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"'Women live by a variety of unwritten codes,' argues former White House reporter, attorney, and author Nelson (Black Woman Redefined). 'Your life Code is formed from the time You are a small girl. . . . Your Code either propels you to greatness or keeps you stuck in the challenges and obstacles of your life,' she writes. Nelson explains how women can recognize the codes they operate by and use them to reshape aspects of their lives, using what she calls the 'Personal Codes,' the 'Emotional Codes,' the 'Spiritual Codes,' and the 'Professional Codes.' Within each section, she discusses topics that plague many women. For instance, within the Personal Codes, she addresses how to "'Make Peace with Your Past' and 'Guard Your Heart.' In explaining each of these codes, she gives real-life examples and advice, provides takeaways, and identifies key words. Nelson sprinkles Scripture passages throughout the book, but sparingly and only to lend biblical credence to her analysis. Unlike many of today's self-help authors. Nelson doesn't indulge in an us-against-them mentality. Rather, she says that women should be strong. assured, and responsible for their own actions and choices. This refreshing approach is both empowering and enlightening and should appeal to women of all ages."--Publishers Weekly
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The Woman Code
20 Powerful Keys to Unlock Your Life
By Sophia A. Nelson
RevellCopyright © 2014 Sophia A. Nelson
All rights reserved.
Know Your Value
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You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.
C. JoyBell C., from Wolves of the Sapphire Sun: This One's for the Wild Ones
It is life changing to know your value. One of the most timeless and challenging issues for women of every generation is the struggle to know our value, to know our worth, and to claim what we deserve in the workplace and in our relationships.
Knowing your value means not only knowing who you are but who you are not. I know that some of you may not feel very valuable right now, or very loved. That is okay. That is why you picked up this book. Many women look good on the outside but are badly wounded on the inside. They may seem successful, but they are hiding their hurts inside. Believe it or not, they feel valueless too. So I need you to stop thinking you are alone. You are not. Every single one of us at some point has doubted her value.
Women today are educated, talented, connected, financially secure, gifted, well traveled, and more, yet we still do not know our value. We shrink from saying what needs to be said for fear we will be called the "B" word or worse. We fear outshining men lest we make them feel less than. We worry that we are not pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough, or powerful enough. We envy other women who are thinner, more beautiful, smarter, or happier. We fail to see the amazing gifts we are to the world.
It is time for that to change.
All of our doubts, fears, and limitations come from within our own minds. Envy starts out as admiration. We want what other women have because we don't see our own intrinsic value. We are so good at advocating for and empowering other people but not ourselves. We know how to negotiate a fierce deal for a client, and we will go to the mat for a family member or friend when we feel someone is not treating them as they deserve. Yet we will diminish our own value; we do not stand up for ourselves and honor our worth.
We can possess an Ivy League degree and an amazing work history, and yet when it comes time to negotiate for that salary at the new job we just landed, we let someone else decide our value. Men never do this. From the time they are boys, men are empowered by their families, their culture, their communities, and even the sports teams they play on to know their value. Men are taught almost from birth that they are to be hunters, protectors, providers, and winners. In other words, they have value.
This is not the case for us.
Women are taught almost from birth that we are to be nurturers, supporters, encouragers, peacekeepers, and ladies. While these are all great virtues, these traits play into what we call "soft skills." Soft skills, which most women possess in abundance, are important; however, they do not often get you what you want when it comes to the corporate boardroom, business, or life. How you value yourself has a direct impact on how well you live out your Code.
In a nutshell: your life "Code" is formed from the time you are a small girl. It is shaped by the influence of your parents and your nuclear family And after the family, it is shaped by your community, by the friendships you form, and by the faith (or spiritual value system or lack thereof) your parents impart to you. Your Code either propels you to greatness or keeps you stuck in the challenges and obstacles of your life. If you grow up in a family of people who are nurturing, loving, and kind you are more likely as an adult to be nurturing, loving, and kind. On the other hand, if you grow up in a family where people are angry all the time, argumentative, and demeaning to one another, you are likely to handle conflict as an adult by arguing, demeaning, and yelling at people.
All women struggle with self-esteem, self-worth, and self-value issues. Women have been taught for centuries that we are second-class citizens. It is not easy to undo centuries of programming. But we are going to consider three keys to unlock how to know and honor your value as a woman.
