, but it’s their beautiful, free-spirited mother Lorelei who spins at the center. In those early years, Lorelei tries to freeze time by filling their simple brick house with precious mementos. Easter egg foils are her favorite. Craft supplies, too. She hangs all of the children’s art, to her husband’s chagrin.

Then one Easter weekend, a tragedy so devastating occurs that, almost imperceptibly, it begins to tear the family apart. Years pass and the children have become adults, while Lorelei has become the county’s worst hoarder. She has alienated her husband and children and has been living as a recluse. But then something happens that beckons the Bird family back to the house they grew up in—to finally understand the events of that long-ago Easter weekend and to unearth the many secrets hidden within the nooks and crannies of home.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781476776866
Publisher: Atria Books
Publication date: 04/28/2015
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 416
Sales rank: 9,163
Product dimensions: 5.30(w) x 8.20(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Lisa Jewell is the internationally bestselling author of eighteen novels, including the New York Times bestseller Then She Was Gone, as well as I Found You, The Girls in the Garden, and The House We Grew Up In. In total, her novels have sold more than two million copies across the English-speaking world and her work has also been translated into sixteen languages so far. Lisa lives in London with her husband and their two daughters. Connect with her on Twitter @LisaJewellUK and on Facebook @LisaJewellOfficial.

Read an Excerpt

The House We Grew Up In


Tuesday 2nd November 2010

Hi, Jim!

Well, I must say, I didn’t think for a minute you’d be called something earthy like Jim! The Barbour and natty waistcoat in your profile photo make you look more like a Rupert or a Henry, something serious with two syllables, you know! And talking of syllables, and since you asked, no, I’m not really called Rainbowbelle. OF COURSE NOT! I’m called Lorelei and my name has three or four syllables, depending on how you say it. (My parents named us after mythical maidens. My sister is called Pandora. There was an Athena, but she was stillborn, so you know.) Anyway. Lor-a-lay-ee. Or Lor-a-lay. I’m not fussy really.

I’m sixty-five years old and I live in one of the prettiest villages in the Cotswolds in a big, crazy old house full of what I call TREASURES and what my children call CRAP. We are probably ALL right.

I have four children. Megan is forty, Bethan is thirty-eight and the twins, Rory and Rhys, are thirty-five. Oh, and thanks mainly to the frantic reproduction of my eldest daughter I am a multiple grandmother too! Do you have any children? You didn’t mention them so I assume not? People usually tell you about their children before anything else, right? I don’t see them very much, unfortunately, they’re all so busy, and I’m, well, I suppose you could say insular these days. I lost my partner about four years ago and things kind of unraveled from there, you might say.

Anyway, what can I tell you about me? I love nature, I love the countryside, I love children, I love to swim. I’m fit, for my age. I’ve kept my figure over the years, and am grateful for that. I see some women I’ve known for many years just turn to woolly mammoths once they pass menopause! And, as you can see from my picture, I’ve kept my hair long. Nothing ages a woman faster than a haircut!!

Anyway, that’s enough about me. Tell me more about you! You say you’re a widower. I’m very sorry to hear that. And whereabouts in the North do you live? I can see from your photo that you have a dog. That is a very beautiful retriever. What is it called? We had a dog when the children were growing up, but once they’d all gone, I could never quite see the point of animals.

I will see what I can do about photographs. I’m not really very techy beyond my laptop. But there must be something else I can send you. I’ll check it out.

Well, thank you, Jim, for getting in touch. The Internet really is a marvelous thing, especially for old codgers like us, wouldn’t you say? I’d be lost without it really. I’d love to hear back from you again, but please don’t feel you have to, if you think I sound dreadful!!

Yours with best wishes,

Lorelei Bird

April 2011

The damp heat came as a shock after the chill of the air-­conditioning that had cooled the car for the last two hours. Meg slammed the door behind her, pushed up the sleeves of her cotton top, pulled down her sunglasses and stared at the house.

“Jesus Christ.”

Molly joined her on the pavement, and gawped from behind lime-green Ray-Bans. “Oh, my God.”

They stood together for a moment, side by side, the same height as each other now. Molly had caught up last summer, much to her delight. They now both stood at five foot eight. Molly long and lean as a fashion drawing, tanned legs in denim hot pants, honey-dusted hair bundled on top of her head in an artful pile, white Havaianas, a chambray shirt over a pink tank top, tiny ankles and wrists layered in friendship circlets and rubber bands. Meg, on the other hand, solid as a quarterback, sensible in three-quarter-length navy chinos and a Breton-­striped long-sleeved top, a pair of silver-sequined FitFlops and a last-minute pedicure her only concession to the unseasonal heat wave. Mother and only daughter, in the late stages of a nightmarish, clichéd teenage disaster that had lasted more than three years. Almost friends now. Almost. Someone had once told Meg that you get your daughter back when she’s nineteen. Only four more years to wait.

“This is worse than I thought. I mean, so much worse.” Meg shook her head and took a tentative step towards the house. There it stood, brick for brick, exactly as it had been the day she was born, forty years earlier. Three low windows facing out onto the street; four windows above; two front doors, one at either end; on the right by the side entrance a plaque, made by a long-dead local craftsman, an oval with the words The Bird House painted on it and a pair of lovebirds with their beaks entwined. The green-painted gate to the left of the house that opened up onto a graveled path to the back door, the stickers in the windows declaring membership of Neighborhood Watch (whatever happened to Neighborhood Watch? Meg wondered idly), allegiance to the RSPB and an intolerance towards people selling door-to-door.

All there, just as it had been forever and ever.

Except . . .

“This is the worst house I’ve ever seen,” said Molly. “It’s worse than the ones on the TV shows.”

“We haven’t even been inside yet, Moll, hold that thought.”

“And my nose too, right?”

“Yes, probably.” She sighed.

The windows, which to her recollection had never been cleaned, were now so thick with grime that they were fully opaque. In fact, they were black. The pastel-yellow Gloucester brick was discolored and damaged. The green gate was hanging off its post by one solitary nail and the graveled pathway was piled high with random objects: two old pushchairs, a rusty bike, a dead Christmas tree in a broken pot, a box of magazines swollen and waterlogged to twice their original size.

The flat-fronted style of the house meant that it held most of its personality within and behind, but even on such scant display, it was clear that this house had a disease. The village had grown more and more gentrified over the decades, all the old houses scrubbed to a gleaming yellow, doors and window frames Farrow-&-Balled to the nth degree, and there, lodged between them, like a rotten tooth, sat the Bird House.

“God, it’s so embarrassing,” said Molly, pushing her Ray-Bans into her hair and wrinkling her tiny nose. “What must everyone think?”

Meg raised her eyebrows. “Hmm,” she said, “I’d say that judging by our local reputation this is probably no more than anyone in the village would expect. Come on then”—she smiled at her daughter, nervously—“let’s go in, shall we? Get it over with?”

