Table of Contents
Foreword Rev. Dr. Shakeema North xiii
Introduction xv
1 Connecting Hearts 1
Aim for the Heart 4
Learning Is Leading 6
An Empathic Approach 10
Questions for Group Discussion 12
Regardless of Where You Come From, There Is Hope 13
2 Influence Guided by Empathy 15
Understanding Empathy 16
Attributes of Empathy 19
Empathy Is Contextual 20
Empathy Is Humble 21
Empathy Is Rooted in Narrative 22
Empathy Is Communal 23
Empathy Is Purpose-Centered 24
Empathy Is Action-Oriented 25
Empathy Is Risky 26
Summary: Empathy as a Virtue 27
Distortions of Empathy 28
Identification 30
Manipulation 30
Isolation 31
Projection 32
Summary 33
Empathy as a Focal Concept 35
Empathy and Influence 37
Questions for Group Discussion 39
People Together Serving Daily (PTSD) for God 41
3 Influence Formed Through Practices 43
Understanding Practices 45
Understanding Influence 46
Biblical Perspectives 47
Contemporary Perspectives 48
Some Surprises 50
Identity and Integrity 52
The Practice of Formative Presence 54
Identity in Christ 57
Identity in Community 58
Identity in Oneself 60
Challenges to Formative Presence 61
The Practice of Resilient Trust 63
Integrity in Christ 64
Integrity in Community 65
Integrity in Oneself 68
Challenges to Resilient Trust 68
Empathic Skills 70
Questions for Group Discussion 73
The Long Journey of a Relationship Has the Most Influence 75
4 Empathic Reception 77
Open Thinking 80
Value 80
Listening 81
Dialogue 83
Transformation 84
Receptive Engagement 86
Receptive to God 86
Receptive to Community 88
Receptive to Oneself 91
Apprenticeships 93
Support 93
Challenge 95
Vision 96
Balance 98
Reception and Christian Influence 99
Practical Exercises 100
Questions for Group Discussion 102
It Takes Courage to Step Out into the Darkness 103
5 Empathic Reflection 105
Perceptive Thinking 108
Engagement 109
Form-Giving 112
Emergence 114
Release 115
Reflective Engagement 116
Reflective with God 116
Reflective with Community 118
Reflective with Oneself 121
Friendships 123
Excellence 124
Vulnerability 124
Forgiveness 126
Health 127
Reflection and Christian Influence 129
Practical Exercises 131
Questions for Group Discussion 133
If You Don't Reflect, It Didn't Happen 135
6 Empathic Response 137
Social Thinking 142
Justice 143
Initiative 144
Power 146
Love 147
Responsive Engagement 148
Responsive to God 148
Responsive to Community 149
Responsive to Oneself 151
Kinships 152
Adoption 153
Accountability 154
Loyalty 155
Durability 156
Responsiveness and Christian Influence 157
Practical Exercises 159
Questions for Group Discussion 162
Our Community Can Rise Together 163
7 Influence and Its Implications 165
Influence and Education 167
Forms of Education 167
Training in Education 168
Examples 171
Influence and Interconnectivity 173
Benefits and Challenges 174
Training for Interconnectivity 174
Examples 176
Influence and Nonviolence 177
Sharing in Suffering 178
Demonstrating Formative Presence 180
Examples 183
Influence and Truth 184
Truth Makes Us Free 186
Demonstrating Resilient Trust 187
Examples 188
Influence and Love 189
Questions for Group Discussion 191
Notes 193
Bibliography 205
Scripture Index 211
Index 219
Biography 229