Domestic violence and stalking related crimes are being dismissed in a flurry of shuffled divorcedocuments and court orders of protection. You cannot plead with an abuser and walk away frompotentially life threatening situations if you are unable to learn the steps necessary to protect yourself.
In this straight forward, clearly written guidebook, veteran violence safety expert Susan MurphyMilano provides victims the tools and support they require to face this debilitating problem andtake the necessary steps to regain control of their lives.
Victims and those going through divorce now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser.
Like our own individual fingerprints, no two crimes against a victim are the same. An abuser isclever like a fox and this book will teach you the techniques to be ten steps ahead before a threatagainst your life can be carried out against you or your children.
With the Evidentiary Abuse affidavit provided in this book a victim will be able to provide legaldocumentation and answers, allegations and fears that arise when a person has disappeared whenthey announce the relationship is ending, gone missing or have been found dead. You will be ableto properly document and describe:
-Threats made against your life or well being,
-Incidents of past abuse that a victim had endured
-Admissions of how a threat will be carried out against a victim once they announce they are leaving or filing for a divorce
-Where evidence or weapons would or could be located
-Portray visible injuries or marks
-Determine how to begin and continue through the complex maze a victim faces with policeand prosecutors-How to leave a Perpetrator-How to collect evidence "on the fly"
How to begin and continue on the road to safety using a virtual toolbox of techniques
How family and friends can be crucial in this process
Using the creative approaches developed in this ground breaking guide book by Susan Murphy-Milano will take the victims from the State of being controlled to the "State of being in control."
Susan is the author of Defending Our Lives, Getting From Domestic Violence and Staying Safeand Moving Out Moving On when a Relationship Goes Wrong Workbook.
"There is nothing like this out there. The reason this book is so valuable is that it's the first book to provide step-by step procedures and structure to protect everyone from dangerous and abusive relationships" -Rev. Jennifer Burns Lewis, Pastor
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Time's Up walks survivors through the whole process of setting up an evidentiary affidavit. This book is a necessary must read and a needed tool. It should be in the office of every advocate, clergyperson, shelter professionals and anyone else who works with survivors of domestic violence. Susan Murphy-Milano is a nationally recognized advocate who fights for victims of domestic violence. Now, she gives survivors a needed tool to help them help themselves. If you haven't bought it yet you should. Time's Up.
This book is amazing. It's literally a step by step guide on how to get out safely and get on with your life. Loaded with how to's and resources as well as one of the book's key components - the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit - documentation which will lead law enforcement directly to an abuser who might have otherwise gotten away with their crimes. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship - or you work for an agency that involves victims of domestic violence, you need this book. Truthfully, this is a must read for everyone - education is key.