Molly smiled back grimly and nodded.

April 1981

Megan pulled back the ivy and pushed her fingertips inside a small crevice in the wall.

“Got another one!” she shouted out to Bethan and the twins.

“Oh, well done, Meggy!” her mother called from the back step, where she stood in her strawberry-print apron watching proceedings with a contented smile. “Bravo!”

Megan pulled out the small foil-wrapped egg and dropped it into her basket. “It’s pink!” she said pointedly to her younger sister.

“Don’t care,” said Bethan. “I’ve got three pink ones already.”

Megan looked up at the sky; it was cloudless, densely blue, hot as July. Mum had said they needed to find their eggs quickly, otherwise they might melt. Her eyes scanned the gardens. She’d found all the eggs in the woodpile, gingerly plucking them from next to rubbery woodlice. There’d been more in the beds of daffodils and hyacinths that lined the pathways around the greenhouse and she’d come across a big gold one sitting in the branches of the cherry tree outside the kitchen door. She counted up her eggs and found she had twelve. Bethan and the twins were still searching close to the house, but Megan suspected that the top garden had been all but stripped of its eggy assets, so she skipped down the slate-covered steps to the lower garden. Suddenly the sounds of her siblings and her mother faded to a murmur. It was warmer down here, soft and hazy. The grass had stripes in it, from where Dad had mown it yesterday, this way and that, and little piles of shaggy grass trimmings already turning pale in the burning sun. A camellia bush, confused by the early summer, had already bloomed and spilled its fat blossoms onto the lawn, where they lay browning and sated, halfway to ugly. Megan headed to the lichen-spotted sundial in the middle of the lawn. Three more foil-wrapped eggs sat on top of it and she brushed them into her basket with the side of her hand.

She heard Bethan tripping down the steps behind her in her flamenco shoes. Megan turned and smiled. Sometimes when she looked at her little sister she felt overcome with love. Her worst enemy and her best friend.

Meg and Beth looked identical. They both had what her mother called the “Bird face.” It was the same as her dad’s and the same as her auntie Lorna’s and the same as Granny Bird’s. Apple cheeks, high foreheads, wide smiles. The only difference was that Megan’s hair was brown and curly like Mum’s, and Bethan’s was straight and black like Dad’s. Rory and Rhys, the twins, looked like their mum. They had “Douglas faces.” Low foreheads, long noses, neat bee-stung lips, and narrow blue eyes peering curiously from behind curtains of long blond hair.

People always said, “Oh, such lovely-looking children.” They said, “You must be so proud, Mrs. Bird.” They said, “What perfect angels.”

And Mum would say, “You should see them when they’re at home,” and roll her eyes, with one hand running through ­Rory’s hair, the other wrapped around Rhys’s hand and her voice full of love.

“How many have you got?” Meg called out to her sister.

“Eleven. How about you?”


Their mother appeared at the bottom of the steps with the twins in tow. “The boys have got nine each, I think we’re almost there,” she said. “Think yellow,” she added with an exaggerated wink. The boys let go of her hands and ran towards the slide at the bottom of the garden that had yellow handles. Bethan ran towards an upturned bucket that was actually orange. But Megan knew exactly where her mother meant. The Saint-John’s-wort bush right in front of them. She walked towards it and let her eyes roam over the clouds of yellow flowers abuzz with fat bumblebees before they came to rest on a row of terra-cotta pots underneath, overflowing with eggs and small yellow puffball chicks with glued-on eyes. She was about to scoop up the eggs and chicks when her mother touched her on her shoulder, her soft dry hands firm against Meg’s sun-freckled skin. “Share them,” she whispered softly, “with the little ones. Make it fair.”

Meg was about to complain but then she took a deep breath and nodded. “Here!” she called out to her siblings. “Look! There’s millions.”

All three hurtled to the Saint-John’s-wort bush and their mother divided up the remaining eggs into four piles and handed them to each child in turn. “Already starting to melt,” she said, licking some chocolate from the edge of her thumb, “better get them indoors.”

The cool of the house was shocking after the heat outside. It draped itself over Meg’s bare skin like a cold flannel. Dad was pouring juice into beakers at the kitchen table. The dog was dozing on the window seat. The yellow walls of the kitchen were entirely covered over with the children’s art. Megan ran her finger along the edges of a drawing that she’d done when she was four. It always amazed her to think it had been stuck to the wall there, in the very same place, with the very same piece of Sellotape, for six whole years. She could barely remember being four. She certainly could not remember sitting and drawing this portrait entitled megn and mumy, composed of two string-legged people with crazy hair, split-in-half smiles and hands twice the size of their bodies, suspended in a gravity-free world of spiky blue trees and floating animals. The wall of art was a conversation piece for anyone coming into the house; it spanned all three walls, spread itself over cupboard doors, over door frames, around corners and even into the pantry. Dad would try and take some down occasionally, to “update the wall” as he’d put it. But Mum would just smile her naughty-little-girl smile and say, “Over my dead body.” If Dad ever saw one of his children producing a piece of art he’d snatch it away the moment it was shown to him and say, “That is so very beautiful that I shall have to put it in my special folder,” and spirit it away somewhere (occasionally tucked inside his clothes) before Mum saw it and stuck it to the wall.

“Now,” she said, pulling her tangly hair back into a ponytail and removing her apron, “you can eat all the eggs you like as long as you promise you’ll still have room for lunch. And remember, keep the foils for the craft box!”

The “craft box” was another bugbear of Dad’s. It had once been a small plastic toolbox neatly filled with sequins and pipe cleaners and sheets of gold leaf. Over the years it had expanded into an ever-growing family of giant plastic crates that lived in a big cupboard in the hall, filled with an impossible tangle of old string lengths, knots of wool, empty sweet wrappers, toilet-roll middles, old underwear cut into rags, packing chips and used wrapping paper. Megan didn’t really do crafts anymore—she was nearly eleven now—and Bethan had never been as creative as her sister, while the boys of course would rather be roaming the gardens or charging about the house than sitting with a tube of Pritt and a handful of old ice-lolly sticks. No one really used the craft box anymore, but that didn’t stop Lorelei constantly topping it up with all sorts of old junk.

She pulled the egg foils eagerly from the children now as they discarded them, smoothing them flat with her fingertips into delicate slivers, her face shining with satisfaction. “So pretty,” she said, piling them together, “like little slices of rainbow. And of course, they will always make me think of today. This perfect day with my lovely children when the sun shone and shone and all was right with the world.”

She looked at each child in turn and smiled her smile. She ran a hand over Rhys’s hair and stroked it from his eyes. “My lovely children,” she said again, her words encompassing all four of them, but her loving gaze fixed firmly upon her last-born child.

