Sixteen-year-old Sophie has always had to look out for her bipolar mother, but when her mother is hospitalized, Sophie realizes she needs to live her own life.
|Publisher:||Whitman, Albert & Company|
|Product dimensions:||5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.90(d)|
|Age Range:||13 - 18 Years|
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On the fourth day of junior year, sometime between the second bell marking the start of chemistry class and the time I got home from school, my mother tried to kill herself.
* * *
This is how I find her:
I look for her when I come home, the way I always do, to say hello and tell her about my day. I head for her studio, which is what we call the little concrete-floored storage room in the basement of our building with our apartment number in marker on the plywood door. Our neighbors use their rooms for old chairs and crooked piles of boxes. Ours is almost empty except for my mother's easel in the center of the room and her paintings stacked against the walls. There's an ancient dresser next to the door, full of paints and colored pencils, paper clips and rubber bands and spare keys. The smell of paint hangs in the air and drifts under the plywood into the hallway.
The studio door is unlocked and I push it in without knocking, not wanting to interrupt my mother's work. A thin beam of light streams in from the window, not enough to paint by, and bright lamps in each corner cover the canvases in shadow and light. I expect to find my mother in her usual position, listening to classical music with the volume all the way up, right hand gripping her paintbrush, left hand moving as if she's conducting the violins and violas right through her stereo. She was there when I left for school this morning. She's been there every day and night for weeks, hardly sleeping, just painting.
My mother always paints when she's manic.
But not today. The studio is empty except for the half-done painting sitting on the easel, a blur of strong colors that looks to me like a woman running along a sunset beach. I can't tell whether the woman is fleeing or chasing.
Something about the painting feels off-balance to me, like a sentence stopped in the middle.
"Mom?" I ask, even though I can see she's not here.
I shut the studio door and head for the stairs in a walk that's almost a run. The painting looks abandoned in the empty, unlocked room.
My backpack thumps against my back, my shoes slap unevenly against the steps, my breath huffs out, all in the rhythm of hurry, hurry, hurry. Some kids barrel into the stairwell on their way to play in what passes for a yard outside our building. I stumble into them and grab onto a higher step. One of the kids, a neighbor I babysit after school sometimes, calls out to me, but I don't answer. As soon as they're out of sight, I move even faster. Hurry, hurry. My leg muscles start to burn.
Finally, I get to the top floor, second-to-last door. I unlock it and rush into our apartment, my backpack still on. The place is chaotic. Since school started, I haven't had a chance to clean, and my mother never does. There's a trio of used coffee mugs on the table where we keep the mail, next to a teetering pile of envelopes and magazine subscription cards. My feet crinkle against shiny scraps of paper on the carpet. They're everywhere, as if a blizzard's worth of shredded catalogs snowed in our apartment while I was at school. I imagine my mother cutting them up, planning some kind of collage.
Where is she?
"Mom?" I ask the empty air of our apartment. Then I shout. "Mom!" She doesn't answer. I move faster, toward the bedroom with her queen-sized bed in one corner and my twin bed in the other. My stomach swoops with nerves. Would I rather find her there or not know where she's gone? I'm not sure, and my feet keep moving forward without giving me a chance to think about it.
But when I get to the bedroom, my eyes get stuck on the numbers on the bedside clock. The clock face and I stare at each other, a contest I know I'll lose, for seconds that feel longer than they are. My eyes must know something the rest of me doesn't, because they won't let me look just those few inches farther to the left, toward my mother's bed. It's 3:34 p.m. The colon blinks at me: 3:34.
"Mom?" I say again.
There's still no answer, and when I force my eyes away from the clock, the first thing I see are her legs, dangling off the bed from the knees down, feet stopped just a few inches short of the floor as if resting themselves on the solid silence instead. I follow her legs upward to the rest of her, slanted across the bed, her head half on one pillow. Her eyes are closed, hair hanging ragged and long past the pale face I've noticed getting thinner again in the last few weeks. Her breath is so shallow I can't tell it's there at all until I put my ear right up against her mouth. Then some air tickles my cheek. I don't laugh.
When I look up, my hair drops off my shoulder and brushes against my mother's face. She doesn't stir.
There are the pills right in front of me. A few spill across her night table from a prescription bottle I don't recognize, its twisted-off childproof cap sitting nearby. And there's the glass. Just a regular kitchen glass with an inch of tap water at the bottom.
