The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark

by Case Kenny

Overview

Forget settling or “settling down” - you deserve a love that upgrades every aspect of your life. A love that empowers you to get hotter, happier, and more fulfilled… together.

The host of the podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? helps you find a partnership that fills your life with “can you believe we did that?” moments, where “let’s book a flight and go” is as common as “I love you."

Are you looking for a love that offers you clarity, not confusion? Does it feel like love has gotten too complicated? Does the sea of dating rules and expectations make you feel overwhelmed?

Case Kenny, host of the New Mindset, Who Dis? podcast and author of That’s Bold of You, brings you The Opposite of Settling—a blend of practical mindfulness, evidence-based research, and undiluted optimism—to help you find a love that expands your world. Case guides you toward finding and building a relationship that empowers you to be independent, vibrant, and in love. The book offers you the tools to:

• Navigate the complexities of modern dating with confidence and an unbothered mindset
• Find a connection that feels like home yet pushes you toward a fuller and more vibrant life
• Recognize and attract relationships that elevate your life instead of weighing or “settling” you down
• Let go of fear-based dating habits and find a love that enhances your sense of independence

The Opposite of Settling isn’t just about finding someone; it's about finding more of yourself in the process. Case’s concept of “settling up” (the opposite of “settling down”) offers an energizing affirmation of love, leaving you feeling lighter, unburdened of rules and expectations, and on the path to finding a relationship where you both look at each other and think, "Yup, that's my kind of weird.”

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781401995911
Publisher:	Hay House Inc.
Publication date:	08/19/2025
Pages:	288
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.72(d)

About the Author

Case Kenny is a mindfulness expert, the author of That’s Bold of You, and the host of the popular podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? His work has been featured on The Today Show, Forbes, Good Morning America, and others, and through his platforms and talent for helping millions feel seen and heard through short affirmations and mantras, Case has dedicated his life to making mindfulness approachable and simplified. www.newmindsetwhodis.com

Editorial Reviews

Case Kenny is one of my favorite writers. This book is a breath of fresh air and a source of inspiration for anyone who is navigating love. The Opposite of Settling will not only help you connect better, but it will leave you feeling empowered. This is a must-read.”
— Yung Pueblo, #1 New York Times best-selling author of Lighter

“Case Kenny’s wisdom will inspire you to embrace love that makes life extraordinary. The Opposite of Settling provides the tools to create a deep, meaningful connection that fuels your ambitions and enhances your sense of self. Kenny shows how to cultivate love that feels like both stability and endless possibility. His message is clear: Build a life that thrills you, and love will find its way to you.”
— Dr. Sue Varma, psychiatrist and author of Practical Optimism

“In a world where love often feels complicated and heavy, Case Kenny provides a refreshing, unapologetic approach to dating. The Opposite of Settling teaches you to stop searching for what doesn’t serve you and start building a relationship that elevates you. This book is a blueprint for finding love that doesn’t hold you back but lifts you up.”
— Trent Shelton, author of Protect Your Peace and founder of RehabTime

“The Opposite of Settling flips the dating script in the best way possible. It’s not just about finding love—it’s about finding yourself along the way. This is a must-read for anyone craving clarity, confidence, and connection.”
— Jen Gottlieb, co-founder of Super Connector Media and best-selling author of BE SEEN

“A deeply empowering book that makes you feel like you can build something beautiful in an imperfect world. Reclaim your joy and find the love you deserve.”
— Sahil Bloom, New York Times best-selling author of The 5 Types of Wealth

“The Opposite of Settling is a refreshing, heartfelt guide for anyone who refuses to compromise on love or on themselves. With his signature blend of optimism and insight, Case Kenny reminds us that the love we deserve isn’t about playing it safe or small—it’s about expanding into the fullest version of who we are.”
— Jillian Turecki, New York Times best-selling author of It Begins with You

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