Rhys had been the smallest of all of Lorelei’s babies. Megan and Bethan had both weighed over nine pounds. Rory had been the first twin out, weighing in at a healthy six pounds and fifteen ounces. And then, as her mother often recounted, out popped poor Rhys like a plucked quail, a little under four pounds, blue and wrinkled and just about able to breathe on his own. They’d put him under lights—or “lightly toasted him,” as Lorelei also often recounted—and declared him fit to go home only after three long days.

Lorelei still worried about him more than the other three. At just six years old he was smaller than Rory, smaller than most of the children in his class, with a pale complexion and a tendency to catch colds and tummy bugs. He clung to his mother whenever they were out in public, wailed like a baby when he got hurt and, unlike his brother, didn’t like playing with other children. He seemed happy only when he was here, at home, brother on one side, mother on the other. Megan didn’t know what to make of him. Sometimes she wished he’d never been born. Sometimes she really thought they’d be better off without him. He didn’t “match.” All the Birds were fun and gregarious, silly and bright. Rhys just dragged them down.

Megan unthinkingly squeezed her fist around the gold foil that she’d just unpeeled from the big egg she’d found in the cherry tree, and jumped slightly as her mother’s hand slapped down against hers.

“Foil!” Lorelei cried. “Foil!”

She immediately let her fist fall open and her mother took the crumpled foil with a smile. “Thank you, darling,” she said sweetly. She let her gaze fall on the foil and said, “Look at it, so pretty, so shiny, so . . . happy.”

The Easter holidays stretched out for another week. The heat wave continued and the Bird children came indoors only for beakers of juice, slices of bread and butter and desperately needed visits to the toilet.

Friends came and went, there was a day trip to the beach at Weston-super-Mare, and on the last weekend of the holidays they had a visit from Lorelei’s sister Pandora and her two teenage sons. Dad filled the paddling pool and the adults drank glasses of Pimm’s with fruit-shaped plastic ice cubes bobbing about in them. Megan’s cousin Tom played David Bowie songs on his heavily stickered guitar. Rory burst the paddling pool with a stick and the water seeped heavily onto the lawn, leaving it waterlogged and boggy, and Dad said, “Well, that’s that then.” Lorelei scooped the floppy remains of the punctured pool into her arms like it was an injured child and carried it into the garage murmuring, “Dad’ll fix it up.” Dad said, “You and I both know that Dad won’t fix it up. I have no idea how to fix paddling pools and I still haven’t fixed the one that got burst last year.” And Lorelei smiled and blew him a kiss across the garden.

Dad sighed and said, “Well. We now have three punctured paddling pools sitting in our garage—this house is just a dumping ground,” and raised his eyebrows heavenwards.

Pandora smiled and said, “Just like our dad. He never could throw anything away.”

Megan’s other cousin Ben smiled and said, “Tell us again about what Lorelei used to collect when she was a child.”

Pandora frowned and then smiled. “Autumn leaves. Ring pulls. Tags from new clothes. Cinema stubs. The silver foil from Mum’s cigarette packets.”

“And hair!” said Ben gleefully. “Don’t forget the hair.”

“Yes,” said Pandora, “anytime anyone in our family had a haircut, Lorelei begged to keep it. She had a shopping bag full of it under her bed. It was quite gruesome.”

The adults and teenagers laughed and Megan looked at them curiously. They’d had this conversation before—every time they were together, it sometimes seemed—and whenever she heard them talking about her mum like this it sounded different. The older she got the less she found it funny and the more she found it peculiar. Because she was now the age that her mother had been at the time of these strange childhood collections and she could no more imagine herself collecting old hair than she could asking to go to school on a Saturday.

“Are you laughing at me?” her mother asked good-­naturedly as she returned from the garage.

“No, no, no!” said Ben. “Absolutely not. We’re just talking about you affectionately.”

“Hmm,” said Lorelei, wiping her damp hands down the length of her long denim skirt. “I strongly suspect not.”

And then she spread her arms upwards, revealing unshaved armpits of lush brown curls, and declared, “Look at that sky, just look at it. The blueness of it. Makes me want to snatch out handfuls of it and put it in my pockets.”

Megan saw a look pass over her father’s face at that moment. Love and worry. As though he was aching to say something unspeakable.

The look softened as Megan watched and then he smiled and said, “If my wife had her way, her pockets would be full of pieces of every single thing in the world.”

“Oh, yes!” Lorelei beamed. “They would be. Totally and absolutely bulging.”

Pandora had brought homemade butterfly cakes with fluffed-up cream and more tiny yellow chicks atop.

Lorelei served them in the garden with tea from a pot and scones and cream. There was more Pimm’s and a plastic bowl of strawberries. The twins ran barefoot back and forth from the hosepipe to fill their water pistols, which, after countless tellings-off, they were using to squirt only each other. Tom and Ben had retired to the bottom of the garden to smoke cigarettes in the hammock and share secret jokes together. Megan and Bethan sat side by side, listening to the grown-ups talk.

When Megan herself was a grown-up and people came to ask about her childhood, it was afternoons such as these that would impel her to say, “My childhood was perfect.”

And it was. Perfect.

They lived in a honey-colored house that sat hard up against the pavement of a picture-postcard Cotswolds village and stretched out beyond into three-quarters of an acre of rambling half-kempt gardens. Their mother was a beautiful hippy called Lorelei with long tangled hair and sparkling green eyes who treated her children like precious gems. Their father was a sweet gangly man called Colin, who still looked like a teenager with floppy hair and owlish round-framed glasses. They all attended the village school, they ate home-cooked meals together every night, their extended family was warm and clever; there was money for parties and new paddling pools, but not quite enough for foreign travel, but it didn’t matter, because they lived in paradise. And even as a child, Megan knew this to be paradise. Because, she could see with hindsight, her mother told her so. Her mother existed entirely in the moment. And she made every moment sparkle. No one in Megan’s family was ever allowed to forget how lucky they were. Not even for a second.

A cloud passed over the sun just then and Lorelei laughed and pointed and said, “Look! Look at that cloud! Isn’t it wonderful? It looks exactly like an elephant!”

April 2011

The keys were where Lorelei had always left them, under a cracked plant pot behind a water pipe beneath the kitchen window. Meg pulled them out and dusted the sticky cobwebs from her fingertips. “Yuck.”

The house had been impenetrable by either of its front doors for many years now. The family had always come in and out through the kitchen door at the back and for the last few years Lorelei had been using both hallways at the front as bonus “storage areas.”

“Right,” Meg said, rejoining Molly by the back door, “let’s go. Deep breath.” She threw her daughter a brave smile and was gratified to see her smile reflected back at her.

“You okay, Mum?”

Meg nodded. Of course she was okay. Meg was always okay. Someone had to be and she’d been the one to draw that straw. “I’m fine, love, thank you.”

