The Secret Life of Fathers (2nd Edition - Updated with new sections added): An Unexpected Guide to Understanding MEN... and Fathers

The Secret Life of Fathers (2nd Edition - Updated with new sections added): An Unexpected Guide to Understanding MEN... and Fathers

by The Father-Daughter Project, Bond James I.


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Are men brain damaged at birth, and... could daughters be the antidote, in ways they don't even realize?

"...groundbreaking…" (

I challenge you to read this and not start rethinking what your father (and every man you know) is REALLY like.

** Readers’ Favorite 5-Star Award Winner**

For 13 years I ran a behavioral management firm working with some of the largest organizations in the world.

Then I discovered that my own relationship with my middle daughter wasn't as great as I thought.

I wondered if I was the only father this clueless about his relationship with his daughters. So I set out to interview other dads with daughters.

What I discovered was more profound than I could ever have imagined. This book takes you on this journey with me, into a world of joys and sadness that are too often misunderstood.

You think you know your father?

But what if you missed something... so subtle yet so profound, it will change your understanding of what MEN are really like, beneath their often carefully-guarded defenses.

For example...

(Starting with your own father) do men sabotage relationships without even realizing it?

(From the first chapter of the book, you will discover a rarely-mentioned quirk in men that damages relationships, and the secret power daughters have to not only bypass it, but to repair it in many dads);

(Starting with your own father) are men actually afraid of women in ways that few people understand?

(Early in the interviews, you will learn how the possibility of a woman's occasional emotional outbursts will often be the source of distress and disorientation for many men, and how to use and overcome it in ways that strengthen your relationships);

Are men imprisoned by certain emotions, making it almost impossible to understand what they're really going through at times?

(Throughout the book, you will discover the emotions men have the most difficulty expressing, and simple ways to break through so he will let you know what he's really feeling).

"...I loved this book…" (Joy Hannabass for Readers' Favorite)

"Surprisingly candid... terrifically rewarding."

"...I was really moved by the joys and heartaches many of these dads were willing to share." (Steve Harrison, Publisher, Radio-TV Interview Report /RTIR)

In this 2nd edition of his provocative book, behaviorist James I. Bond takes you on a journey deep inside the minds of men and fathers, beneath their often carefully-guarded defenses.

By eavesdropping on 101 father of daughters (when no woman is in the room) and accessing breakthrough research, you will discover... the profound influence women have on their fathers(often without realizing it)...and the profound influence men have on their daughters.

A page turner that will simplify your relationships in ways you never expected.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780998865706
Publisher: U.S. Management, LLC
Publication date: 05/17/2017
Pages: 342
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.76(d)

About the Author

James I. Bond is founder of The Father-Daughter Project™.

For 13 years he ran a Behavioral Management firm working with some of the nation's largest organizations, when he discovered that his own relationship with his middle daughter, Lauren, wasn't as great as he thought.

To help figure out how he could become a better father to his three daughters, he turned to other men who had daughters.

Because of his Behavioral Management background, these discussions evolved into 2-hour recorded, deeply personal interviews with over 100 fathers across the U.S. and Canada.

What came out of these interviews for him, was more profound than James could ever have imagined.

Excerpts from these interviews became the basis of the book, The Secret Life of Fathers, and led to the founding of The Father-Daughter Project™.


The Father Daughter Project™ is made up of individuals and organizations that have come together to help improve the relationships between fathers and daughters worldwide.

We believe that improving the relationships between fathers and daughters will help make the world more caring and compassionate, while improving the emotional health and wellbeing of women and the men in their relationships and families (including their fathers).

But we need your help.

Share copies of our book with your family and friends. Come visit our website at, and try the interview questions with your own dad or daughter.

Then share your own personal father-daughter story.

In this way, you will help us change lives... starting with yours!


James is a behavioral management specialist.

For thirteen years he was president of a leading behavioral management firm. His clients included Amgen, The Muscular Dystrophy Association, British General Electric, Gannett Media, Tenet Healthcare, Cigna Employee Benefits Companies and Kal Kan Pet Foods.

He has also been involved in regional leadership for The Mankind Project, a non-profit men's training and personal development organization.

James is the father of a son age thirty-five and three daughters age thirty-three through twenty-six.
(He is a father-in-training - he hasn't quite gotten it right yet, but he is trying.)

James and his wife Pam of 39 years live in Thousand Oaks, California.

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