Astrologers will tell you that everyone is composed of mixtures of both Mars and Venus. The relative strengths these powers have in your life is represented by the position they have at the time you were born. Now, with The Mars Venus Affair by Wendell and Linda Perry, you can easily use this information to better understand yourself and your romantic partner.
A simple chart reveals the signs the planets were in when you were born. It will take you less than 15 seconds to get this information. Then use the index to find the matching text. In less than 30 seconds you can discover the innermost secrets of yourself and your partner!
You will learn what a person with a particular combination is like. Are you a Wild Love Child? Is your partner a Lascivious Liberator? Or are you a Moody Slave of Love while your partner is an Autocratic Love Addict? All of this information will be revealed to you in The Mars Venus Affair!
This book will help you discover the nature of your partner. When it comes to love, sex, and romance, what are his or her deepest, hidden needs? Once you know them you can easily fulfill them, making your partner happy and your relationship strong. This book may be the key to saving relationships and even marriages.
This book is also lots of fun! For each combination there are examples drawn from the lives of famous and infamous personalities. You'll learn the intimate secrets of people like Charlie Chaplin, Franz Kafka, Alfred Hitchcock, and Anaïs Nin. There are hundreds of celebrities included, and this book will amuse you and shock you! It is always entertaining.
Whether you're an astrologer or not, this book will be a constant companion. What is a new friend really like? If you want to know, get this book!
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About the Author
Wendell Perry is an astrologer with more than 25 years of experience, and is a member of the International Society for Astrological Research. Linda Perry has written for major corporations and the U.S. government, and is a member of the International Women's Writing Guild. The Perrys share a home in Kentucky
Linda Perry has written for major corporations and the U.S. government, and is a member of the International Women's Writing Guild. The Perrys share a home in Kentucky
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Mars in Aries
The Sexual Extremist
Mars in Aries Lovers often appear to be a bit out of controlthat's just the way they like it. They enjoy getting carried away by sex, being swept up in its energy and physical urgency. You can't rankle Mars in Aries Lovers by saying that they don't know what they're doing. "So much the better," they will answer, for nothing takes the thrill out of sex more quickly for these Lovers than knowing where it will end or having everything under control. By their standards, good sex means losing control by creating situations in which his or her partnerand anyone else unlucky enough to get too close to the actionis sent headlong into a maelstrom of trouble and ecstasy.
Given their headlong approach to love, it is not surprising that this Mars type often ends up in troublesome relationships. Once again, the Mars in Aries Lover will answer, "So much the better." This is a Lover who cannot abide being too comfortable. A relationship which has no contention, pain, struggle, or sorrow hardly seems worth pursuing. Thus, these Lovers are frequently found in impossible romantic situations, making one bad choice after another, but loving it.
Why do they love it so? Why is it that they insist on arguments, trouble, and even pain in their sexual relationships? For Mars in Aries Lovers, sex that just feels good is a waste of precious time. Sensation for its own sake means very little to them and the joys of the flesh have only the most minimal allure. Sex must be coupled with strong emotions and extraordinary situations to satisfy these radical Lovers. There has to be drama: a sense of dire need, unstoppable passion, and impending drastic measures in order to lift sex out of the sensual commonplace and transform it into an experience worth remembering.
These are competitive, challenge-oriented Lovers. Typically, they are drawn to the partner who is hardest to getthe one who initially says no or who seems most unlikely to respond. In some cases this competitiveness becomes a major handicap. It compels these Lovers to regard the people they sleep with as trophies and to measure their own ability as lovers solely by the number and variety of their sexual contacts. Sometimes this tendency to see love as a challenge can have happy results. It allows the Mars in Aries Lover to approach relationships with an excitement that is endlessly renewed. As long as the relationship is moving, as long as it is a constantly unfolding process or even an ongoing battle, these Lovers never lose interest.
Mars in Aries individuals can be very desirable and active Lovers due to their fiery passions and endless hunger for excitement. Because their enjoyment of sex is more dependent on psychological factors than physical pleasures, these Lovers are also capable of withdrawing from sex for extended periods of time. It's not that they lose their capacity for passion. It's just that they can't get excited about sex that isn't wrapped in a challenge. Sex without fire is worse than no sex at all for these Lovers. But when the right kind of relationship comes along, it is truly amazing how quickly the fire reignites.