1. Erase the negative tapes in your head—don't let your history define your destiny.
2. Realize that what you think about you is what others will think about you.
3. Shift your thinking to put you at the top of your list.
Erase the Negative Tapes in Your Head Don't Let Your History Define Your Destiny
Words have power. Words define, shape, and mold us beyond what we can ever imagine. You have value. You are born and created as a person of value. How you perceive your worth and self-value is shaped by your experiences. And once certain words and images have been placed in our spirit, it becomes almost impossible to redefine ourselves so that we can truly embrace our value.
One of the most fundamental factors that determines your happiness, success, and joy in life is how well you value yourself. It sounds simple, but far too many women and girls do not know their value. You must be defined first and foremost by your Creator and yourself.
The bottom line is this: if you let others define you and tell you your value, your journey in life will be hard, passionless, and unfulfilling. We are defined early on by our families, the first place we learn how to be, who to be, and what we can be. It does not matter whether we were raised by two loving parents, a grandparent, a beloved aunt, or even in foster care. What matters is what these loved ones or caretakers spoke into our being. The power of words spoken over us, about us, and into us can last a lifetime. Words have the power to inspire, propel, or diminish us.
All women, regardless of our geographical region, nationality, religion, or socioeconomic status, grew up being defined by labels. How you value yourself was determined by how your nuclear family spoke to you, spoke about you, and how they saw you. My labels were as follows: Sophia is my smart one. She is going to be an attorney. She is my talker. She is outgoing. Sophia is a real go-getter.
Those words were ingrained in my Code early on. They were for the most part affirming words. I honored the high value bar that was set for me by my family. I grew up to be an attorney. I am still outgoing and a go-getter. But I had friends who did not get affirming labels. They were called fat, unruly, worthless, shy, average, boy crazed, too introverted, and worse. Many of the girls I grew up with became women who lived out the value that was placed on them by their families. It is the rare woman (e.g., Oprah) who can overcome the negativity of her early life and rise above the labels that shattered her Code. But, it can be done when we are given the tools to go within and dare to love ourselves again.
Two Women, Two Different Stories
Janet is forty-four, never married, and has no children. She is a successful civil engineer. Janet grew up poor in a small town in West Virginia. Like many in her community, she grew up with a strong religious faith, with a small nuclear family, and with a father who worked twelve hours a day in the coal mines. Her mother, Patricia, was a homemaker and took care of Janet and her three younger brothers. Everything in Janet's upbringing told her that her value was found in being a wife and a mother, and in being compassionate to other people before herself.
Janet's father was a decent man, but he drank a lot. And when he drank, he often verbally abused his children and at times physically abused his wife. Janet's father adored her. He would tell her that it wasn't her fault God made her a girl. He would tell her that she would grow up, meet a local boy, get married after high school, and start her own family. Janet knew from the time she was small that she did not want that type of life.
The mixed messages Janet got about the value of a woman, a wife, and a mother led her to decide early in her life that she never wanted to marry or have children. Janet is strikingly beautiful, yet if you talk to Janet privately, she will tell you that she feels unattractive and never quite good enough, and that she still has nightmares about her childhood.
Here's the point: Janet's instincts told her that life had more to offer her than what she saw growing up. But the negative tapes, the messages, and the words that defined Janet's value as a girl and ultimately as a woman have played in her head for years. Don't miss this. Janet on the outside is a beautiful, successful, smart engineer. But on the inside, she still struggles with intimacy and relationships with men. She has pushed away some very good men because she fears that she will not be enough or that somehow they will not see her value. She closed off the doors to her heart long ago.
Donna, age thirty-four, on the other hand, heard very different messages about her value. The oldest of three children, Donna is an oncologist. Her parents were both physicians, and her sister and brother both became physicians. Donna's parents instilled in their children that they could do anything, be anything, and change anything in life they wanted to.
Donna's friends adore her. She is always the life of the party, the laughter that fills up the room, and she is an encourager to all who know and meet her. She's young, she's vibrant, and she never finishes a round with her patients without giving them a hug, a hand squeeze, or even a kiss on the forehead.