Molly peered at her curiously and then took one of her hands in her own and squeezed it gently. Meg almost flinched at the tender power of it. Her daughter’s touch. Until recently her last memory of her daughter’s touch had been the sting of a palm across her cheek, the jab of toes against her shins, the drag of fingernails down her arm. It had been that bad. Truly. Everything she’d been warned of about teenage girls, squared and squared again. But lately, things had started to change. Lately, it seemed as though her daughter had started to like her again.

“Thank you, love,” she said again.

“You know you can talk about it, don’t you? You know I want to listen. I want to help. You’ve lost your mummy. If I lost my mummy, I’d . . .” Molly’s eyes filled with tears and she smiled through them. “Oh, God, well, you know.”

Meg laughed. “I know, baby, I know. But honestly. I’m good. Really.”

Molly squeezed her hand one more time before letting it go. She pulled in her breath theatrically and then nodded at the key in Meg’s hand. Meg nodded back and fitted it into the lock. She turned the key. She opened the door.

March 1986

The sky was dark with rain clouds and in the very far distance, thunder was starting to rumble. The York stone paving slabs were still stained charcoal gray from the last downpour and fat droplets of rain clung tremulously to the edges of leaves and spring blossoms. Behind the cloud was a strip of blue and there on the horizon, the faint beginnings of a rainbow. Lorelei stood barefoot just outside the kitchen door, wrapped in a long multicolored angora cardigan. Her waist-length hair was twisted and held on her crown with three large tortoiseshell combs.

“Look, Meggy,” she said, her head appearing around the door. “Look. A rainbow! Quick!”

Meg glanced up from her revision, spread before her on the kitchen table, and smiled encouragingly. “In a minute,” she said.

“No!” cried her mother. “It’ll be gone in a minute. Come and look now!”

Meg sighed and rested her pen on her notepad. “Okay,” she said.

She joined her mother outside, feeling the wetness of the flagstones seeping through her sheepskin slippers.

“Beth!” her mother called back into the kitchen. “Boys! Come quickly!”

“They’re watching telly,” said Meg. “They won’t be able to hear you.”

“Go and get them, will you, darling?”

“They won’t come.”

“Of course they will. Quick, darling, run in and tell them.”

Meg knew it was pointless to argue. She sighed again and headed towards the sitting room. Her three siblings sat in a row on the grubby sofa with the dog lying listlessly between them. They were watching Saturday Superstore and eating carrot sticks.

“Mum says there’s a rainbow,” she said defeatedly. “She wants you to go and look at it.”

No one acknowledged her so she returned to her mother with the bad news.

Lorelei sighed melodramatically. “That’s a terrible pity,” she said. “And look”—she gestured at the sky—“now it’s gone. Gone for good. Forever . . .” A small tear rolled down the side of her nose and she wiped it away with a bunched-up fist, the way a small child might do. “Such a pity,” she murmured, “to miss a rainbow . . .” Then she forced her face into a smile and said, “Ah well, at least one of you saw it. You can always describe it to the others.”

Meg smiled tightly. As if, she thought to herself, as if I will sit with my siblings and regale them with descriptions of the red and the yellow and the pink and the green, the awe and the splendor of the purple and the orange and the blue, the miracle of distant prismatic stripes. “Yes,” she said. “Maybe, later.”

It was still raining the next day. Lorelei insisted on the egg hunt taking place regardless.

“Let’s do it indoors, darling,” Colin had suggested gently.

“No way, Jose!” Lorelei had countered. “Easter Sunday is egg hunt in the garden. Rain or no rain. Isn’t that right, kiddies?”

Meg looked out towards the garden, through the rain-­splattered panes of glass, and thought of her hair, lovingly back-combed that morning into a fat quiff and sprayed hard with Elnett. She thought of the muddy lawn and the cold, wet grass and her canvas pumps, and she thought of her drainpipe jeans that she’d had trouble squeezing into this morning, and the date she was going on next week, for which she planned on being able to wear said jeans, not to mention the troublesome spot forming on her chin.

The twins jumped into their Wellington boots and raincoats, while Lorelei ran around in the rain, planting her eggs in the garden. Meg watched her through the window. She looked like a wraith, long and lean, in a cream muslin smock, faded jeans, green Wellingtons and a floppy-brimmed straw hat, her long hair sticking wet to her back, her small breasts growing visible through the fabric of her top as it dampened. Her face was shining with joy as she hopped from spot to spot, plucking eggs from a straw basket held in the crook of her arm.

The boys stood in the doorway, bristling with anticipation. Just turned eleven years old they could still be held rapt by Lorelei with her enthusiasm and childlike charm. Her babies, still, just about.

“Ready, steady, go!” she called out a moment later, and the boys hared out onto the lawn, followed more sedately by Bethan in a pink polka-dot raincoat and rubber boots.

“Meggy?” Her mother stared at her curiously. “No eggs?”

“I’ll leave them for the others,” said Meg, hoping a suggestion of sibling-oriented kindness might prevent further urging.

“There’s lots to go round. Tons and tons.”

Meg shrugged. “I don’t want my hair to get wet.”

“Oh, for goodness’ sake. That’s no excuse. Put on a rain cap, here . . .” She pulled a clear plastic hood from a drawer and forced it into Meg’s hands.

Meg stared at it, aghast. “I’m not wearing that!”

“Why on earth not?”

“Because it’s an old lady’s hat.”

“It is not! It’s my hat!”


Lorelei threw her head back and laughed hard. “Oh, darling,” she said, “one day, God willing, you’ll be forty too, and I promise you, you will not feel a day over eighteen. Not a day. Now put the hat on and come and have some fun with the little ones. Imagine,” she said, her face turning serious for a moment, “imagine if something happened to one of us and there was no Easter egg hunt next year, imagine if everything stopped being perfect—you would wish so hard that you’d taken part today . . .”

Meg stared into the depths of her mother’s eyes, the greeny-blue reservoirs of a million fervent emotions. They were set firm. She forced a smile and said, “Okay,” dragging out the second syllable to demonstrate her sacrifice. She found eleven eggs that morning and gave them all to her siblings.

Pandora and her husband, Laurence, arrived at midday, without either of their now-grown-up sons but with a new puppy in tow. Shortly afterwards, Colin’s sister Lorna turned up, with a carrier bag full of Easter eggs. Some neighbors were next to arrive, Bob and Jenny and their three young children. Lorelei roasted a leg of lamb in the Aga and served it with far too many honey-glazed carrots (“Aren’t they the most glorious shade of orange?”) and not nearly enough roast potatoes. The children sat at a plastic picnic table at one end of the kitchen while the adults sat together around the antique pine table in the middle. Megan felt lost among the two parties, too old for the children, too young for the adults, not one person in the room to appreciate her perfectly applied eyeliner or her new Aran cardigan with leather buttons or the fact that she’d finally got down to eight and a half stone. She didn’t like carrots and was toying with the idea of vegetarianism, so she picked daintily at the one roast potato she’d been allocated by her mother (“family hold” back, darling!) and stared through the window at the incessant rain, fantasizing about her escape.