If you have Mars in Aries with Venus in Aries you are ...
the Untamed Extremist
You have no capacity for soft words or gentle persuasion. You win hearts with the explosive force of your ego or not at all. The intensity of your lovemaking, along with your aggressive, sometimes even belligerent approach to relationships, will likely frighten away many prospective partners. But those brave enough to weather the storms will find you a passionate, caring, and fiercely loyal Lover.
The real problem in your sex life is finding a stopping place. You develop intense bonds with your sexual partners but you rarely give yourself a chance to stop and enjoy the fruits of these relationships. You are always moving away from, or struggling against, comfort and complacency. You are a restless and destructively inconsistent Lover who often has difficulty holding on to love, even with all your passion and loyalty.
Charles Baudelaire (French poet, art critic, and translator noted for his violent and extravagant imagery. Author of Les Fleurs du Mal). Born April 9, 1821, at 3 P.M. in Paris, France (de Jonge 1976).
Baudelaire's father was an ex-priest who married late and died when Baudelaire was six. Left to fend for themselves, Baudelaire and his mother developed an extremely strong and affectionate bond. Unfortunately for Baudelaire, his beloved mother remarried. Baudelaire got along poorly with his stepfather and, for the rest of his life, resented his mother's defection.
When he was eighteen, Baudelaire was kicked out of school because of his rebellious attitude. His stepfather sent him away on a voyage to the Far East but this only increased the angry youngster's eccentricity. When he returned, he quickly established himself as a dandy and a libertine. Clothes became his passion and he spent indecent sums of money on fine furniture, art, and the various accouterments of his new lifestyle.
Baudelaire had inherited a small fortune from his natural father but, by the time he was twenty-three, half of his capital was squandered and he was beset by huge debts. His mother and stepfather had the wayward young man declared incompetent and gave control of his fortune to a trustee. This arrangement allowed Baudelaire a small income but did not address his debts. Baudelaire's finances remained a shambles for the remainder of his life. He was constantly harried by creditors and often forced to create new debts in order to keep old creditors at bay.
Early in his career as a dandy, Baudelaire acquired an African mistress named Jeanne Duval. Duval was an actress of sorts who was noted for her sensuous charm. At first Baudelaire was able to keep her in a luxurious apartment but, when he was stripped of his money, he and Duval began living together in much reduced circumstances. Oddly enough, this shocking reversal only strengthened the bond between Duval and Baudelaire. They remained a couple for ten years. Baudelaire continued to give her love and support for the rest of his life.
Duval was not an easygoing woman. She had no appreciation of the writer's new commitment to poetry and literature and she continually badgered him to find a better way of making money. Often Baudelaire had to work while she slept, or he stayed with a friend in order to escape her nagging. Duval also stole from her lover, lied to him, and was constantly unfaithful. However, Baudelaire seemed undeterred by the difficulty of this relationship. He celebrated Duval in his poetry as much for her coldness and cruelty as for her extraordinary sexual charms.
Both Duval and Baudelaire had syphilis. It appears that the poet contracted the disease before he met Duval and possibly infected her. The disease slowly destroyed the health of both lovers, though the toll it took on the once beautiful Duval was perhaps more dramatic. However, it was not the sudden decline in her physical charms that caused Baudelaire to separate from his "black Venus." Rather, at thirty-one, he finally decided that Duval would never give him the peace he needed to work.
Many of his friends observed that although Baudelaire loved to flirt and make sexual challenges to women, he held the sex act itself in contempt. Even though his poetry is filled with images of passionate sexual intercourse, his approach to sex was largely cerebral. He liked to go to the streets where prostitutes met their clients and coolly observe their transactions. Some of his friends went so far as to call Baudelaire a "virgin" poet, but there is ample evidence that, on occasion, the writer did more than just observe prostitutes.