Donna's husband is a college professor. Not only do they value themselves, but they are both committed to instilling value in others. Donna exudes confidence, love, competence, connection, and empathy because she values herself. Both Donna and Janet are smart, accomplished, beautiful women who are at the top of their game professionally. Donna grew up understanding her value. Everyone around her affirmed that she was valuable. Janet grew up having to fight her way past the negative tapes and words that made her feel valueless. She made a success of her life but at a deep personal cost. She is afraid to love and afraid to connect.
These two women—one older, one younger—teach us something important. They teach us that how we see our value as girls has a lasting impact on how we value ourselves as women. And that once we leave the environments we grew up in, we have to reprogram any negative thoughts, words, or images that made us feel worthless, unlovable, and not valuable. What I'm saying is this: you have to fight for your value. You have to return to that core Code that you were born with that says you are worthy, you are loved, and you are valuable.
Realize That What You Think about You Is What Others Will Think about You
What does it mean to "know" something?
To know something is to be sure of, certain of, firm and aware of it. It means you are not guessing; you are informed. It means you believe it with all your might.
What does it mean to "value" something?
To value is to hold dear. To place in high esteem. To love. To adore. To commit. To see someone's or something's worth. To treasure and to protect something of priceless value. So to "know" your "value" is to simply believe that you are priceless, made from the beginning to be special, rare, to have purpose, and to be loved.
Here's the thing: when we can learn to operate in that space of self-love, self-worth, and self-value, we can soar to heights unimaginable. We can forge a universal sisterhood so great that we can truly ignite a spark that lights the way and changes the world. Feeling valuable allows us to do valuable things in life. If you don't love you, no one else on this earth can love you. That is a hard truth, because we realize that most women who lack self-love and self-esteem feel that way because they were taught to feel that way about themselves. They kept playing those negative tapes over and over again, and ultimately they believed them. Women who rise above their beginnings and mis-definitions of value are whole, complete, and fulfilled because they tapped back into their worth.
A point will come when you need to ask yourself three important but hard questions. Remember, it is never too late to believe in your value.
Question 1: Who do I want to be? Not in terms of my achievements or position in life, but according to my core value system. What will my living say to others about who I am?
Question 2: What is my life's purpose? What gifts do I possess that will make an impact that will last far beyond my life?
Question 3: What do I want for my happiness and fulfillment? What do I desire for me?
Only you can answer these questions. By answering them, you tap into your Code. And when you discover that Code, you will experience a freedom and a joy many women will never know. Your Code is the road map to your life's purpose and fulfillment.
Shift Your Thinking to Put You at the Top of Your List
Everything we do or will not do in life starts with the first Code: Know Your Value. If your Code has been corrupted you have to reset and restore it to begin anew. Realizing who we are and what we have to offer this life is a precious thing. It is a gift every woman should give herself. Believing in our value is no small task. But the reward is nothing short of miraculous. In other words, you must shift your thinking to put you at the top of your list.
You are valuable. How do you shift your thinking and recognize your value? These five steps will help you do just that; that is, they will help you value yourself and make sure that others around you know your value too.
Step 1: Trust yourself and your instincts. They are rarely ever wrong. Women have always practiced being still and listening. We are the original purveyors of "instinct" or "intuition." Listen to your inner voice. It will lead you to your purpose, to your value.
Step 2: Spend quality time getting to know you. Not your family's version of you, or your friend's opinion of you, or your boyfriend's or spouse's opinion of you. You must get intimately acquainted with you. Get to know what you like, what you do not like, and what you want versus what you need. You need to sit with yourself and pray for yourself.
Step 3: Face you to fix you. Face the wrong definitions you have been given about yourself. Families define us by our birth order, our siblings, and our traits: she's the kind one, she's the tall one, she's the smart one, she's the bad one, she's the dumb one, she's the fat one. The Code you have within never lies; let it help you find and face the authentic you.
Step 4: Believe in yourself. If you do not believe in you, no one else will. You teach people how to treat you (see Code 3). If people pick up that you don't like you or that you don't believe you are valuable, they will move on without you. People notice people who feel confident and good about themselves.