Megan imagined it to be a glorious explosion of glass shards, as she slammed her fists through the invisible walls around her. She imagined fresh air and bright light and dizzying amounts of space. She saw a room with four flat bare walls, a square bed dressed in plain white sheets, a tall window hung with a simple pair of white curtains like the ones in Demi Moore’s apartment in St. Elmo’s Fire. She saw a shiny kitchen, gleaming pans, a white bathroom and a quiet man with clean fingernails and a silver guitar.

Then she looked around her own kitchen, at the fifteen years’ worth of children’s art lovingly hung and tacked and stuck to the walls, and the thought of escape soured in her heart. She left the children’s table and went and sat herself on her father’s knee at the grown-ups’ table, hoping for a return of the sense of the sugary days of her childhood. He wrapped a gangly arm around her waist and Megan smiled across the table at her mother.

“You know, Lorrie,” their neighbor Jenny was saying, “your kitchen really is the loveliest place to be on a grotty day like today.”

Lorelei smiled and put an arm around her friend.

“No, it really is. So warm. So welcoming. If I ever found myself stranded on the side of a snowy mountain, freezing to death, I would probably hallucinate about this place. About Lorrie’s lovely kitchen.”

“Thank you,” said Lorelei, kissing her on her cheek. “Meggy thinks the house is a mess, don’t you, my darling?”

“It is a mess,” she replied.

Lorelei laughed. “Diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks, darling, isn’t that right?”

Meg raised her eyebrows and rolled her eyes. “I just don’t know why you have to keep so much stuff. I mean, I understand all this . . .” She gestured at the artwork. “But why, for example, do we have nineteen tea towels?”

Lorelei snorted. “We do not have nineteen tea towels.”

“We absolutely do have nineteen tea towels, Mother. I counted them the other day. Just as an experiment. Look!” She leapt to her feet and yanked open a kitchen drawer. She pulled out examples and held them up as evidence. “We have tea towels with holes in them, tea towels with burn marks, stained tea towels, threadbare tea towels. But look! We also have brand-new tea towels—look, nice ones.”

Pandora laughed. “I must confess, Lorrie, I bought you that one because I was a bit alarmed by the elderly appearance of the existing tea towels last time I came.”

“Yet, still,” Meg continued theatrically, warming to her theme, “do we throw the old ones away? No! We do not! We wash them and we dry them and then we fold them and we return them to this drawer which now has nineteen tea towels in it!”

“Well, darling,” her mother replied drily, “I must say, given that you’ll be sitting your O levels in less than three months, I’d have thought you might have better things to do with your time than count tea towels.”

“Please let me throw one away, Mother. Please. I beg of you. How about this one?” She held up a limp gray cloth with a rend running down the full length of it.

“No!” exclaimed Lorelei. “Absolutely not! It’ll do for rags.”

“Mother,” said Megan in exasperation, “we have a black bag on the landing bulging at the seams with ‘rags.’ Which we never use. We do not need any more rags.”

“Put it back,” said her mother, her joyful eyes clouding over for a moment. “Please. Just put it back. I’ll do a clear-out another day. When you’re all back at school.”

“But you won’t, will you? You know that and I know that. If I came back here in ten years’ time there’d be thirty tea towels in that drawer. Including this one.” She hurled the tea towel down on her mother’s lap.

“Oh, now, Megan, come on,” said Jenny nervously. “Stop bullying lovely Mummy.”

Meg sighed and groaned. She looked around and realized that everyone had stopped talking and that they were all staring at her with varying degrees of discomfort. Beth looked at her in an accusatory way from the other table and her father stared at his shoes. Then Meg looked at her mother again, who was smiling nervously and rubbing at the pointy nibs of her elbows.

“It’s only tea towels,” said Rhys.

“Yes,” said Lorelei brightly. “That’s exactly right, Rhys, it’s only tea towels. Now, who’s for more carrots? Absolutely heaps left!”

Megan went up to her room and listened to the Top 40 on Radio One, letting the clean, sweet melody of Simple Minds rub away her frayed nerves.

April 2011

It was not a kitchen. Not in any traditional or easily recognizable way. It was a structure, a form, an entity, like the guts of a living creature. It was dark, eerily dark, no sense of the bright spring day outside, just a white stripe of light strafing through a gap in the piles in front of the windows. Meg felt around the wall to her left for the light switch. The lights did not come on. She was unsurprised. She switched her mobile phone to its torch function and swept the beam around the room.

“Sweet Jesus Christ.”

Molly stood behind her mother, a hand clamped over her mouth, her darkly kohled eyes wide with horror. She grabbed Meg’s arm with her other hand and gripped it.

Megan sighed. “Oh, Mum.”

Molly relaxed her grip on her mother’s arm and let her hand drop from her mouth. “I remember eating breakfast in here,” she said. “There was a big table. There. With benches. And the cereal was in jars, over there, with cork lids. And there was a view, through the window. Of a tree . . .”

They both turned to look at the place where the windows had been. But it was hard to place them, behind the wall of things. It was disorienting. The house no longer made any sense.

Molly turned back to her mother. “How are we going to get through to the rest of the house?”

Meg sighed and swung the torch beam to the area at the back of the room that should, in theory, have contained a door leading to the hallway and the rest of the house. All that the beam picked out was more walls. Walls within walls. There was no sign of the back of the room and no immediate sense of how to locate it. But then the light picked up a gap, a foot wide. She shone the light down onto the floor and saw flagstones. The flagstones of her childhood. The only familiar feature so far.

“I think,” she said, shining the light back onto the tiny gap, “we’ll have to go this way.”

“You’re kidding me,” said Molly.

“I’m afraid not.”

“I’ll have a panic attack if I have to go through there.”

“Yes. Me too. Although, Christ, I’m not even sure I could squeeze through. I mean, look, it’s so narrow.”

“Well, I’m not going there on my own. No way.”

Meg set her shoulders. She’d lost three stone six years ago—she was no longer a size sixteen—but still, she was a solid woman, not a waif like her mother and her teenage daughter. “Fine,” she said, sucking in her stomach, “fine. I’ll lead the way.”

“Oh, Jesus,” whimpered Molly, holding on to the back of Meg’s T-shirt. “Mum, I’m scared.”

“Don’t be daft,” said Meg, holding back her own primeval monsters. “There’s nothing to be scared of. It’s just Grandma’s house. That’s all.”

“But we’re the first people to set foot in here for years. I mean, shit, Mum, there could be anything in here. Rats! Mum, what about rats?!”

“It’s going to be fine, love. There won’t be any rats. Grandma didn’t really eat at home, so there was nothing for them to dine on. Come on. Just hold on to me and breathe in.”