Terror crawls up through my stomach, stretches along my throat, and creeps into my mouth as I reach for the phone and press three numbers.
"My mom," I think I say, and "pills ... half a bottle ..."
Somehow, I get out enough complete thoughts to communicate the nature of my emergency. I confirm my address. Then I climb onto the bed, scrambling like a child much smaller than I am, and grab my mother's hand. I hold it until the sirens come.
"Would you like us to call someone for you?"
There's a nurse in mint-green scrubs standing in front of me, and I sit up so fast I bang my head on a poster. The frame rattles against the wall behind my head. Metal. I can't seem to take a deep enough breath, and my stomach turns over while I wait for the nurse to tell me how my mother is doing.
"Oof, that looked like it hurt," the nurse says instead. "Are you all right?"
Her words travel to me slowly, warped like I'm hearing her from the other side of a pane of glass. I blink. I'm in a hospital waiting room, on a tough vinyl chair with a hole in the seat. Before that I was in an ambulance, rocketing from my apartment to here. How did I get from that ambulance to this chair?
There are more important questions that crowd that one out. Will my mother be okay? Where is she right now? Where did she get that bottle of pills?
Why didn't I know she had it?
"Your mother is going to be fine," the nurse says. I breathe more easily, in, out, in. The word settles into my stomach. Fine. Was she fine before?
The nurse looks at her clipboard to make sure she has my relationship to the patient right. I nod at her that she does. She tells me we've been lucky; my mother's just going to need to stay in the hospital for a little while.
It doesn't seem like the right word. Still, a few of the knots in my stomach unravel.
Then they come back when I think about how much it will cost for my mother to stay in the hospital.
And when I open my mouth and move my lips, no sound comes out.
"Would you like us to call someone for you?" the nurse asks again. "Your mother can't receive visitors yet, and you might be more comfortable at home. We can make a call if you need your dad or someone else to pick you up." Her words are efficient, routine, but her eyes are soft. Does she make this offer to everyone, or is she making an exception for me?
I shake my head. Then I finally get some words out.
"No, thank you." The words are froggy, like I've gone longer than just the past hour without speaking. She can't call my dad because I have no idea who he is. Someone else? I remember my mother reciting instructions to me; me, at eleven, nodding solemnly. If anything ever happens to me, Sophie ...
I know where I have to go next. But I'd rather put off that phone call as long as possible.
I get up slowly, my jeans stuck to the backs of my legs. My bright blue backpack is still here, sitting on the chair next to me, and it makes me think of a puppy, loyally following me everywhere. My mother and I found it in a bin at a discount outlet store, and it has one badly sewn seam and someone else's initials — JKP — across the front. I sling it on, letting the weight of homework and textbooks settle onto my shoulders. I thank the nurse again and follow the exit signs out of the hospital. As I walk home, JKP's bag bounces against my back, keeping me company.
By the time I'm back on the top floor of our apartment complex, clicking the key into the lock, I've made a mental list of everything I need to do next. Wash the dirty coffee cups and take out the trash. Offer one of the neighbors any food from our fridge that might go bad. Tell the post office to hold our mail.
Pack two bags. One for my mother, one for me.
Clean up the pills on my mother's bedside table.
The first few chores are the same ones I do every day, and I start them mechanically, soaping the lime green sponge next to the sink and cleaning a plate, then letting the suds sit in last week's coffee mugs while I vacuum up the shredded catalog pieces from the front hall.
I'm so lost in my routine that I take a package of ground beef out of the fridge and unwrap it, preparing to make dinner. I do this — make dinner — every night. Every normal night. Now, as I stand in the empty kitchen with the light off, one hand holding a clump of ground beef, the memory of those nights drifts toward me through the dark.
* * *
My mother came into the kitchen when I was halfway through shaping the beef into patties, my hands goopy over the sink. She half danced, half walked into the room and dropped into a chair.
"Homework done?" she asked. I shrugged, but she didn't notice, already on her next thought. "Of course you've finished your homework already. Why do I even ask that anymore? It's always done."
I grinned at her over my shoulder. My mother assumed my work was done because I was a good student. I never told her it was because homework was the easiest part of my day, the only thing I could dash through without caring how it turned out.
I heard her hop up from the chair and start moving again, probably twirling around the table with her hair whipping out behind her. Even in her worn painting pants and baggy sweater, she moved like she was wearing floaty summer skirts.