Step 5: Honor yourself. You know what lies in the deepest reaches of your heart and soul. You hear that small, still voice saying, "This is the way; walk in it." If you will honor what you know to be true for you, about you, and in spite of you at times, you will always honor your worth, your value, and your gifts. We lose this most important aspect of the Code when we let others define, mis-define, and tell us who we are. Stop. You were not designed by your Creator to do anything but to be you.
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Living the Code
Make these ten points of wisdom part of your life this week, this month, this year.
Points of Wisdom
1. Your value comes from your Creator, not your parents, siblings, friends, or naysayers.
2. To know your value, you must practice good health. Your health impacts your emotions, spirit, and self-worth.
3. Words define value. Be intentional about those you allow to speak into your life.
4. Knowing your value directly impacts the quality of your life.
5. Knowing your value helps you to set important boundaries.
6. Knowing your value means you do not allow anyone to diminish you, your worth, or your hopes.
7. Surround yourself with people who affirm, adore, and love you deeply.
8. Have the courage to speak up for yourself. This communicates to others that you know your value.
9. When you know who you are, you are eager to spend time with you, alone, in the presence of your spirit and of your Creator.
10. Knowing your value means that you like yourself. You embrace you, even in all of your imperfection. You would choose you as a friend.
* Key Words
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Table of Contents
Introduction: Unlocking Your Inner Woman Code 21
Section I The Personal Codes
Code 1 Know Your Value 31
Code 2 Make Peace with Your Past 41
Code 3 Teach People How to Treat You 51
Code 4 Live Authentically 63
Section II The Emotional Codes
Code 5 Be Accountable for Your Life 75
Code 6 Guard Your Heart 85
Code 7 Be Resilient 97
Code 8 Age Gracefully 107
Section III The Spiritual Codes
Code 9 Do Not Gossip 119
Code 10 Apologize Quickly 131
Code 11 Choose Your Thoughts and Words Wisely 141
Code 12 Never Cut What You Can Untie 151
Section TV The Professional Codes
Code 13 Don't Think Like a Alan 165
Code 14 Lead from Within 175
Code 15 Be Brave 185
Code 16 Lift Other Women as You Climb 195
Section V The Relational Codes
Code 17 Know Your Front Row 209
Code 18 Practice Love, Laughter, Loyalty 221
Code 19 Have Courageous Conversations 233
Code 20 Reconnect with Your Life 245
Study Guide 257
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Some things seemed very common sensual but the author really put things in their proper context and made me look at things from a different perspective. I don’t generally like self help books but I would definitely recommend this to all of the women in my life.
we tend to allow our everyday lives swallow us up and forget about us. And then wonder how time flies and what happen to your life. This book puts everything in order for you. I've read this book twice and some codes more than. Please get this book for yourself and then for your girlfriends.
I recently had the pleasure of meeting Ms. Sophia A. Nelson – Award winning author and journalist, a former White House reporter, former Congressional Committee Counsel, Motivational Speaker, Attorney and Leadership Trainer. She was on tour to promote her book The Woman Code and made a stop in Houston, Texas. I’ve heard her speak before on a webinar so I was familiar with her message to women and I did not want to miss the opportunity to see her in person.When I began reading the book I got stuck on Making Peace with Your Past. We all have a past. Some of the things I’ve endured in my past were out of my control. One of the hardest things to do is to let go of those things, forgive and move forward. Instead we tend to allow regret to take over and we blame our past for our inability to achieve or be successful. If this is you, you need to read this book! One of the first steps to making peace with your past is to realize you are stuck in the past. If you still fell anger, sadness or hurt when you remember certain life events or still feel pain or anger when a certain person’s name who hurt you is mentioned, or you are constantly thinking about what you missed out on, you are stuck in the past and you need to release it. The book is packed with relevant knowledge for today’s woman. I recommend it for your women’s group, book club or just for your own personal growth.
