The word forgive is not, as many people think, one dimensional. It does not just mean let go and let God, a challenge for anyone who has experienced traumatizing abuse, injustice, neglect, or abandonment. In The Unburdened Heart, Suzanne Eller explores with readers the multiple facets of forgiveness found in the Scriptures, focusing in particular on the idea of leaving one place to go to another. Anyone can, with the help of God's Spirit, leave pain to find wholeness, leave regret to find purpose, and leave the past to live fully in the present. The Unburdened Heart uses the power of story along with biblical teaching to lead readers into healing and a forgiving lifestyle.
|Publisher:||Baker Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)|
|Age Range:||12 - 10 Years|
About the Author
Suzanne Eller is a Proverbs 31 Ministries author and speaker. She has ministered throughout Europe, Central America, and the Caribbean, as well as the U.S., in addition to writing numerous articles and contributing to more than thirty books. She is the author of The Unburdened Heart and The Mom I Want to Be and has been featured on Focus on the Family, Aspiring Women, and many other programs.
Table of Contents
Foreword Renee Swope, Proverbs 31 Ministries 11
Part 1 What Is Forgiveness?
1 What Does It Mean to Forgive? 19
Part 2 What We Gain When We Forgive
2 You Leave One Place to Go to Another 35
3 God Moves In 49
4 You Move Past What You Cannot Change 67
5 You Receive Your New Identity 83
6 You Start Fresh 97
7 You Experience a Role Reversal 115
8 You Find a Safe Place 129
9 You Get Over the Little Stuff 143
10 You Exchange Your Anger for His 159
11 You Live in Grace 173
Part 3 What's Next?
12 Live as a Forgiver 191
About Suzanne Eller 207
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Forgiveness is HARD. What you won't find in this book is to "Just build a bridge and get over it" "Just let it go, it was in the past", "Just deal with it and be done" "it's the past, just move on" "Forgive and Forget". Forgiveness is not just a onetime "I forgive you" This book teaches you the many types of forgiveness, validates your feelings, and shows you how, with God, you can find peace, and freedom in forgiveness. Also check out Suzie's next book The Mended Heart. These two are a great team.
Forgiveness is for the person that’s been hurt, not the person who’s done the wrong. If someone has hurt you or done wrong to you, you’re able to gain freedom when you surrender to the forgiveness and recapture the dignity you’ve been stripped of. Suzanne Eller writes, “We forgive like Jesus by praying for that person; by loving him or her, if even from a distance; and by keeping a door open to reconciliation as repentance occurs.” But truly forgiving someone for something painful and damaging is easier said than done. You can say, “I forgive you” and still harbor resentment, anger, hurt, and other feelings that don’t truly give you the freedom in the situation. Suzanne so eloquently and realistically helps walk you through the process of forgiving as a human with God’s likeness. We cannot forgive on our own. We need to take God with us and ask for Him to help us through the process so that we can come out of a situation and heal. One step in the book that Suzanne helps you walk through is to realize that what’s been done or said to you is in no way a definition of who you are: it is not your identity or yours to claim. Suzanne Eller asks the gut-wrenching truthful questions that we all ask ourselves; the hard questions that cut to the chase and get right to the core of the problem to fully work through the forgiveness process and find the peace that God so graciously offers us when we walk with Him. Each chapter ends with some mindful questions to help you journal through your forgiveness walk. After the questions is a summary statement of the principle of forgiveness discussed in that chapter, the definition of that specific type of forgiveness discussed, as well as a personal prayer in a call to action in warming your heart to heal again. Once something is dead, blood no longer flows and it’s cold, bitter, gone. Your emotional heart can never truly die as long as you have warm blood surging through it. God’s spirit pumps this for you when you cannot, and forgiving a hurt allows the blood to course through more veins of your heart and allow more healing, more strength, and a whole new life to you that was stripped away before. Unburden your Heart - Claim yourself back, and allow Suzanne’s beautiful, authentic words help you. This is a must read – cannot put down book. Thank you, Suzanne Eller!
I am a newcomer to forgiveness and grace since meeting God at 50. When I picked up The Unburdened Heart I worried that it was just another "feel good" book about forgiving others. Halfway through the first chapter I knew my worries were unfounded. Suzie has made forgiveness real in an honest, raw way. Her no nonsense approach to forgiveness of self and those who have hurt you, along with her step by step process complete with definitions of the types of forgiveness, brought me to a place of healing. She dispenses with the current "fluffy, feel good forgiveness" route and takes you on a journey to what forgiveness truly is...hard, emotional, painful but necessary if we truly want to heal and move on. She teaches you how to unlock doors that you had slammed shut and find the freedom to move out of your bitterness, anger, and pain and into the sunlight of God's providence. I love that Suzie keeps it real throughout the entire book, infusing not only her own forgiveness journey but the journey of others as well. I especially loved learning the Greek definitions for forgiveness. I intend to give this book to all my daughters and some of my friends this Christmas. It is a must read for every woman. (I also think there needs to be a man's version of this book!) God bless you Suzie for this timely, insightful book. Michelle Pope Welch