The walls compressed Meg firmly from both sides. They felt solid and uniform against her body, but the light from her phone picked out details: a shirt cuff, a shred of netting, the corner of a book, the knot in the top of a black bag. All smoothed to a formless corridor by the passage of Lorelei’s body over the countless days she’d lived here alone, refusing to accept visitors or help.

“You okay, love?” she whispered into the muffled darkness.

“Yes. I think so. Are we nearly there yet?”

Meg could feel her heart contracting and throbbing with a deep-seated sense of unease. “Pretty much,” she replied cheerfully.

“What’s at the other end?”

“Not sure yet. Hoping for a door.”

The corridor turned through a forty-five-degree angle a moment later. She aimed the light ahead and saw an opening. “We’re there,” she said. “We’ve made it.”

She expected a cool rush of light and freedom as she pulled her body from the claustrophobic crush of her mother’s corridor; she expected to be able to shake out her bones and feel released. But she saw immediately that this corridor led directly into another one. The doorway from the back of the kitchen into the front hall was merely a pit stop. She suddenly saw the rest of this journey unfurl in her mind’s eye. She saw herself squeezing through smaller and smaller apertures, into deeper and deeper corners of the house until she was squashed into a ball and unable to turn around. She swallowed back an urge to scream and said, “Right, well, at least it’s not quite so dark in here.” The window on the landing was only partially blocked, allowing a wash of dusty-blue light across the tops of the towers. At least here Meg could gain height and perspective. Ahead of her was the door into the snug, to the left the door into the living room and to the right the foot of the staircase. She only knew this from memory, because no such things were visible from where she stood. She’d been told that Lorelei had lived mainly in her bedroom, so she decided that they should aim to get there, that it was probably less cluttered (Ha! Cluttered! What an entirely insufficient word that is) than the rest of the house and that they were both less likely to die getting into it.

“Right,” she said, encouraging her daughter. “Next one! Are you ready?”

Molly nodded uncertainly and grabbed the back of Meg’s T-shirt again.

They slithered sideways through the tunnel, which, almost like a well-planned road system, had a junction halfway down where they turned right. Meg felt for the first runner with her toes and then gingerly walked up, subconsciously numbering them as she’d done countless times as a child. Eleven to the landing. Then a dogleg and another eight to the first floor.

As she emerged at the top of the stairs she turned to Molly and smiled. “It’s quite bright up here,” she said. “Look, the top of the landing window. You can see out into the garden.” Molly stood at her side and they drank in the view from the window as if it were water in a desert. Dust motes sparkled in the midday sun like clouds of glitter. Furry cobwebs hung from the wooden beams in the ceiling and from the old paper light shades. It smelled mustier up here, meatier. Downstairs had carried a smell of dead paper and dust; here it smelled of old flesh and unwashed things.

Molly put her hand to her mouth again and shuddered. “Gross,” she said. “It’s just as well you can’t actually smell these places on TV. No one would watch those shows otherwise. Seriously.”

“It’s not as bad as I thought it would be. Given how long she lived like this.”

“It’s disgusting.”

Meg shrugged. She couldn’t argue. “This is like hell.”

“It’s worse than hell.”

“It’s hell on actual earth.”

There were no words. No language sufficient to convey this experience. For years Meg had lain in bed awake at night, imagining this, picturing it, hearing about it secondhand from social workers and the council: “This could be the most extreme case of hoarding we have ever encountered. Her life is at risk, every moment of every day”; listening to her mother on the phone playing it down: “Oh, it’s all such a fuss. Such a fuss about a few things. I’m all alone now. I can live how I choose.”

Meg would try to argue: “You’ll kill yourself. It’ll bury you. They’ll have to pull the house down to get your body out.”

And Lorelei would laugh lightly and say, “That’s fine with me.”

But none of her imaginings had brought her to this place, to the meaty stench and the Gothic horror of it.

A low corridor of objects brought them into Lorelei’s bedroom. Meg remembered vividly the last time she’d been in her mother’s bedroom. Six years ago. The last time she’d come for Easter. She’d arrived with Molly and the boys and found the house already halfway to the state it was in today. Her mother had been sitting in the middle of this room, hillocks of junk piled up around her, like a spider in the middle of its web, painting her toenails periwinkle and smiling at Meg as though all in the world was as it should be.

The memory brought a sudden lump to her throat.

She remembered how cross she’d felt to see her mother like that, buried up to her elegant neck in her own shit, letting her beautiful home fall into decay, cooking up yet more fodder for the neighbors to get into a sweaty lather about. She’d been so cross that she’d almost hated her.

But now, as she edged her way into the room, she saw the armchair where her mother had been, a fat, flowery thing padded out with cheap cushions, tables at either side, holding bottles of nail polish, paperbacks, rice cakes, the oversized headphones she’d wear to listen to the radio, and instead of filth and junk, all she was aware of was the empty space at the center of it all.

Molly crunched uncertainly across a rocky pathway of scattered ephemera—empty packaging, discarded clothing, old newspapers—and joined her mother at the center of the room. “I remember her sitting there, when we came that time,” she said breathlessly. “Right there. I was scared of her.”

Meg turned to her daughter and said, “Scared? Really?”

“Yes,” said Molly. “She just looked so bizarre, sitting there, so thin and scrawny, her eyes were kind of like, wild. She wasn’t like anyone I’d ever seen before.”

“Poor Mum.” Meg sighed again. “Don’t you remember the hot chocolate, though?”

Molly glanced at her blankly.

“She made you all hot chocolate. At bedtime. You were all so excited. Don’t you remember?”

Molly shrugged. “No recollection at all,” she said. “I just remember that.” She pointed at the chair. “Her. There.”

Meg felt overwhelmed with sadness.

“I still don’t understand,” said Molly. “I mean, you’re like, just so normal. You’re like the most normal person I’ve ever met. And you’re such a clean freak and everything. How did you come from this?”

Meg shook her head. “Well, obviously it wasn’t always like this. Once upon a time, Moll, this place was actually relatively normal.”

“But your mum? Grandma? Was she ever normal?”

Meg smiled sadly. “Well,” she said, “that’s a good question. And I think, with Mum, it really was all just a matter of degrees.”

She took two more steps towards the armchair and touched it, with the very furthest tips of her fingers. And then, before her inner clean freak could tell her that she’d catch fleas, that she’d never get the smell out, that it was filthy dirty and full of germs, she lowered herself right into it, right into her mother’s armchair. She let her head fall back against the graying upholstery and she looked up at Molly and she smiled. “Tiny, tiny little degrees.”

Reading Group Guide

This reading group guide for The House We Grew Up In includes discussion questions for your book club. The suggested questions are intended to help your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.

