The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults

The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults

by Terri Apter
ISBN-10:
039332317X
ISBN-13:
9780393323177
Pub. Date:
06/17/2002
Publisher:
Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.

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The Myth of Maturity: What Teenagers Need from Parents to Become Adults

"Parents and young adults alike should benefit from the advice in Apter's insightful book."—Washington Post
What do young people at the threshold of adulthood really need and want? Why do so many responsible and motivated teenagers become young adults who are still dependent, financially and emotionally, on their parents? Why are many young people today so quick to leave childhood behind, but so slow to become adults? In this wise and compassionate book, Terri Apter debunks outdated and misguided ideas about maturity: Acting in the name of love, many parents withdraw emotional or practical support, thinking it best for a son or daughter to solve his or her own problems—even to suffer alone the consequences of mistakes. Apter shows us that young adults actually need a parent's guidance and support, while also requiring respect and independence. Based on carefully observed case studies and current research, this book describes how we can support young people through a crucial stage in their development.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780393323177
Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 06/17/2002
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 288
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Terri Apter is a writer, psychologist, and retired Fellow of
Newnham College, Cambridge. Her nine books include The
Sister Knot and What Do You Want from Me? She lives in
Cambridge, England.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Life on One's Own15
1First Solo Flight37
2Forming Identities69
3Making Choices93
4Emotional Educations118
5The Pressure of Great Expectations152
6Foothold in the Adult World176
7Thresholders on the Fast Track194
8Shortcuts to Maturity: Thresholder Marriages208
9Thresholders in a Material World: Managing Money224
10Closing the Door: Suicide and Self-Harm during the Threshold Years238
11Crossing the Threshold254
Endnotes269
Index281

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