This book is a breath of fresh air. There are 3 key reasons I like this book, a lot. 1.) The author is very candid and real about her life and that she as a powerful professional woman does not have it all. It connected me to her as a human being. The introduction had me in tears. 2.) The book is spiritual but not religious. It is practical but not preachy. It is personal, yet global. 3.) This book addresses the things we as women know we need help in but don't talk about. It was well done. And much needed. Thank you Sophia A. Nelson for another great book. I loved your first one too! (ALM)
Sophia A. Nelson's book The Woman Code truly is the "key to unlocking a more fulfilling life." Nelson begins with an explanation on how to use the book to get the most out of it. This helpful guide is easily understood as is the entire book. Each chapter begins with a quote that is inspiring, thoughtful and related to the code for that chapter. There are 20 codes with full explanations and real world examples. Nelson is open, honest and transparent as she reveals how these codes relate to her own life. Each chapter concludes with thoughtful key ideas that help you connect the concepts to your own situations. I found this book very useful and applicable to my life. I am especially grateful for the chapter entitle, "Teach People How to Treat You." I highly recommend this book to woman of all ages (there is even a chapter on aging gracefully.) Sophia Nelson is an educated woman with many outstanding accomplishments under her belt. I think that is what I liked most about this book is that she appears to have it all, and even she admits that we all need to be reminded about what matters in life. Thanks for writing an excellent self-help book. I highly recommend it for all women.
This book will change your life for the good
Sophia A. Nelson in her new book, “The Woman Code” published by Revell gives us 20 Powerful Keys to Unlock Your Life. From the Back Cover: Your key to unlocking a more fulfilling life Every woman lives by a code, whether she realizes it or not. It informs how she treats others and herself, how much she expects of herself, and how far she is willing to go in order to find success. But is the code we’re living by truly helping us create the lives of purpose and fulfillment we desire? Or are we sacrificing the deeper things for mere achievement? In this inspiring book, Sophia A. Nelson calls women to live out a powerful life code that will lead them to purposeful and successful lives. With the wisdom that comes from experience, Nelson reveals to women · the true meaning of “having it all” · how to take better care of their minds, bodies, and souls · how to achieve professional excellence without compromising their values · how to find lasting love and purpose in life beyond their accomplishments · how to navigate the sisterhood of women, to build collaboration rather than competition · how to heal from past hurts, rejection, and life’s inevitable storms · and much more The Woman Code is a way of living, of navigating life’s challenges, and of interacting positively with other women. It’s a way of pursuing our dreams and our deepest desires. It reveals a universal and timeless set of principles of the mind, body, and spirit that help women balance the demands of work, home, family, and friendship. The Woman Code not only calls on women to practice purpose in their lives, it shows them how to do it with grace. Sophia Nelson believes that everything women need to lead the lives they want is already inside there inside sort of locked away. Ms. Nelson has twenty keys to unlock all that inner potential. The book is divided into 5 sections: The Personal Codes, The Emotional Codes, The Spiritual Codes, The Professional Codes and The Relational Codes. Each section contains four of each code. At the back of the book there is a study guide to be used with a small group or individually. I think this is a great resource for all women and would be a great gift for friends and family. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Revell. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
I just finished reading The Woman Code by Sophia A. Nelson, which offers 20 Powerful Keys to Unlock Your Life. Sophia offers encouragement and challenges in this book to get you motivated for success. Women tend to look at their friends and husbands/boyfriends (or all men in general) for validation and purpose. We forget that there is so much more to us than who we marry or who we are associated with. In truth, God created us all as unique individuals with a purpose for our lives. We can only find that purpose when we dig deep inside and begin to know ourselves better than anyone else knows us and better than we know them. This requires balance, boundaries, priorities, and a relationship with our Creator. The book starts off talking about how we all live by a code whether or not we realize it. The code resides deep inside us and naturally governs what we do. We have values, morals, things that we will tolerate and things we will not. There are certain types of people we blossom around and certain types that deplete our soil. We have things in our past we would like to forget and things that we never want to forget. These things, good or bad, make us who we are but they don't have to define us. Say you made a really bad mistake. Does that make you marked for life? You cheated on a test or you were responsible for getting someone fired from a job. Does that make you a cheater, liar, or enemy to all co-workers? No! What if you've had one failed relationship after another? Does that mean you will never have a successful one? No! What about the opposite? Say you did something wonderful. Maybe you were prom queen or you made the highest score on your SAT or graduated from college with the highest honors. Does that mean that for the rest of your life you can never fail? Are you put under pressure by others to achieve the greatest accolades for the rest of your life? No! All you need to do is what God created you to do. Your successes and failures are not labels you wear for the rest of your life. How can we avoid getting stuck in a trap of failures and pressure to succeed? We need to learn how to operate within the code of our lives. This includes our personal codes, emotional codes, spiritual codes, professional codes, and relational codes. What happens when things get out of balance in our lives? The Code doesn't work right and we begin to focus on our failures, pressures, stresses, and anything else that threatens to take us down. The Woman Code is a book that can help women restore balance in their lives, help them learn to guard their hearts, and help them find and live within their purpose. It can help women be better wives, mothers, friends, daughters, sisters, co-workers, bosses, and ministers. If you are struggling to balance your life, I recommend this book to you.