After his break with Duval, Baudelaire began to send anonymous letters and poetry to Apollonie Sabatier, the voluptuous concubine of a man of wealth. His correspondence contained gentle literary declarations of spiritual love, accompanied by a brutal fantasy of sadistic lovemaking. Sabatier was intrigued and, once Baudelaire announced himself, she was anxious to meet him in the flesh. After they met and had sex, the poet suddenly withdrew from the relationship, declaring that he could not continue loving her spiritually as his "white Venus" now that he knew her as a real woman.
Baudelaire had a brief affair with an actress (who became his "green-eyed Venus") and tried once more to set up house with Duval, to no avail. At thirty-six he published Les Fleurs du Mal, a book of poetry which he had carefully put together in the hopes of making a literary coupe. Baudelaire planned to shock his audience with his unusual, violently sexual imagery and modernistic themes. Instead, the shock he expected turned into public outrage and Baudelaire was prosecuted as a pornographer.
After the disastrous publication of Les Fleurs du Mal, Baudelaire returned to Duval. Her condition was worsening. He saw to it she was admitted to a hospital where her syphilitic paralysis could be treated. He continued to find comfort and a sentimental release in her company even though he could not bear to stay with her very long. When he was forty-one, Baudelaire also became paralyzed by syphilis. He spent his remaining years as an invalid, cared for by his mother. He died at the age of forty-six.
Karen "Isak" Dinesen (Danish writer whose novel Out of Africa recounted her impetuous love affair with a "great white hunter"). Born April 17, 1885 (Encyclopedia Britannica 1997).
Orson Welles (actor and maker of the movie Citizen Kane who survived a volatile marriage with film star Rita Hayworth). Born May 6, 1915 (Celebrity Birthday Guide, 4th edition, by Axiom Information Services, Ann Arbor, Michigan, 1997).
If you have Mars in Aries with Venus in Taurus you are ...
the Undercover Extremist
Yours is a difficult combination. A sensualist at heart, you don't really approve of the headlong recklessness of your sexual nature. You would like to slow down and give your senses ample time to drink in each erotic experience. But you find that your Mars in Aries nature runs well only in high gear and the more you try to control it, the more ungainly and muddled you appear. You are among the most practical Mars in Aries Lover but, unfortunately, your actions often give little evidence of this wisdom.
On the positive side, in the right situation and with the right partner, your unique combination of sensual patience and volcanic passion can make you a gifted Lover. And there is a sweetness and soft conventionality about your sexual nature that allows you to get away with sexual extremes that might land other Mars in Aries Lovers in jail. If you can learn from your frustrations and build on your strengths, your capacity for erotic expression is unlimited.
Edward, Duke of Windsor (King Edward VIIIBritish monarch who stunned the world when he gave up his throne to marry an American divorcée). Born June 23, 1894, at 9:55 P.M. in Richmond Park, England (Higham 1988; Zeigler 1991).
It's probably safe to say that no king in the making has a normal childhood, but Edward's may have been more difficult than necessary. Both of his parents believed that duty came before love and they raised their eldest son accordingly. His father was particularly distant and authoritative.
When Edward was eight his female caretakers were replaced by men in the hope that the constant exposure to manly virtue might cure the boy of his girlish sensitivity and emotionalism. As a result of this ploy, the Prince had little contact with the opposite sex during his early adolescence and remained painfully shy in their presence. As he grew older and developed into a small but handsome young prince, Edward's closeness to his male mentors fueled rumors that he was a homosexual. Actually, Edward showed little interest in sex of any sort until he turned twenty-two.