"Good painting?" I asked without turning away from the counter. I reached up to the cabinet for garlic powder and salt. I hesitated, looking over the rest of the spices, then grabbed the chili powder too.
"Hmm," my mother said. It was her usual answer, noncommittal, but I liked to think it meant she'd had a good day in her studio. I pictured her down there, arms flying, music playing, the old cushion on the floor in the corner where I would sit and draw while she worked.
Here, in the kitchen, she walk-danced closer to me. "What's for dinner, Sophie?" Her tone was teasing, like she knew what we were having but wanted to make me say it, like it was the setup for a joke.
"Burgers, again?" She tried to sound fed up, but she couldn't quite keep the smile out of her voice.
"Yes, burgers again," I said. But I couldn't keep a straight face either. I dropped the patty I was holding and reached toward my mother. She skipped out of the way, laughing, before my goopy fingers could grab her. I laughed too. I put my elbow down on the counter so I wouldn't lose my balance. Then I waved the chili powder at her, to show they wouldn't be exactly the same burgers as usual. I flicked the cap open and started to sprinkle the spice on the patty in a swirly pattern.
My mother stopped in front of the fridge, which hummed and thunked like it was part of our game. I covered a plate with a paper towel and set the burgers down. But before I could heat up the pan, my mother opened the freezer.
"Don't do that just yet," came her voice from behind the door. Ice-cold air wafted into the room. I turned to face my mother's voice and saw the bright orange streak across the white freezer. It began as a handprint and trailed off into a smear. My fault, an accident when we repainted the kitchen walls last year. I had started to wash it off right away, but my mother stopped me.
"It's like something you would have done when you were little, finger-painting with your friends," she'd said. "Let's keep it."
I'd wanted to ask what friends? I'd pictured Leila and James. Their tinier, rounder-cheeked kid faces, the way they were in our finger-painting days, not the way they looked now when I passed them in the halls at school, as they moved in groups of friends and I walked by myself. I'd winced, thinking of them. But I had stopped scraping the paint away.
My mother had told me it looked cheerful in the kitchen light, like a spark.
"Why shouldn't I finish the burgers?" I asked the part of my mother I could see below the freezer door. I was playing along; I already had a good idea why my mother didn't want me to cook dinner yet. I turned on the tap with my arm so I could wash the gunk off my hands.
"Close your eyes," she said. I did, and I heard something thud onto the counter, then the softer sounds of plastic containers landing next to it, then a few glassy ringing noises and metallic clanks.
I wasn't surprised by what I saw, but I gasped and dropped my jaw anyway, and my mother's laugh bubbled up from her stomach. She looked like she wanted to clap her hands, so delighted I giggled too. On the counter, two bowls, two spoons, a carton of ice cream and an ice cream scoop, sprinkles, and a squeeze-top bottle of chocolate sauce. The ice cream was cookie dough, our favorite flavor.
"Dessert first!" my mother said. She sent a bowl across the counter to me with one hand, like a Frisbee, and flipped the lid off the ice cream carton with the other. Still laughing, we dug in.
I blink and realize I'm standing in a dim kitchen with a fistful of ground beef. I'm squeezing it so tightly juice is dripping down into the sink. I look behind me out of habit, but of course my mother isn't here, and tonight I don't need to make dinner. Without the lights on in the kitchen, the orange paint on the freezer door is just a dull streak, ugly, not little kid cute. What am I doing?
I toss the beef in the garbage and think about the things still left on my list. Take out the trash.
Clean up the pills.
Pack the bags.
This scene could be a photograph: me, standing on a porch, slightly off-center between two white wooden columns. My back is to the camera, long sleeves and jeans covering my tall, thin frame. My left hand is in front of me, reaching for the bell. The sleeve has fallen away to reveal the threaded bracelet on my wrist, made of leftover supplies from an art class my mother taught last year. My right arm stretches behind me, holding the pulled-up handle of a black wheely suitcase. The suitcase looks old, a few dusty footprints across the front, and on top of it is a duffel bag, not quite balanced. The last of the day's sun slants onto the bright green lawn behind me. The photo could be called Arrival. Or maybe Visitor.
Then I hear my mother's voice in my mind. It needs more shadow, Sophie. Suddenly it's a painting, not a photo, and she's reaching in to dab some gray and black here and there, edging the columns, deepening the sky. Now there are a million hidden layers to the scene.
Thinking about it, about my mother, I flinch — and that's when the door opens.
