The Ten: 6-10 Participant's Guide

The Ten: 6-10 Participant's Guide

by John Ward, Jeff Pries



Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781418534172
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 05/05/2009
Series: Liquid Series
Pages: 112
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 5.90(h) x 0.30(d)

About the Author

John Ward is a filmmaker who at 36 has over twenty years of experience. A child actor who appeared in his first movie at 12, by 25, he wrote, produced and directed his first film, Enchanted. John now works on his own and is slated to direct his latest project, The Shroud, later this year. John regularly teaches high school students at Mariners Church as well as leads a small group of high schoolers.

Jeff Pries' last eleven out of fourteen years as a pastor have been spent as Small Groups Pastor of Mariners Church, as well as a member of the Mariners Church speaking team. His greatest passion in ministry is trying to get people to talk about life honestly, and helping them realize that with God, they can tackle anything.

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THE TEN: 6-10
By Jeff Pries

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2009 Mariner's Impact
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4185-3417-2

Chapter One

THE KILLER WITHIN You must not murder (Exodus 20:13).

What's worse: a guilty person being set free or an innocent person being put away? This is a tough question. On one hand I have read stories of people who were guilty, but because of either a technicality or a lack of evidence they weren't convicted. Seeing this injustice made me angry for the victims and sad for their families. On the other hand I read a story about an innocent person who was imprisoned for twenty years before it came to light that he really didn't do it. Thinking about it gave me a pit in my stomach and shook my faith in our legal system. Both angles are gut-wrenching. But which is worse? Is that even possible to decide?

Which do you think is worse and why?

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When I first saw the envelope, I was intrigued. What was inside? I was pretty sure it was something incriminating, something that he was willing to freeze a woman over. You might say I was dying to know what was inside. I had a feeling they were pictures, just not sure of what. As haunted as I was because I didn't know what was in the envelope, the good doctor was even more haunted because he did know the contents. Sure, the unknown contents were killing me, but not as much as they were killing him.

What are the murders, and how do they affect the characters in the story?

How does the original murder come back to haunt the doctor?

MATTHEW 5:21–22

21 "You have heard that our ancestors were told, 'You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.' 22 But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell."

1 JOHN 3:11–24

11 This is the message you have heard from the beginning: We should love one another. 12 We must not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and killed his brother. And why did he kill him? Because Cain had been doing what was evil, and his brother had been doing what was righteous. 13 So don't be surprised, dear brothers and sisters, if the world hates you.

14 If we love our Christian brothers and sisters, it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead. 15 Anyone who hates another brother or sister is really a murderer at heart. And you know that murderers don't have eternal life within them.

16 We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. 17 If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion—how can God's love be in that person?

18 Dear children, let's not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. 19 Our actions will show that we belong to the truth, so we will be confident when we stand before God. 20 Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.

21 Dear friends, if we don't feel guilty, we can come to God with bold confidence. 22 And we will receive from him whatever we ask because we obey him and do the things that please him.

23 And this is his commandment: We must believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as he commanded us. 24 Those who obey God's commandments remain in fellowship with him, and he with them. And we know he lives in us because the Spirit he gave us lives in us.


Cain was the firstborn child of Adam and Eve. Eve later gave birth to Abel. Cain grew up and became a farmer, while Abel became a shepherd. Both Cain and Abel understood that the Lord requested the first and best of what they had to offer, but when it came time to present the sacrifice to the Lord, only Abel gave God his best. Abel offered his gifts with a heart of faith, while Cain offered his out of obligation.

God accepted Abel and his gift of sacrifice but rejected Cain and his gift. This angered Cain, and jealousy and bitterness burned in his heart. God presented Cain with a solution, but Cain chose to harbor his anger and let it consume him. His hatred toward his brother escalated and led him to coax Abel into the fields and kill him. This is the first premeditated murder in the Bible, and the ramifications for this sin were eternal.

Have you ever had your opinion of something turned upside down? When I was a kid, I hated cheesecake, but when I tried it again as an adult, it became the best thing I ever tasted. Or take my opinion of Nascar. I used to think it was a pointless sport, if it was even a sport at all. Then I had the opportunity to ride in a real race car and found out it was exciting and actually worthy of being called a sport. What about the definition of murder? It seems pretty black–and –white—you either kill someone or you don't. Then you read these passages, and what do Jesus and John do? They turn it upside down.

How do Jesus and John elaborate on the original commandment of "you must not murder"?

I have probably seen the footage of John F. Kennedy's assassination over a hundred times. I have heard the description over and over of how the bullet struck him: "back and to the left, back and to the left." It must have been frightening to see the president get murdered right in front of you. Right now I am sitting next to a guy in a coffee shop who is "murdering" our current president. That's right, murdering. He is spewing so much hatred that if words were bullets, the president would be dead. It may not be quite as frightening as the Kennedy assassination, but pretty close.

What are ways people "murder" each other today? What are the results?

Our neighbor down the street continuously drives way too fast past our house. And not only does she drive too fast, but she doesn't pay attention. I have four young kids who play outside all the time, and if anything ever happened to one of them, I would die. I have tried to tell her a few times to please slow down, but she doesn't seem to listen or care. One day after I witnessed a particularly fast incident, I stomped down to her house in a fury and asked her if it was going to take one of my kids getting run over for her to stop. I was pretty passionate. Well, last week I saw the same woman drive into our church parking lot on her way to a service. I guess my righteous anger wasn't so righteous after all.

Who are you "murdering" today? How does it affect the way you feel when you consider that you are breaking the commandment "you must not murder"?

What can you change to stop "murdering" others, and what will that look like in your life and theirs?

What would it look like to not just stop "murdering" (hating) them, but actually love them?