Excerpted from The Mars Venus Affair by Wendell Perry Linda Perry. Copyright © 2000 by Wendell Perry and Linda Perry. Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Table of Contents
|Mars and Venus||xix|
|How to Find Your Mars and Venus Signs||xix|
|Case Histories in This Book||xxi|
|How Close Is This to "Serious" Astrology?||xxii|
|Chapter 1 Mars in Aries: The Sexual Extremist||1|
|With Venus in Aries: The Untamed Extremist||2|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Undercover Extremist||5|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Resourceful Extremist||8|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Emotional Extremist||11|
|With Venus in Leo: The Gilded Extremist||14|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Everyday Extremist||17|
|With Venus in Libra: The Loving Extremist||19|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The CunningExtremist||21|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Hopeful Extremist||23|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Earthy Extremist||26|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Experimental Extremist||28|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Delicate Extremist||31|
|Chapter 2 Mars in Taurus: The Sensualist||35|
|With Venus in Aries: The Restless Sensualist||36|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Complete Sensualist||39|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Playful Sensualist||42|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Sentimental Sensualist||45|
|With Venus in Leo: The Sensual Show-Off||47|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Naked Sensualist||50|
|With Venus in Libra: The Sensual Idealist||53|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Sensualist of the Soul||56|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Reluctant Sensualist||58|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Disciplined Sensualist||61|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Sensualist Without Limits||64|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Supreme Sensualist||67|
|Chapter 3 Mars in Gemini: The Sexual Technician||71|
|With Venus in Aries: The Technician of Hot Love||72|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Technician of Physical Love||75|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Technician of Cool Love||77|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Technician of Obsessive Love||79|
|With Venus in Leo: The Technician of Dominance||83|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Technician of Real Love||85|
|With Venus in Libra: The Technician of True Love||88|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Technician of Serious Sex||90|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Technician of Joyful Sex||92|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Technician of Tough Love||94|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Technician of Transcendent|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Technician of Enchantment||99|
|Chapter 4 Mars in Cancer: The Sentimentalist||101|
|With Venus in Aries: The Swaggering Sentimentalist||103|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Lazy Sentimentalist||105|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Smooth-Talking Sentimentalist||108|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Super Sentimentalist||110|
|With Venus in Leo: The Controlled Sentimentalist||112|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Sensible Sentimentalist||116|
|With Venus in Libra: The Sentimental Perfectionist||118|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Ruthless Sentimentalist||121|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Impatient Sentimentalist||123|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Hard-Nosed Sentimentalist||125|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Intelligent Sentimentalist||128|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Irresistible Sentimentalist||130|
|Chapter 5 Mars in Leo: The Maestro of Love||133|
|With Venus in Aries: The Maestro of Extreme Love||134|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Maestro of Pleasure||136|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Maestro of Amusement||139|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Maestro of Emotion||141|
|With Venus in Leo: The Divine Maestro of Love||144|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Mundane Maestro of Love||147|
|With Venus in Libra: The Maestro of Higher Love||149|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Maestro of Mystery||152|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Maestro of Excitement||155|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Maestro of Pain||158|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Maestro of Enlightenment||161|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Maestro of Dreams||163|
|Chapter 6 Mars in Virgo: The Back-to-Basics Lover||167|
|With Venus in Aries: The Basically Bold Lover||168|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Basically Beautiful Lover||171|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Basically Brilliant Lover||174|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Basically Bewitching Lover||177|
|With Venus in Leo: The Basically Exuberant Lover||180|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Most Basic Lover||183|
|With Venus in Libra: The Basically Sociable Lover||186|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Basically Scandalous Lover||189|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Basically Bountiful Lover||191|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Basically Prudent Lover||194|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Basically Rebellious Lover||197|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Basically Vulnerable Lover||199|
|Chapter 7 Mars in Libra: The Perfect Lover||203|
|With Venus in Aries: The Perfect Lover in Pursuit||205|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Perfect Lover in the Flesh||207|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Perfect Lover at Play||210|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Perfectly Contrary Lover||212|
|With Venus in Leo: The Perfect Lover on Display||215|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Perfectly Practical Lover||217|