My cousin Leila stands there in the outfit I recognize from school — lavender tank top, gray sweater, dark gray skirt, high black boots. Eye makeup, even though it's just a Tuesday evening. I guess maybe she's on the way out to practice with her band.
We're the same height and have the same shade of dark brown hair, but mine hangs wearily down my back, split at the ends, while hers bounces along her shoulders. After the startled moment when she opens the door and finds me there, we avoid each other's eyes.
We're good at that. We've been doing it for years.
Leila opens the door wider and steps back, holding onto the knob as I twist my suitcase through the door.
"Sophie, I'm —" she says, as I finish wrestling the bag inside and start to pull it along the hardwood floor. The squeaking of the wheels drowns out Leila's voice. She's what? Sorry? Glad to see me? Knowing her, neither expression seems likely. I don't prompt her for the rest of her sentence.
Leila is still looking at the floor when Aunt Cynthia hurries down the stairs, her feet coming into view first, then her neatly pressed pants and sweater set and pinned-back hair. I know she wears fancier suits to work, but she still looks like she could be on her way to an office.
Excerpted from "This Is How I Find Her"
Copyright © 2013 Sara Polsky.
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My actual rating of this book is probably around a 3.5. When it comes to this book I’ve got some seriously mixed feelings. Having grown up with both a bipolar father & mother, I was looking for, and expecting, a story that I could relate to that would reach me on an emotional level. Unfortunately that was not the case for me. While I could feel sympathy for Sophie, the book failed to pull any emotion out of me until about 2/3 of the way through the story. The writing itself was average. It wasn’t bad but it was a little too simplistic for my tastes at times. The bare bones conciseness may have been intended to show how numb, bleak and lonely Sophie’s life is but instead it caused the characters to fall flat for me, especially Sophie. While I definitely sympathized with her, I found her lack of emotion-whether it be anger, grief, joy, really any emotion, to be unbelievable and unrelatable. While I could understand Sophie’s initial numbness being a result of her shock and possibly some PTSD, I really felt as if she took too long to start breaking down those walls and showing real emotion which in turn made it impossible fore me to feel any emotion for her. While I do think that the growth she went through in this book after moving in with her Aunt Cynthia was well done, by the time she started standing up for herself and not blaming herself for the situation with her mother it was too little too late. The relationship in the book that really worked for me, and that I could relate to was the one between Sophie and her cousin Leila. The pain of losing your best friend because your caught between your parents, growing apart because your interests no longer merge and all of those difficult things that happen when you’re growing up, especially when your family essentially isolates you. While I didn’t love the character of Leila, I did love the way the author portrayed her relationship with Sophie and found their re-connection to be very organic. I do feel as if the author did represent bipolar disorder in an honest way. The writing style and lack of character development just didn’t work for me and made it impossible for me to emotionally connect with the characters and story. I received my copy of This Is How I Find Her as an eARC free from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
A well written and compelling novel about a girl, Sophie, whose mother has bipolar disorder. The book explores how her relationships and family are affected, and how Sophie learns to ask for help from those who care about her. There need to be more books like this for young people.
3.5 Stars Though this story deals with heavy themes such as suicide and depression, I found that it didn't leave me with an oppressive feeling as similar books have in the past. Instead I found this novel to be more quiet and thoughtful. It can be sad and even heartbreaking, in parts, the way it looks at how trauma can influence or change one's way of looking at the world, but there is also an underlying sense of hope to the whole thing. I could relate to Sophie's struggles with that feeling of life getting in the way of life sometimes -- when something stressful or traumatic that you feel requires all your attention is going on, yet you still have to go to school or work and act like everything is a-okay even though there's a damn crisis going on out there people! Sophie's story also illustrates the value of a person being able to fearlessly communicate their wants and needs and how, in times of conflict, it's only natural to get nostalgic for what we perceive as simpler past times (when in reality those rosy-hued days more than likely had their share of conflict then too). While I didn't always agree with some of the statements made in this novel -- like Uncle John saying "people wouldn't ask if they didn't really want to know", sorry I call BS, in the real world, people ask stuff merely out of politeness, and then tune out your response, all the time! -- I really enjoy this story for the food for thought it provides the reader on some tough topics that need more open and honest discussion. I found Polsky's novel to be an honest look at depression through the eyes of a teen without it being too heavy-handed, to the point where it might trigger MY depression!