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Till There Was You - An Adoption Expectancy Journal based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
A lot of this book dealt with a parents feelings that adoption was o.k. and that it was o.k. not to be pregnant. I wish that it would have been more open. Every page has a thing you were suppose to write on.
I like the idea of recording feelings and thoughts prior to the day the baby arrives and marvel why my husband and I hadn¿t done so. I wish we had had a book like this. I think the author¿s likening the pre-adoption waiting period to a ¿pregnancy¿ should not be misinterpreted as a denial that adoptive parenting is different from biological parenting but rather as a clever literary device or at any rate as a time of reflection of sorting out, during each trimester, the issues of infertility, the complexities of entitlement and the final hours of waiting. I personally never tried to deny that our daughter was given birth by another woman but can confess this much: My excitement during the year of waiting and then, in the end of sitting by the telephone waiting for our agency to inform us of the birth---all this turmoil made me experience what I can only classify as first stage labor pains! Of course, not everyone who adopts is married and not everyone adopts an infant, and so Rebecca Gold's book may for some readers not be general enough. But then, it is not possible to please everyone by including all aspects of adoption. Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?