|With Venus in Libra: The More Than Perfect Lover||220|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Dangerously Perfect Lover||223|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Perfectly Adorable Lover||225|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Damned-Well-Better-Be|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Universally Perfect Lover||231|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Deceptively Perfect Lover||233|
|Chapter 8 Mars in Scorpio: The Powerhouse of Passion||237|
|With Venus in Aries: The Pushy Powerhouse of Passion||238|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Voluptuous Powerhouse of Passion||241|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Impish Powerhouse of Passion||244|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Profound Powerhouse of Passion||246|
|With Venus in Leo: The Royal Powerhouse of Passion||249|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Picky Powerhouse of Passion||252|
|With Venus in Libra: The Polite Powerhouse of Passion||255|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Ultimate Powerhouse of Passion||258|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Curious Powerhouse of|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Earnest Powerhouse of Passion||264|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Extraordinary Powerhouse of|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Pulsating Powerhouse of Passion||271|
|Chapter 9 Mars in Sagittarius: The Love Child||275|
|With Venus in Aries: The Daring Love Child||277|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Lusty Love Child||280|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Lighthearted Love Child||282|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Temperamental Love Child||285|
|With Venus in Leo: The Proud Love Child||288|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Uncertain Love Child||290|
|With Venus in Libra: The Starry-Eyed Love Child||293|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Naughty Love Child||296|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Natural Love Child||299|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Conscientious Love Child||301|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Wild Love Child||304|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Luscious Love Child||307|
|Chapter 10 Mars in Capricorn: The Slave of Love||311|
|With Venus in Aries: The Combative Slave of Love||312|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Stubborn Slave of Love||315|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Sly Slave of Love||318|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Moody Slave of Love||321|
|With Venus in Leo: The Noble Slave of Love||324|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Analytic Slave of Love||327|
|With Venus in Libra: The Idealistic Slave of Love||330|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Salacious Slave of Love||334|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Saucy Slave of Love||337|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Secretive Slave of Love||341|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Visionary Slave of Love||344|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Succulent Slave of Love||347|
|Chapter 11 Mars in Aquarius: The Sexual Liberator||351|
|With Venus in Aries: The Zealous Liberator||353|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Lascivious Liberator||356|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Liberator of the Mind||358|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Lunar Liberator||361|
|With Venus in Leo: The Grand Liberator||364|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Friendly Liberator||366|
|With Venus in Libra: The Loving Liberator||368|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Sexy Liberator||371|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Liberator on the Loose||374|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Down-to-Earth Liberator||377|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Unlimited Liberator||380|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Lyrical Liberator||383|
|Chapter 12 Mars in Pisces: The Love Addict||387|
|With Venus in Aries: The Emphatic Love Addict||388|
|With Venus in Taurus: The Cautious Love Addict||391|
|With Venus in Gemini: The Artful Love Addict||395|
|With Venus in Cancer: The Erratic Love Addict||397|
|With Venus in Leo: The Autocratic Love Addict||400|
|With Venus in Virgo: The Pragmatic Love Addict||402|
|With Venus in Libra: The Faithful Love Addict||403|
|With Venus in Scorpio: The Awesome Love Addict||406|
|With Venus in Sagittarius: The Adventurous Love Addict||409|
|With Venus in Capricorn: The Organized Love Addict||411|
|With Venus in Aquarius: The Radical Love Addict||414|
|With Venus in Pisces: The Fantastic Love Addict||416|
One of the hottest trends today is the PDA: Personal Digital Assistant. Small enough to fit in your pocket, it can include the functions of a calendar, a clock, an address book, and a memo pad. Some can even get your e-mail and let you surf the web. Inside of each is the heart of a computer, but the PDA, rather than doing everything, just does a few specific tasks.
Astrology is very much like a large computer that can give you information on a wide variety of things. The Mars Venus Affair is like a PDA, giving you just the specific information you need!
Just as you don't need to know how to program a computer to use your PDA, you don't need to know astrology to get tremendous value from this book! In less than 30 seconds you can find information that will give you better self-understanding. Give yourself another 30 seconds and you can find the information about a partner (or potential partner) which will give you an understanding of his or her wants and needs. With this information you can help your relationships along, make it grow and thrive.
One of the major causes of difficulties in relationships (including marriage) is sexual differences. Not just how often, but the way it occurs and even what you say or don't say. With the knowledge in this book, you'll be able to make sure you are fulfilling your partner's desires and needs, even if your partner hasn't told you what they are!
That is why I think this book is vital for counselors, especially marriage and relationship counselors. It's also important for individuals like you and me to better understand ourselves, our partners, and others around us. It's also important for astrologers who can improve their horoscope analyses.
Oh, and because it gives examples using famous people, it's a lot of fun, too!