The Woman Code By: Sophia A. Nelson Sophia is showing us 20 powerful keys to unlock our lives. makes a difference in life if we are bought up knowing our life is worth something, but growing up being told you are worthless you will more likely as adult feel like you have no value. What we think of ourselves is very valuable. First Code is value. There are 19 more keys discussed in this book. Peace, Treat, Authenticity, These are personal codes. Accountability, Guard, Resilient, Age, These are Emotional codes. Gossip, Apologize, Thoughts, Cut and untie, these are the Spiritual codes. Don't think like a man, Lead, Brave, Lift up, these are the Professional codes. Know your row, Practice love, laughter and loyalty, Courageous, and Reconnect, these are the Relational codes. Each of these codes Sophia will discuss what we should do for each one. Then there is also a nice study guide at the end of the book. I really liked this book. Would even make a great ladies study group book.
This book gives simple, no-nonsense advice on how women can improve their lives - as well as the lives of those around them in the process. I enjoyed Nelson's conversational, relatable style and the fact that the information is presented in easy-to-digest chunks.
I am so impressed with this book! It was exactly what I needed and the timing couldn't have been better. So often we go through life without having a sense of where we should be going or even where we want to go. Because of this, when we evaluate our life we devalue ourselves and our worth to society, we let people treat us with less respect than they should because we don't respect ourselves, we let others guide of instead of allowing our own self guide and lead us, and we feel so low we end up not uplifting others during our journey...because we don't have it in us to lift ourselves up! This book deals with these issues and so much more! It is definitely one you will highlight half of and go back to review often!
This book was true inspiration for it gave me the opportunity to rewrite my Code. Nelson outlined specific steps that not only allowed me to begin to walk it out, but helped me honor my life, embrace my story and make the necessary decisions to unlock the life I've always desired.
I just finished reading this book over the weekend. I am still amazed at how much different it was than what I thought it would be. I liked it for 3 reasons: 1. It was concise yet powerful. 20 codes only 12 pages or so each, with great take-aways and wisdom. 2. It was for women like me who are Christians, yet who are professionals in the world trying to balance our lives and faith. 3. It was honest, brave, compassionate and it taught me how to love myself first and I am 60 years old. I highly recommend this book to women of ALL ages, everywhere. It is truly a rare book for such a time as this as Ms. Huffington says in the cover blurb. Thank you Ms. Nelson for a great read! I cannot wait for it to come out in paperback so I can carry a copy in my purse.
A great book that provides easy to understand codes for how to live your life.
I had a chance to review an early copy of this book in the late summer. I am a journalist for a major media outlet. My editorial board loved it too. What struck me was how broad, yet personal the author's message to women is. Truly cross-generational. Truly for ALL women. It transcends race, religion, region. I wasn't sure she could pull off a book targeted to ALL women about living life by a CODE. But Ms. Nelson had done it in a most excellent, compassionate, authentic, and sisterly way. I am a white woman in my late 30's--will be 40 next May. I have 3 sons, a husband. I am busy. Tired. Often worn out. This book helped me to find me again. I live in the southeastern USA. It's autumn. I started walking, making time to practice what the author calls: Silence, Gratitude, Acceptance each morning and it has shifted my energy. This book has EVERYTHING you ever wanted in a book as a woman. The codes are short but impactful. It is user friendly. I want it in paperback so I can carry it in my purse. The cover by the way is beautiful. To the author I want to say something: You live out CODE #15 Be Brave. Thank you for your heart (Code #6) and thank you for lifting the rest of us, ALL of us, as you climb (Code #17).