Marry the one you love and love the one you marry. It sounds simple enough. But staying in love turns out to be a whole lot different than falling in love. In a world of constant distraction, marriage experts agree that the little things mattera lot. The Two-Minute Marriage Project explores the little things couples think, say, and do to stay in love for the long haul. Supported by expert studies, interviews with happily married couples, and years of personal experience, author Heidi Poelman shares the simple secrets that keep love alive. Whether it’s choosing an attitude of gratitude, leaving a love note, giving a welcome-home hug at the door, or calling just to say “hello,” The Two-Minute Marriage Project is full of simple ways to love the one you married, two minutes at a time.
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About the Author
Heidi Poelman graduated from Wake Forest University with a master’s degree in communication. In graduate school she had a particular interest in studying marriage dynamics. She wanted to know why something as simple as a tone of voice, a type of greeting, a sincere compliment, or a phone call could so greatly impact the feelings between two partners. This curiosity moved her to write The Two-Minute Marriage Project: Simple Secrets for Staying in Love, in which she was able to more fully explore the significance of seemingly simple thoughts, words, and deeds. Heidi lives in Utah with her husband, with whom she has three children.
Table of Contents• Preface
• Chapter 1 First comes love, then comes marriage
“Falling” in love
What’s love got to do with it?
Staying in love
What’s in it for me?
• Chapter 2 Two-minute moments: Why little things matter so much
• Chapter 3 What were you thinking? It’s all about perspective
What lens are you using?
Focusing on strengths
Assuming the best
Your happiness is my happiness
• Chapter 4 Say what? The power of loving words
“I love you”
“I am grateful for you”
“I admire you”
Make ‘em laugh
Connect through questions
Celebrate your spouse
• Chapter 5 Taking action: The little deeds that make a big difference
Serve your spouse
Support your spouse
Leave a love note
Surprise your spouse
Connect by phone
Who’s number one?
Are you listening?
I want what you want
Dress to impress
Walk down memory lane
Love through music
Ask your spouse out
• Chapter 6 Get a Little Closer: Small Steps Toward Great Intimacy
1st key ingredient: Emotional intimacy
2nd key ingredient: Appreciate the importance
3rd key ingredient: Set the stage
4th key ingredient: Communicate
5th key ingredient: Selflessness
• Chapter 7 Fight the good fight: Simple tools for handling conflict
Seek first to understand
Use questions for clarity
Check in when in doubt
Validating and empathizing
It’s not you, it’s me
Say what you mean
Say what you do want
Let it go
• Chapter 8 What not to do: Bitter behaviors that take a big bite
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Don’t make assumptions
Don’t get defensive
Don’t respond when you’re angry
Don’t say always and never (in negative ways)
Don’t keep score
• Chapter 9 Coming back together: Apologies and forgiveness
• Chapter 10 How do you love me? A word on differences
Consider your childhood
Consider differences between men and women
Consider your love languages
• Chapter 11 Carry on: Love is a verb
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
She really did her research and presented some simple but effective ways to enhance your marital relationship in a readable way.
My husband and I have a very strong marriage and as I was reading this book I realized we do most of what is written...so I ALREADY KNOW that these things work! How nice to have all the information I have gathered over 33 years of marriage in ONE BOOK! This book has the ability to really bless your marriage and make it strong! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Did you know that it wasn't until the late eighteenth century that you got to marry the one you love...Before then most marriages were arranged. Now that you married for love your work is to love the one you marry. 'Staying in love' seems to be a whole lot harder than 'falling in love.' The Two-Minute Marriage Project gives you "Simple Secrets for Staying in Love" Little things to do, think, and say so that your love stays alive. Things like: *Focus on strengths. *Show gratitude for your spouse. *Say "I Love You" often. *Help your spouse laugh. *Give compliments. *Spend as much time as you can together. *Look back on how you met your spouse and what it felt like to fall in love. *And SO MUCH MORE! Filled with personal stories and case studies you will read of wonderful ways to show your spouse you are in it for the long haul :) At the end of each section you will find 2-minute challenges to strengthen your marriage. Give your spouse 2-minutes And then repeat often~
I'm Heidi's husband, so I'm clearly biased, but Heidi is truly a fabulous wife and author. In this book, Heidi illustrates how the little things can be so powerful in a marriage. How we think, what we say, and what we do can have a big impact on happiness. Heidi draws from experts and the real-life experiences of married people, and she covers many of the important aspects of marriage from regular time to communicate and play together, to intimacy, to dealing with conflict, to forgiveness, to loving. I've read the book a couple times already and each time I learn more and am amazed that I get to be the lucky man married to Heidi. If you want great perspective on how to improve your marriage and tips for little things that can help, then you should buy this book.
I really enjoyed the ideas that this author presented. It's the little things that matter and really count. Those little things are doable and aren't overwhelming. There were some things that really hit home for me. She talks about how hard life can be on a marriage when you add kids to it--so much time is spent dealing with kids, work, housework, etc that not a lot of energy is left to spend on marriage, but it's very important to make time. Research and statistics, as well as expert opinions and personal experiences, are used to support the concepts in the book. It really is simple and doesn't take much time--just some effort and consistency. It's often just being observant and taking action; it can be taking time to stop and think before speaking; or it can be thinking of your spouse before yourself that can help you see improvements. I loved the way each chapter was broken down into categories. Each chapter focused on certain aspects of marriage and ended with a summary of things to work on--short, easy little things. I really believe that using these can help strengthen a marriage and I've had fun trying some of these ideas out in my own marriage. *I received a copy in exchange for an honest review*