"Sometimes it's hard to be a woman, giving all your love to just one man," wails Tammy Wynette, but men deserve a chance to whine, too, and here is psychologist Ross to carry the tune. It's tough, paradoxical, being a man, suppressing one's feminine side simultaneously with projecting the independence, decisiveness, aggressiveness, and stoicism that stick out as masculinity. The tension manifests itself, and chapters are arranged, by crises and behavior, such as adultery, divorce, promiscuity, homosexuality, child abuse--of both the sexual and the walloping variety--impotence, genital diseases, and the job/career. One case study is flogged for each topic, Ross now generalizing his professional insights, then keeping interest up with bits of erotica, and thence to his grand examplar: a birth-to-adulthood limning of Chuck Junior's life. This reminds men of the father/son conundrum, and the unseen psychological force exerted by our preconscious first years. It's Freudian, it's memory pricking, and it rides the transient wave of male introspection. A sure circulation wherever drum beaters are heard.