When I used to read through the ten Commandments, I would check off the ones that I had committed. "You must not murder" was always my safety commandment, the one I could go back to when I needed to feel good about myself. After all, I've never killed anyone, never pulled out a gun or fired a bullet. And quite frankly, I could never in a thousand years imagine myself ever doing it. I thought as commandments went, I was safe with this one. Then a game changer: we're not only supposed to avoid killing people; we're not only supposed to avoid hating people; we are supposed to love people. I'm now realizing that when it comes to safety commandments, I seem to be running out.


Why is it sometimes easier to hate than to love?

What are the benefits of loving instead of hating?

Are there any benefits to hating? if so, what are they?

Why is it difficult to love someone whom you have strong negative feelings toward?

What does it show to other people when you actually love someone, even after you have been wronged

Chapter Two


You must not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14).

I just got home. I've been away from my family on business for pretty much the last five weeks. I checked my calendar to see what my upcoming week was looking like, and then I remembered: I am scheduled to play golf with my buddies the next day. Wow, what a dilemma. It's my first day back with my family and I am supposed to go out and play golf. My eyes dart back and forth from my calendar to the "to do" list my wife has already handed me. What is a guy to do? Well, I do what any smart husband would do: I call my friends and say, "I'm gonna have to take a rain check." All through the day as I'm painting the coffee table, I am getting constant updates on their great round of golf. I could have gone, but honestly I'm glad I didn't. Well, maybe not glad, but at least I'm lucky I didn't.

Tell about a time you ran from something you could have done that might have hurt you (emotionally, physically, relationally, financially)—and were glad you did.

Things in my life I have had to clean up: a spill in the kitchen, a bucket of paint on the carpet, a pile of clothes in my kid's room. But the thought of cleaning up an affair like Alice had to—that's a whole new level of messiness. How do you make it right? Where do you start? Just thinking about speaking to the wife whose family you ruined gives me chills. I guess, though it is a start, it's the least that she could do. As I learn with every new spill, making the mess is quick and easy. Now cleaning it up, that's what takes time.

What are the effects that adultery has on all of the parties?

What healing might take place after Alice owns up to the wife regarding the affair?


27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."


1 Now Joseph had been taken down to Egypt. Potiphar, an Egyptian who was one of Pharaoh's officials, the captain of the guard, bought him from the Ishmaelites who had taken him there.

2 The Lord was with Joseph and he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master. 3 When his master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord gave him success in everything he did, 4 Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned. 5 From the time he put him in charge of his household and of all that he owned, the Lord blessed the household of the Egyptian because of Joseph. The blessing of the Lord was on everything Potiphar had, both in the house and in the field. 6 So he left in Joseph's care everything he had; with Joseph in charge, he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate.

Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, 7 and after a while his master's wife took notice of Joseph and said, "Come to bed with me!"

8 But he refused. "With me in charge," he told her, "my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. 9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" 10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.

11 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

13 When she saw that he had left his cloak in her hand and had run out of the house, 14 she called her household servants. "Look," she said to them, "this Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed. 15 When he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house."

16 She kept his cloak beside her until his master came home. 17 Then she told him this story: "That Hebrew slave you brought us came to me to make sport of me. 18 But as soon as I screamed for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house."

19 When his master heard the story his wife told him, saying, "This is how your slave treated me," he burned with anger. 20 Joseph's master took him and put him in prison, the place where the king's prisoners were confined.

But while Joseph was there in the prison, 21 the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden. 22 So the warden put Joseph in charge of all those held in the prison, and he was made responsible for all that was done there. 23 The warden paid no attention to anything under Joseph's care, because the Lord was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did.


Joseph was one of twelve sons of Jacob, but he was the eldest son with Rachel, Jacob's true love. Rachel died during the birth of their second son, Benjamin. Joseph enjoyed favored status with his father for all of his life, causing much jealousy amidst his brothers. This jealousy led the brothers to conspire to kill Joseph when they were traveling away from their father. Instead they sold him as a slave to some Ishmaelites, who were Midianite traders, passing by. The traders paid Joseph's brothers twenty pieces of silver and then took him to Egypt, where he was eventually sold again to Potiphar. The remaining brothers then told Jacob a wild beast had killed Joseph, his favorite son, and Jacob went into mourning.

After the event with Potiphar's wife, Joseph spent time in jail alongside Pharaoh's chief cup-bearer and baker. While in jail he interpreted dreams for them that proved true. Two years later Pharaoh had a dream that no one was able to interpret. The cup-bearer remembered Joseph, and Pharaoh sent for him. Joseph explained that Pharaoh's dream indicated that Egypt would undergo seven years of abundance followed by seven years of famine. Pharaoh knew Joseph was filled with the Spirit of God and made him second-in-command.

During the seven years of abundance, Joseph amassed huge harvests for Pharaoh, and the storehouses were filled with plenty of supplies to last throughout the coming seven years of famine. But not everyone was prepared, and many people came to Joseph to purchase food, including his own brothers. Thirteen years had passed, and Joseph had aged to the point that his brothers did not recognize him. But Joseph recognized them. He could have waged revenge against his brothers, and most would have considered it warranted. But instead he offered them forgiveness and gave them the best land and plenty of food as symbols of their reconciliation.


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Table of Contents


Chapter 1. The Killer Within....................8
Chapter 2. Crave....................22
Chapter 3: Take That....................38
Chapter 4: Shades of Grey....................56
Chapter 5: Mine!....................70
Leader's Guide....................86
Leader's Guide Chapter 1: The Killer Within....................91
Leader's Guide Chapter 2: Crave....................95
Leader's Guide Chapter 3: Take That....................100
Leader's Guide Chapter 4: Shades of Grey....................104
Leader's Guide Chapter 5: Mine!....................108

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