So, you've decided to use Natural Family Planning. Has it blessed your marriage? Deepened your respect for your body? Has it made your sex life fantastic? Do you and your spouse hold hands at sunset, and do pink flowers grow around your marital bed? If so, this book is not for you. But if you've tried Natural Family Planning and have discovered that your life is now awful - or if you feel judged or judgey, or if you trust NFP but your doctor doesn't, or if you're just trying to figure out how the heck to have a sex life that is holy but still human - you'll find comfort, encouragement, honesty, wit, and, most important, practical advice in The Sinner's Guide to NFP. Popular Catholic writer Simcha Fisher shows what it's really like to practice NFP, and how to achieve those fabled "marriage building" benefits. The Sinner's Guide to NFP helps you with: NFP and Your Spiritual Life, NFP and the Rest of the World, NFP in the Trenches, The next time you ask yourself, "If NFP is wonderful, why am I so miserable?" - don't panic. The Sinner's Guide to Natural Family Planning is here to help.
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Table of Contents
Introduction: Why This Book, and What It's Not 11
Part I NFP and Your Spiritual Life
Chapter 1 Why Doesn't the Church Just Make a List? 17
Chapter 2 Making Room 24
Chapter 3 The Golden Box 27
Chapter 4 NFP, Providentialism, and Future-You 33
Chapter 5 No Petty Virtues 36
Chapter 6 Examination of Conscience for Those Using NFP 39
Chapter 7 Is It Really Okay to Laugh about Sex? 42
Part II NFP and the Rest of the World
Chapter 8 Prudence and Generosity in Public Conversation 49
Chapter 9 You Don't Know 53
Chapter 10 What Do We Tell Our Kids (and Ourselves) about Sex? 57
Chapter 11 The Worst Possible System, Except for All the Others 62
Chapter 12 Ask Your Doctor If Irreversible Mutilation Is Right for You! 66
Part III NFP in the Trenches
Chapter 13 Why NFP Hurts 73
Chapter 14 How to Ruin Your Marriage with NFP 78
Chapter 15 The Tangled Chain: Pursuing Chastity in Marriage 84
Chapter 16 Groping Toward Chastity 91
Chapter 17 But What about the Woman? Part One: Does God Just Hate Women, or What? 96
Chapter 18 But What about the Woman? Part Two: So What Do We Do about It? 102
Chapter 19 How to Have a Difficult Conversation with Your Husband 111
Chapter 20 How to Help Your Husband with NFP 114
Chapter 21 What's So Natural about Natural Family Planning? 120
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Simcha Fisher is an insightful and hysterical writer who has brought a much-needed perspective to Natural Family Planning (NFP). She clears away the sunshine and roses many NFP advocates bathe the topic in, and shows that NFP is nlt for the faint of heart. But she also demonstrates that tge sacrifices, understood well, can indeed bring the much-lauded joys to couples willing to persevere. "Natural" does not mean simple or easy, but just how simple or easy have the alternatives been for you and your spouse's relationship?
A great read. A great writer & an interesting book. Highly recommend for anyone who has any questions in regards to NFP.
I've read a few of Simcha's articles over the year, but I've never been her biggest fan. Some friends finally convinced me to read her book, and I'm so glad I did. NFP is something that my husband and I really believe in, but it certainly has not filled our marriage with the promised rainbows and unicorns. I was glad that someone finally focused on the reality of the situation; this book really spoke to me.
All the candor, wit and wisdom that one finds in Simcha Fisher's blog can be found in her book, too! She gives an honest, thoughtful look at the struggles and sacrifices that married couples encounter when using NFP. I found myself nodding and laughing right along! Definitely a must-read for engaged AND married Catholics who are serious about NFP, and this book is a fantastic reminder that we can't take ourselves too seriously, either!
Although my husband and I have been blessed thus far and have not had to use NFP quite to the point of frustration as others have, I still found this book humorous and helpful. I hope that some of her insights will be a source of strength in the future, but in the meantime, thanks for the laughs and straight-forward, tell-it-like-it-is attitude. I didn't have to hate NFP to hate the sunshine-and-roses marketing it sometimes comes under.