Topics & Questions for Discussion

1. Jim and Lorelei meet on the internet and form a close relationship. Do you think that the internet is a helpful social tool for people who find themselves isolated or do you think it can make them more vulnerable?

2. Lorelei and Vicky’s relationship comes as a shock to the family. How would you describe the dynamic between them? Do you think they are both in the relationship for the same reasons?

3. Rory travels to Spain and then to Thailand. Do you think he is traveling to try to escape his problems? Why do you think he finds it so hard to face up to what happened?

4. Beth travels to Australia and starts a new life. In what ways do you think this decision to move abroad is similar to Rory’s? What do you think triggers her subsequent breakdown?

5. Molly is quite open-minded and accepting of Colin and Kayleigh’s relationship. Do you think she demonstrates a more modern outlook of a younger generation? How would you feel about it? Do you think Colin or Kayleigh are at fault?

6. Beth and Bill’s affair puts at risk a lot of the relationships in the family. Why do you think Beth embarks on a relationship with Bill? Do you think the motivation for the relationship is the same for both Beth and Bill?

7. Beth describes her room in Sydney as “a stage set . . . where I lived when I was pretending to be a person.” What do you think she means by that? Do you think it was important for her to live independently away from her family before returning home?

8. Why do you think Colin and Lorelei’s marriage breaks down? How much do you think Rhys’s death plays a part? And Lorelei’s illness? Do you think the problems lie deeper than that?

9. All of the Bird family feel guilt to some extent about Rhys’s death. Do you think this guilt is the main factor behind the gradual breakup of the family? What other factors do you think are involved?

10. Colin and Rory discuss Lorelei and her tendency to live in denial. Why do you think she refuses to accept she is unhappy?

11. Lorelei’s hoarding problem becomes worse and worse over time. Why do you think some people begin hoarding? Do you think only a certain type of person is susceptible or could anyone become a hoarder?

12. Colin, Vicky, Meg and Beth all have different approaches when confronting Lorelei about her hoarding. When Colin and Vicky try to help Lorelei clear out some of her house she reacts very angrily. Why do you think she reacts so strongly? How do you think you would try and help Lorelei? What do you think would be the best way to deal with it?

13. The members of the Bird family are affected in different ways by Lorelei’s hoarding. What repercussions do you think hoarding can have on the person’s family and friends?

14. Lorelei collects old sweet wrappers and old wrapping paper. Why do you think hoarding often focuses on collecting items others would see as worthless?

15. Eventually Lorelei can no longer sleep in her bed or cook in her kitchen because of the severity of her hoarding. As a compulsive disorder, do you think it has anything in common with other addictions, such as alcoholism? Do you think it would affect family members in a similar way?

16. Did reading this book make you reconsider your relationship with your family? In what ways did the love relationships each family member had mirror their relationship with Rhys?

17. What scene in The House We Grew Up In had the biggest impact on you? Why?

To find out more about Compulsive Hoarding Disorder, read:

Dirty Secret: A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother's Compulsive Hoarding by Jessie Sholl

Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things by Randy O. Frost and Gail Steketee

