The Widower's Toolbox: Repairing Your Life After Losing Your Spouse

The Widower's Toolbox: Repairing Your Life After Losing Your Spouse

by G. J. Schaefer, Tom Bekkers

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780882823720
Publisher: New Horizon Press
Publication date: 08/09/2011
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 224
File size: 793 KB

About the Author

G.J. Schaefer has a degree in Chemical Engineering from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. He is the author of Professional Home Construction Management, which teaches readers how to save money as their own general contractors. He owns an engineering consulting business and is active in the Boy Scouts of America. Schaefer, who lost his wife to breast cancer, lives with his two sons in Green Bay, Wisconsin.

Tom Bekkers, MSW, ACSW , is a licensed Psychotherapist/Advanced Practice Social Worker with over twenty year's experience in professional counseling relating to patients and family members faced with the challenges of health situations, lifestyle adjustments issues, death and grief. Bekkers holds a Master"s Degree from the University of Wisconsin. Since 1989 he has worked at St. Vincent's Hospital in Green Bay and he has been the facilitator of the "Understanding Grief" and "Taking Time" cancer support groups since 1990. He resides in Denmark, Wisconsin, with his wife and two daughters.

Table of Contents

Preface xi

Introduction 1

Part I Picking Up the Pieces

Chapter 1 Contact Other Professionals 7

Chapter 2 Enter Basic Training 19

Chapter 3 Establish New Traditions 30

Chapter 4 Break Bread 36

Chapter 5 Seek the Prayer Connection 41

Chapter 6 Get Help! 47

Chapter 7 Get a Body/Mind/Spirit Tune-Up 52

Chapter 8 Become Inspired 61

Chapter 9 Learn to Meditate 67

Chapter 10 Use Affirmations 74

Chapter 11 Make and Keep Friends 80

Part II Healing From Within

Chapter 12 Construct a Memory Box 87

Chapter 13 Gather a Scrapbook 91

Chapter 14 Cherish Personal Effects 95

Chapter 15 Wear Me, Feel Me 99

Chapter 16 Act Carefree as a Child 104

Chapter 17 Write a Love Letter 110

Chapter 18 Join the Chain Gang 116

Chapter 19 Go Natural 120

Chapter 20 Light a Candle 126

Chapter 21 Begin Workouts 130

Chapter 22 Remember Your Song 135

Chapter 23 Frame Memories 140

Chapter 24 Send a Message 145

Chapter 25 Create a Comforting Object 151

Chapter 26 Celebrate 155

Chapter 27 Plant a Memorial Garden 160

Chapter 28 Choose to Read 164

Chapter 29 Imagine the Other Side 169

Chapter 30 Keep Memories in Motion 174

Chapter 31 Find a New Best Friend 177

Chapter 32 Harbor No More Regrets 182

Part III Giving Back to Others

Chapter 33 Show Gratitude 191

Chapter 34 Do a Good Turn 195

Chapter 35 Develop a Product with a Cause 202

Part IV Loving Again

Chapter 36 Share Lessons Learned 208

Chapter 37 Clothe Others 214

Chapter 38 Bestow a Seat 218

Chapter 39 Gain a New Perspective 223

Chapter 40 Send Your Sympathies 229

Chapter 41 Appreciate Love and Marriage 234

Afterword 243

Appendix 244

Acknowledgments 246

Resources 248

References 253

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The Widower's Toolbox: Repairing Your Life After Losing Your Spouse 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
Boy_Scout More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be very helpful because it gave me a number of ideas to help me get my life on track again. Grocery shopping tips and trading help for help in return, helped a lot. It then goes on to show me how I could get a feeling of purpose again in my life by helping others with the lessons I learned through my loss. The author explains the differences on how men and women grieve and I found that interesting and true from my viewpoint. Highly reccommend for a man or a woman who loses a spouse.