The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women's Infidelity

The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women's Infidelity

by Alicia M. Walker


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Using a sample collected from Ashley Madison, this book is the result of a year-long inquiry into women's extramarital experiences. Ultimately, these women reject the binary proposition of marriage that assumes that either we work on our marriages and remain monogamous within them, or we break up the relationship and take up other relationships. These women conceive of an alternate solution to marriages that are not wholly working, where their own needs are ignored, unmet, and not prioritized. Thus, the women in this study are engaging in secret defiance of the expectations of marriage and primary partnerships. This book gives a voice to women's experiences and perceptions regarding their participation in infidelity and glimpses into the interworkings of our most intimate relationships, and the ways women negotiate marriages that fall short of their expectations.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781498544603
Publisher: Lexington Books
Publication date: 11/15/2017
Pages: 204
Product dimensions: 6.10(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Alicia Walker is assistant professor of sociology at Missouri State University.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction: Why Do We Care if Other People Cheat? xiii

1 Who are these "Bad Girls" Anyway? (And Where Did You Find Them?) 1

2 A Large Penis is Always Welcome 17

3 You're not the Boss of Me 51

4 A Gift You Give Yourself, But Nothing Comes for Free 87

5 Sometimes You Just Need a Subcontractor 115

Conclusion: The Things You Learn from Bad Girls: Conclusions and Implications Resulting from this Inquiry on Women and Outside Partnerships 129

References 141

Index 159

About the Author 161

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The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women's Infidelity 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I loved this book! I felt like I knew these women. Now I'm looking at all my friends with a new eye. :) The women's stories were great. I learned so much and was entertained at the same time. I'm sharing the book with my friends, and suggesting it to my book club as our next selection!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book surprised, delighted, and fascinated me. It's a sneak peek into the lives of women who cheat. It's not about what you think it is! And these women prove that. Well researched and well written. No heavy $5 words to impress you. Just the reality of what the author found in her work. So impressed! I'm going to buy more as gifts for my friends