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ForTheArtOfIt More than 1 year ago
I received an eARC copy of this book from the publisher. Here is my honest review. I did not want to put this book down. I would read until the wee hours of the morning. The story had my attention - but I was tired, so I forced myself to put it aside. I didn't want to finish it with only half my brain working. The sacrifice was worth it; finding out how the Bird family becomes so fractured was compelling.  The story is told through a series of flashbacks and from different family members point of view, in third person. Despite this, the story was not confusing at all.  Jewell did a masterful job of creating sympathy for each of the characters - flaws (and oh, they have them) and all. 
quaintinns More than 1 year ago
Wow, A poignant and powerful bittersweet story of a family experiencing loss and love! This was my first book by the talented UK author, Lisa Jewell, and so look forward to adding more of her other books to my “must read” list. The gripping novel goes back and forth between present and past day, covering a span of thirty years, from the Easter Sunday of 1981 in the beautiful garden of their Cotswold cottage, idyllic with love, laughter, and a happy family all around, to quite the opposite. A painful demonstration how a perfect family can be torn apart by circumstances-from "treasures to crap". A perfect front cover image, with the breaking of The Bird family – eccentric mom-65 yr old Lorelei, dad Colin and their four children, Meg, Beth, Rory and Rhys – each of them play a huge and significant part of the overall compelling novel. Lorelei craves memories and wants to hold on to everything to keep her family close. In the present day, the family comes home for the first time in years following a tragedy, which has left them separated from one another, with bitterness and guilt. Can they restore peace and unearth the many secrets? Of course, each family member is battling their own demons, as the story unfolds and you keeps you turning to find if they-- can or will survive. Each has their own way of handling this emotion and means of coping, independent of the other. (family drama and dysfunction at its finest!) There is so much to this book, as hard to describe the depth with highly charged and sensitive topics of insecurities, secrets, hoarding, death, mental illness, bereavement, suicide, adultery personal struggles, and many issues about relationships between parent and child, and husband, wife, lovers, and siblings. (some outside the family which are connected, as well). Jewell demonstrates incredible insight and sensitivity in developing each of the characters expressed from their individual view point. She explores all sides, (getting inside their heads) both positives and negatives, brilliantly! As a takeaway- there are many --- lost ways, forgiveness, love, trust, courage, acceptance, home and family. The flashbacks were given to the reader and slowly the secrets are revealed – incredible timing and a fabulous storyteller. A definite captivating page-turner; a tragic, complex, and sometimes heartfelt story--one you will not soon forget! Highly recommend, and look forward to reading more from Lisa. Believe all the good reviews – “It IS that good and more”! A special thank you to Atria Books and Netgalley for an advanced reading copy (Pub Aug 12, 2014), in exchange for an honest an unbiased review.
TheIndigoQuill More than 1 year ago
See full review @ The Indigo Quill . blogspot . com  Thank you, NetGalley and Atria Books, for offering a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. There is something to be said about an author who can take a story reflecting the simplicities of every day tradition and the dysfunction of varying family dynamics and materialize it into a novel that captures your attention. The Bird family could easily be any family. Throughout the book, I found myself associating the characters with either myself or people that I know. Lisa Jewell is one of those gifted writers that can take the reality of life's messiness and turn it into a masterpiece. This is my first impression of Jewell, and I was not disappointed.  In The House We Grew Up In, we follow the Bird family, past and present, through their struggles and interactions as a family unit. Jewell does well to cover all four corners of the family dynamic with the cynicism of Megan, the traditional (and slightly insane) Lorelei, the lovely Bethan, and the troubled Rhys. We spend several Easters with the family, watching tradition dwindle as everyone grows older and separates into their own. One fateful year, everything changes when tragedy strikes the household. We journey with the family as they overcome shock, bitterness, confusion, and regret.   This is such a good story I just couldn't put it down. It's one of those books that really makes you feel and connect to it. It is a masterful work of fiction, and I would recommend it to anyone in search for a heart-tugging journey that will leave a lasting impression on your soul.
AnnieMcDonnell More than 1 year ago
Wow! Read this book. Lisa Jewell is now on my “must-read and collect this authors novels” list. This is one story that I am not certain I can truly give a proper review without spoiling the book for anyone, so bear with me, please. I read it without insight, and I feel everyone should do the same. If I had known certain aspects of the book before opening it, I would have missed out on some very exhilarating moments. A funny thing happens when you read a book you are enjoying….You Read Faster! This was a fast read…I was cruising along at very high speeds as I flipped pages. There is a line in this novel that stuck with me long past reading it, as it really explains this family’s stor in a nutshell (no pun intended..the Birds are nuts): “We’re like a badly planned dinner party”. Very powerful statement, with no glossing over. Lisa Jewell writes about the Bird Family. I loved that this stone house that they grew up in, had a plaque saying “the Bird House”..too cute. Perfect last name for this nest! A nest that has falls out of its tree, often. Lorelei is the matriarch of the Bird family, with her husband Colin by her side. Together they have four children, Megan, Bethan, Rory and Rhys. The brothers are twins. This novel spans a lifetime, and references back and forth so much; I admit that I got a bit confused by dates. Not sure of the natural flow of events, but in taking notes; I was able to figure it out. Midway through the book, it felt as if it flowed easier. But, with that being said ~ This book is a masterpiece!! It has one of the best covers, if you were to “judge a book by its cover”, this is it! Perfectly Cracked egg! Perfectly Cracked up family! Lorelei is a hoarder, to say the least. She has deep seeded issues that do come to light by the end of the story. I did not realize how truly maddening hoarding could get. I can honestly say that reading the book was more powerful than watching the show “Hoarders” or “Buried Alive”. That is because Lisa Jewell depicts Lorelei’s compulsion so delicately. I was actually cringing whenever she entered a store, knowing she was going to come home with more stuff to pile on to her other piles. Lorelei states that she has a” home full of treasures, yet her children call it crap”. She states that they are both right! Lisa Jewell has a lot of very pivotal statements; like this, bringing this book to life in such a genuine way. This story is about one of the most dysfunctional families I have ever read about. I was often reading the book only to have my jaw drop every time I flipped a page. If you think your family has problems, look to the Bird Family to realize, you don’t have it as bad as you initially believe.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I liked the way it was written, the story wasn't predictable and left me wanting to read more from this author.
sneps More than 1 year ago
The Bird Family Cracks! Excellent Story about Families and Hope! Wow. This book has it all: family dysfunction, family secrets, marital affairs, sibling rivalry, suicide, survivor’s guilt, divorce, and shame. The Bird family all experience the majority of their heartbreak in their family home. After the death of the Bird’s matriarch, the family comes together to clean out their home. Along with it, many family memories come up to the surface and the Bird family members have to address everything they buried underneath all their pain and shame. It is interesting that the family is named “Bird”, the matriarch’s favorite holiday is Easter, and the biggest tragedy actually happens on Easter. The Bird family all do their best to escape the family nest, but to embrace their future, every one of them has to visit their past. Sadly, their past isn’t all Easter eggs wrapped in color foil. The items in the house (as the mom was a hoarder), are signs of the sadness that was hidden underneath each item. Lorelei (Bird’s matriarch) states that the items all represent a specific time and place with a memory that she wants to remember long past a picture can provide. Meg is the oldest daughter, followed by Beth, and their twin brothers: Rory and Rhys. Lorelei is a mom with her own obsessive compulsive tendencies, stemmed from a childhood of sexual abuse. The patriarch (Colin) is rather aloof and quiet, doing what he needs to so that he can pacify Lorelei. Vicky is the neighbor, who is married with 2 daughters. Each one has their issues, leading up to the family tragedy, with evidence that shows the family was already cracking long before that event. There are so many layers to this story, with so many rabbit trails that Lisa Jewell takes readers through. With amazing writing techniques, Lisa Jewell manages to bring each different story and show their relevance and importance to the overall storyline. I would love to talk about Bethan (Beth) and her black outs, because there is so much she saw and really holds the largest piece to the puzzle after her mom dies. I think there are some family secrets of incest and the abuse Beth sees and experiences, passes on to the relationship she has with someone in the family. There are so many layers to this story, and is a book that will become a book club favorite! It’s a long book, but every single page is worth it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Couldn't put this book down!
MargieS1 More than 1 year ago
Given To Me For An Honest Review Lisa Jewell's book The House We Grew Up In: A Novel isn't a must read, it's a HAVE to read.  Once you begin it, it will grab you and not  let go until the end.  Those pages will keep turning until they can turn no more.  It is the story of the Bird family.  From the outside people  see them as the perfect family.  But behind the closed doors the mother is a hoarder and keeps everything.  It is a unique creative  storyline.  It takes you from the four children being young up into their adulthood.  I gave this book 5 stars but it truly deserves at least 10+ .  It is an excellent read and I will re-read it again; as I believe you will too.  I highly recommend it to all.  I look forward to more from Lisa Jewell.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great. Do not miss this one.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A brilliant look at family. You will fall in love with the Bird family. They will become YOUR family. A must-read. Beautiful, poetic, sad, happy. This novel has it all.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was well-written and page turning. I enjoyed it very much and would definitely read this author again.
beh88 More than 1 year ago
Awesome book. Started out so joyful...ended up so sad
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Excellent read! A bit slow at times but continue through; you will not be disappointed.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It was okay
DebMysteryLover More than 1 year ago
I'm not sure what anyone is raving about. This book was not a good read. It was unremarkable. No plots or twists - not a page turner at all. I had to force myslef to finish it. The ending was as expected. "Then She was Gone" by this same author was a real page turner and that and the reviews on this page are what prompted me to purchase this book. What a mistake and waste of money! It is a long drawn out discussion about a dysfunctional family that is written in both present and past intertwined. Would not reccomend.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This story line always kept me quessing. There was always a new twist through out the book
SGMomma More than 1 year ago
A wonderful story about the Bird family, the relationship between parents and their kids as well as the relationships between the siblings. Each character was well developed and interesting. How the family handles a tragedy and the result of that on each of their lives was incredibly interesting and a page turned. Bittersweet but excellent book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I loved this book! The characters and complicated story come to life in this book, I could envision everyone so clearly, I love when a author can do that.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
First one of her books that i have read and will contine to follow her
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have never had a problem downloading purchases Until I purchased The House We grew Up In - I can't download this one!!!!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A very very good book, i willbe looking for more Lisa Jewell books
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BrandyGirl More than 1 year ago
A very different story about something I never read about, hoarding. This book is hard to put down.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed the book. Read several others from this author and they are all good. Added to my list I recommend to friends.